So we're at this graduation party for a daughter of my hubsand's co-worker.  People are talking about families with this one other co-worker saying when her daughter turns 3 they'll "consider" having another child "but only consider it".  (NOTE:  I'm not eavesdropping even though I'm not really included in the conversation.  We were there with our 4 kids but most of my husband's co-workers don't know about the baby to come yet.)  So, one of them starts talking about his wife's big family although I missed how many siblings he said she had.  Then he proceeds to say that he's one of 12 children.  Then the conversation goes like this:

Woman:  "So I see you didn't follow suit" (with a giggle, referring to the fact that he has only one child -- the one graduating)

Man:  "Are you kidding?  One doesn't recover from that.  We're lucky we had one."

One doesn't recover from that?  What kind of statement is that to make?  Children aren't curses, are they?  (Granted, some brothers and sisters may think their siblings are curses....)  Of course everyone around him laughed in agreement and the conversation quickly turned to how it's so irresponsible financially speaking to have lots of children these days.  I never did chime in although I did consider it at one point but I'm not yet sure how to talk about our God-given convictions with those who clearly aren't Christians.  I always sound judgemental and that's not Christ-like.  Anyway, I spent a lot of yesterday -- and even during church today -- dwelling on it and it just makes me sad.  How do I respond to such comments?    My heart is heavy....