Published on June 16, 2007 at 4:22 PMExpectations...
This Article was published in Reflections of a 17 year old girl on her way to becoming a Woman of God
Before I get to the post, I would like to say that if you cannot do the SSA group because you can't give out your home addy, that is fine. We can just do email. The only reason I asked for home addy's was, so that you could get gifts, or cards at your home from your SSA. Let me know if you would like to do just email. I should have thought of that sooner, huh??
Now... to the thought provoking post:
When we went to Jo-Ann Fabrics for Jocelyn’s birthday, I saw a strange site. One that you would not expect to see at a fabric store in America in the year 2007. Well, at least not one I expected to see...
I saw about 7 teenage girls with their prom dresses getting material, clasps, ribbons, and other such things. It struck me as odd because it is not something most teenage girls of this age would do.
The one group of two daughters and a mother (which is weird in itself, according to worldly standards) were specifically getting some ribbon and clasps. The mom had gotten the clasps and was trying to close up the front of the dress. I am going to try my best to describe the dress. It was strapless. The front was really low and looked like a push up bra. So the mom had the clasps she was trying to get a small enough one to close up the space in front. While the daughters were getting some ribbon to make straps with. The ribbon was sequined.
I was truly dumbfounded. To most people that dress would be modest I am sure. But here was this mom and daughters trying to cover up more of this dress. Yes, I am sure it was still immodest when they had closed it up and put the straps on, but it was more modest than before.
What Hollywood and fashion designers don’t get is that when they sell these dresses, they aren’t being sold because of how showy they are. The people that buy them, like what they are getting, but want to make it less showy. The makers of the dress think they have American teen girls figured out. They think they want these dresses that are immodest, when really they don’t.
The world expects these girls to want their clothes to be immodest because that is what everyone is wearing. They know that most teenage girls aren't gonna go against the crowd and pick a modest dress. So they just cater these girls to what they know they will give in to.
If you asked girls what they really wanted, aside from peer pressure, I think you would find that they don’t want to be immodest. They want what is right. They want to be pure, but society tells them that is unfashionable to be modest and since they don’t have the faith in God, nor the confidence in themselves, they fall into the world of "I just have to buy what is fashionable, cause I don’t want to be unpopular."
One brand of clothing that we have found is called "Anxiety". It is very immodest clothing, and Mom and I have found the reason it is called "Anxiety": It gives anxiety to the parents of the girls who wear these clothes.
I hate the summer time. Don't get me wrong, I love the weather, the flowers, the sun... but I HATE all the half dressed people that just think its normal to go to the store in a bikini top and short shorts. And its not only the unsaved that are dressed like that. Its all the Christians too.
This past week when I went to town for our daily 64oz pop fill, we drove by a girl's house that used to be my friend. Anyway, when we went by she had just come out of the door, and she had on the tiniest bikini top I had ever seen. Now this is supposed to be a Christian 20yo. It was really gross. So on our way back home, I was coming up a hill and saw their house. A truck had been pulled up to the porch and a person was in the back of it, shoveling something. I thought it was a guy, because it looked like he had no shirt on. But it was the girl. Her strap was so tiny I could even see it. It was sad to see. I mean, what kind of example she is showing of being a Christian?? That is not what God wants. I was seriously appalled. It was so enlightening to know that I have changed and am not like that anymore!! I thank God daily for it. I am so happy that I am not friends with them anymore. I know I would not be the person I am today if I had stayed friends.
I have THE HARDEST time finding clothes. I cannot find a shirt that is loose and not tight to save my life, most of the time. I usually have to get a woman’s or an extra large juniors. It is pathetic. I hate it. And I cannot find jeans either. NO WAY!! All the clothes are too tight. It is so hard to live in this world sometimes.
As I was thinking on this subject, I came to some questions...
Do you want to be what the world or people expect?? Or do you want to set the expectations for others?? So they know that YOU aren't what they expected... you are more. I don't want to meet worldly expectations. I want to set Godly ones for myself and others. I want to show them that there is better expectations than wanting to be what the world thinks is right or acceptable.
I want people to know that I am not just one that follows the crowd, I am one that follows GOD!! It is hard sometimes to wear modest clothes, when you go to town and everyone stares at you or laughs at you, but I know I have a higher calling than to just be fashionable in the eyes of the world. With that thought I can easily go to the store in a modest skirt, and shirt.
God has called us to be set apart from the world, and that is what my goal in life is. Be one that follows God's Standard.
Love...
Thanks for stopping by "Daily" at the "Planet"!!
©AmandaDixon2007
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June 16, 2007 at 5:39 PM...Untitled Comment
 Commented by totustuus
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I totally know what you mean about finding modest clothes!! Shopping is a nightmare. I can't believe some of the things that girl's wear!! It makes me so sad. I have blogged about modesty before, but I think I'm going to have to do it again, sometime. Like you said, a lot of Christian girls dress really immodestly, too. I've found a couple of good places to shop to find modest clothes, but it's still hard.
Have you ever seen the modesty survey at therebelution.com? It is SUCH a great resource, and it has a lot of great comments from anonymous Christian guys on how girl's clothes affect them. You should check it out if you haven't already!!
