Suga Mama on life with Chocolate Droplets
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Jun. 21, 2006
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TheLesson for today: Stand up fpr your self!!!
Let's
see... what happened today... oh yes, eye doctor appointment for all
four kids. The baby Zori (that's the first time I used one of my
kiddies real names... you should feel honored!) has Duane's Syndrome
in one of his eyes just like his Daddy. So that has to be monitored to
make sure that the vision in that eye doesn't diminish. After that we
went to Dunkin Doughnuts were the lesson for the day began to take
root.
I had a coupon for $1 off 50 Munchkins. (I know, I
know a big whooping savings, but a buck is a buck) So I told the guy
about the coupon and he acted like he didn't hear me. He filled the
order and rang up the total without subtracting the dollar. I reminded him of the coupon and tried to compensate for the language barrier ( I had not been using my Rosetta Stone like I should) in order to get my savings. Mind you, a line is forming behind me and I began to put the pressure of "holding people up"
on myself. The cashier had to read it for what felt like 15 minutes and
then call someone else over to give me my coupon savings. Even she
didn't take off a dollar. Instead of fighting it, I quietly took my
Munchkins, said thank you and tipped out the door.
Next
example of the lesson of the day came in the form of a friend. A friend
who threw her arm out of socket was asked by another friend to watch
her kids. The dislocated shoulder friend told me she was agonozing over
telling her friend that she couldn't watch her kids. She didn't want to
say no. I promptly found courage that I had lost in Dunkin Doughnuts,
and called the lady with kids and said my arm in the sling friend could
not watch her kids and was afraid of hurting her feelings to say so.
One minute I'm the Lion with no courage and the next I'm BraveHeart!!!
Go figure!!
Lastly, tonight on the phone with my sister, I am
trying to understand why her fiance has saved up all this money for a
house to move into in four weeks after they get married, but
still insists on moving in with one of their parents to save money???
She explained the need for privacy in a new marriage and wanted them to
move into an apartment untill they find a house, but he does not want
to do that. Moving in with his parents is a nightmare waiting to happen
for various reasons (that I should not share with thousands of total
strangers). Moving into my parents home isn't that much better, but at
least they would have the upper apartment (Its a duplex) with its own
kitchen, living room and bath. (Albeit the bedroom is directly
above my parents ......) (My sister is currently living there
now) The only problem there is my sister's friend who has been living
in the smaller bedroom for a couple of years now. It ain't cool to be
with your new husband when your single girlfriend is living in
the bedroom next door!!! SHE GOTTA GO!!
So, I told my lil
sis to send her packing (in a nice way). My sistah begins with
,"Wouldn't it be unfair to her?" And I'm thinking, are you crazy, its
time to think about you and what kind of marriage you are gonna have!!!! Give her 4 weeks notice and she can find another place to live.
Although I was frustrated by my sister's lack of ... oh I don't know
what to call it.... selfishness for lack of a better word, I was more
struck by how much I do the same thing. Compassion and common courtesy
is one thing, not giving yourself what you need is unhealthy. So,
I have made a resolution.
AS OF JUNE 21, 2006 AT 11:15, I WILL NO LONGER PUT MY SELF IN HARMS WAY, NEGLECT MYSELF OR ( AND THIS IS WHAT IT REALLY BOILS DOWN TO ) IGNORE THE GOD GIVEN PLACE I HAVE IN THIS WORLD TO BE AND TO RESPECTFULLY HAVE MY NEEDS MET.
I can choose to be unhealthy or healthy. I choose to be healthy, I choose life!
Suga
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