Waldens Wits
Sunday, March 12, 2006 at 11:13 PM
It's Not About the What-If's

Posted in Homeschooling

We live in a dual-income society. It's a sad fact. My wife is qualified to run accounts for a small firm, yet her heart's longing is to be a homeschooling mom. For the past six years or so, we have been blessed to be able to homeschool our children. Her heart is to stay at home with her children and be a mother to them. I can't blame her. My last six months as a self-employed dad and working from home has allowed me to see the richness of the relationships fostered here and the other blessings afforded by her work as a homeschooling mom. I couldn't live with the thought of having her leave her children and go back to the corporate workforce. It would tear me up inside knowing she's giving up what she so deeply desires.

We have two opportunities for my profession in front of us, and either one looks shaky at best. I want to do what God is calling me to do. Pursuing both is also an option, but I'm really not sure how they will fit together. That's not my main concern, however. What concerns me the most is the timing. What if this doesn't work out? What if I can't make my mortgage or utilities? What if our credit rating gets trashed? What if--what if--whatif-whatif-whatif???

My wife was driving to pick the kids up from their weekly activity today and she got the impression, "People spend too much time thinking about the what-if's and not about the I-AM." I am so blessed to have a wife that hears these things. Several times tonight as we've talked, we've come back to that single statement. It's not about the what-if's; it's about the I AM.

The day I was laid off from my job at the ministry, instead of tightening our belt and sinking into fear, we went out to dinner to celebrate the fact that God was going to do something great and that he was going to take care of our needs. We were feasting and celebrating because we knew God would be honored by our demonstration of faith and gratefulness for His decisive action to conclude that era in our lives. Tomorrow, my family and I will go out and celebrate again, not as some "faith gimmick" to somehow drive God to act, but to celebrate His blessings on us through 13 years of marriage. We have been changed by God in so many powerful and amazing ways. We desire God so much more now. We love to worship, we love to pray, we love to bless Him. Our lives are so much richer for it, not in possessions, but in relationships.

Comments

Monday, March 13, 2006 - Amen!

Posted by Steve Sensenig

My wife and I have a very similar perspective. Be strong in your faith!

steve :)

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Monday, March 13, 2006 - Awesome testimony, Steve

Posted by PatriciaWHunter

And we can relate. I am sure that many of our "friends" wondered why I didn't go back to work when Louis found himself suddenly unemployed after 23 years with the same company, but my husband knew that God would provide for us and that my "job" was at home. Have a wonderful celebration and we will stand with you in prayer for God to give you the wisdom you need for your decisions. Blessings in Christ ~ Patricia

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Monday, March 13, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by drewsfamilytx

While we didn't feast or anything like that when dh got furloughed from his job after 9/11, it was exciting (after the initial shock) to see how God would use this to bless us and bring us closer to Him.

God has always been faithful and loving to us because He is our Heavenly Father...He certainly wouldn't abandon us when we need him the most!

With the birth of each of our sons, God has changed dh's circumstances at work. And each time it was a true blessing and allowed my dh to spend TONS of time with our growing family and to bond with each new baby. I mean TONS of time-- like, Does your husband work for a living? He sure is home a lot! Yup, his job is different but GREAT right now, isn't it?!

Congrats on your 13 wonderful years of marriage! It sounds like you have a muy smartie wifey! And she is VERY right-- God has great plans and it can be very exciting to see things beginning to "move along" to an even better destination!

Marsha

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Monday, March 13, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by momof2

My husband was laid off from his job when I was 6 months pregnant with our second child. I never thought I would be excited that my husband was without a job but I was. We had some of the best times for those 2 months that he was without a steady job. God always provided for us. He actually made more money while he was working side jobs than he did when he had his full time job.

When you are doing what God wants you to do everything is wonderful, no matter what the world may think.

Congratulations on your wedding aniversary.

Naomi

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Tuesday, March 14, 2006 - Thank you...

Posted by SteveWalden

Thank you, Steve, Patricia, Marsha, and Naomi. I appreciate your encouragement!

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Tuesday, March 14, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by writmm

An inspirational post with much food for thought. Thanks!

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Thursday, March 16, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by mistresninos

Happy Anniversary.

Good reminder. Our focus does need to be on God. He is the one who will always provide for us because he is the one who cares for all our needs.

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