God bless you for taking a stand on something so unpopular!! You keep sticking to your guns. We can help make modest clothing fashionable. :-)
-Sylvia
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June 16, 2007 at 5:44 PM...Untitled Comment
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Dear Amanda,
I just want to tell you how honored I am to know you. The desire to please God in all we say and do should be at the forefront of our spiritual walk. I don't hear judgment in what you wrote, but a profound sadness for girls of your generation. I'm thankful for the discernment that the Lord has given you and pray that He will continue to make you sensitive to His voice.
I think my Great Great Grandmother would roll over in her grave if she could see the way girls undress in public. It is so beyond my comprehension at how far this society has come and how far it is willing to go. Something I am seeing is that the base nature of mankind is nothing to be compared with the true beauty of a renewed spirit that comes from a relationship with Jesus Christ. When you realize that you have been bought with a price and you are not your own, and that you are loved with an everlasting love, you do not need to go searching for self-worth in worthless things or the need to conform to a standard that is anything less then your conscious dictates.
May God bless you and keep you. I think about the scripture from Philippians 4:8 that is so powerful:"Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things."
Be encouraged as you dwell on these things.
Love,
Mrs. Novak
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June 16, 2007 at 6:22 PM...Untitled Comment
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Whoo! Guess what? I talked to my parents about the SSA and they feel like it's ok! Yea! Ok, so tell me again what I have to do. *happy dance*
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June 16, 2007 at 6:27 PM...Untitled Comment
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And your thoughts on the dressing habits of today's girls are true. I read about these girls that got so fed up with the general immodesty of the clothes of a certain store they frequented that they started a petition. And the petition got so much attention that the store had to listent to them. And now that paticular store only sells clothes that have passed the petitioner's set standards!
I thought that was a neat example of just a few people standing for what they believe in.
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June 16, 2007 at 8:29 PM...Untitled Comment
June 16, 2007 at 8:37 PM...<i>Untitled Comment</i>
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Hello Amanda! :-)
Great post! That's interesting that the girls were making their dresses more modest. And I agree; I hate the summertime clothing. Yes, it's hot out. Here, it can get to 110*. But still! I don't go around in a bikini top!! I find ways to dress without getting hot, and still be modest.
I have trouble finding clothes too. I mostly wear skirts that I've found at various stores. I usually only wear pants around the house.
I'm thinking about joining SSA. :-) I need to ask my parents. It sounds fun, though! I'll e-mail you if I'm allowed, okay? :-)
Hugs,
Becca
Edited by giftedgirl on June 16, 2007 at 7:41 PM
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June 16, 2007 at 9:54 PM...Untitled Comment
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Hey, if you can't be a farmer person you shouldn't read farm people's blogs! Just kidding, but for real, blood and cutting off roster spurs are just a part of life. I've got to make sure I don't marry someone who can't handle blood!
So when do I get to host the carnival?
There is no rush, and I'm still trying to think of subjects for Jocelyn to write on. I might call y'all later on a three way with Paul.
Geek is not a language, it's more of a life style. I don't think you measure up to the requirements. On the other hand, most of us are blog geeks.
Oh, ok.
Yep, TLB comes out in 2030. They really want to make all of them.
You're right, names aren't copyrighted.
Actually that goal is a little short sited. Maybe I have higher standers *wink*
You have been on HSG longer then me, but not HSB! I was on here when your blog was in diapers! Figuratively speaking...
So y'all are going to move back to NM? That is so un-cool! I will never come to visit you then. Not that I come now, but that is just a side. I'll have to come visit when I can drive. Why don't you move to KY? They have more horse places then NM!
I know you weren't being mean, you were JK! (duh)
TTYT Maybe =D
Eric
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June 16, 2007 at 11:07 PM...Untitled Comment
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Yesterday I went to get a chai tea and the lady working at the stand (who is like 7 months pregnant) was wearing a spaghetti strap tank top that was so low cut that her entire bra showed... intentionally. I was aghast.
Then, today the girls and I went to a wedding and again I was amazed at the lack of clothing on the women there... not just in the bridal party, but even the pastor's adult daughter who was there with her newborn son. I am surprised that her hubby was okay with that, but I guess they all just see it as normal.
I am so thankful that my daughter willing submits to the modesty standards that our family holds and even gently lets me know if my shirt has slipped to low or such. (She says "TUG" to let me know when I need to give a quick tug up to my shirt!... in a very respectful and discreet way, of course. )
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June 17, 2007 at 2:36 AM...You have to see this post!
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Dearest Amanda - Oldest Daughter of Matt & Jacque
Older Sister to Jocelyn-16, Rachel-13, Eric-10, Hannah-7, Isaac-3, Caleb-23m, and Lucy-2 months.
you have to see this: http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/nancysnook/343498/
go on....check it out...it's just for your new group! Nancy
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June 18, 2007 at 12:20 PM...Untitled Comment
 Commented by TrickyNikki
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Yes! It can be SO hard to find modest clothing these days. I was shopping just the other day and couldn't find a thing.
I really want to do the SSA thing, but I don't think I should because my family travels a lot and I might end up neglecting my SSA and I would feel bad about that. I'll wait and see what my family has planned for this summer and get back to you. But I really do want to do it!!!
I'm doing really well. I need to post and will soon!
Love,
~Nikki
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June 18, 2007 at 3:19 PM...Untitled Comment
 Commented by mandygrace
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Excellent post! I think most girls who dress immodestly do so only because they feel they have to if they want to be popular or accepted by their peers. They don’t have anything to base their morals on, so they make decisions based on what the world thinks and what current trends are. It's sad. Good for you for speaking out against it!
-Mandy
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