Heart Broken...
Published on June 27, 2007 at 9:58 PM
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I am sincerely heart broken. I recently found out that one of my friends, who got married just last August, who is only 20 is divorced. How sad. The poor girl. It breaks my heart, because she is a friend. This could have all been avoided had her parents done the right thing. Please keep her in your prayers.
Last summer, she was supposed to get married. I did not receive an invitation, so I didn’t know for sure if she had indeed been married. The plan that I was told was that they would get married in August, and then go to college. So I did not see her for many months. I did think she got married.
Well when school got out, I saw her at her parents home all the time. I wondered if maybe she hadn’t gotten married. I saw her “husband” at his parent’s house also. (they live down the street.) It had been nagging me for some time to find out what had happened. I was not close with her, so I didn’t just call her up, being as I wasn’t invited to the wedding. But it was really something I wanted to know. I truly care for this girl, and did want to be a friend to her. So weeks went by and I still saw her at her house.
Last week, when Mom went to Dollar General to get some things, and she was there. She was now working there. So they established who Mom was, and then she asked after me (I was not there). So Mom came home, told me she saw her, and I asked Mom if she had asked her if she was a happy wife. Mom said no, and then I asked if she saw a ring. Mom said, she didn’t think so.
So I went into DG the other day, and she was at the register. While we were in line she saw me and waved and said hello, being as there were people in front of me. When I got up to her, she asked how I was, I asked how she was, she commented on what I was buying, junk food. She asked if we were going on a picnic, I said no we were just going to watch a movie. She said that sounded like fun. She was really sincere and I know she really cared to know how I was. Then I asked her if she got married. She said yes, with a smile. Then the smile faded, she lowered her voice and said , “but we got divorced.” My heart shattered for her. I had tears in my eyes. I had so not wanted to hear those words. I thought I had prepared myself for them, but when I heard them I was set back. She then went on to tell me that he was abusive to her and she was better off without him. I was so sad. I said how sorry I was. She finished checking me out, and as I went to grab my bags, I told her I would be praying for her.
Oh!! I was so upset. I got to the van and just cried. I was so taken back. All the way home, all I could think was “how could her parents let her marry him??”
I know for a fact her parents knew he was abusive. Her sister knew. When they got engaged, her sister told me that she hoped they wouldn’t get married, because he was mean to her.
Her parents were supposed to protect her and they didn’t. How could you let your daughter marry a man like that??
I got home and told Mom, and started crying again. It was so sad.
I have been thinking about her ever since. I cannot imagine what she is going through. I know she thought that this was “the one”. It breaks my heart.
I told Mom that when anyone has an interest in me, she had better make sure that she knows him. KNOWS HIM. All about him. I DO NOT want to end up like that. It’s not that I am afraid I will, because I believe God has a plan for my life. But it is a very important decision and I want to be sure without a doubt that he is the one.
Mothers and Fathers, you have an obligation, and a charge that God has given you. The charge to protect your daughters from ending up like this. I pray for all of the parents out there that when the time comes for your daughter to get married, that you will have inspected every aspect of her betrothed’s life. Talk to his parents about his attitudes, tempers, thoughts, lifestyle. Don’t just have your him come to you and ask for your permission to marry your daughter and say yes. Look into him. Make sure he will love your daughter all the days. He will treat her like a queen, and make her happy. Pray with your daughter everyday, that the one who comes for her is the one who God has chosen for her.
My prayer is that only one man comes to ask for me hand. The One. I don’t want to have many suitors to choose from. I want the one God has chosen. I want him to be the only one. I don’t want many because that means that they are not protecting their hearts for their wives they are looking for mine, which isn’t theirs. I don’t want to cause my brother to sin, by him thinking he loves me when God has someone else for him.
I am counting on my parents to make sure that whoever comes is the right one. They are my protectors til he does come. I trust they will follow God’s guidance in this decision.
Speaking of trusting your parents... One of the blogging rules at our house is to have your posts typed up beforehand. I am so thankful that is the rule. I was not able to get on the pc today before now. I was really worried that I would not have very much time to blog cause I would need to type something up. So when I came to my folder, I found some posts that I had typed up last week, when I had the time. I am so thankful that Mom made that rule. God knew we would have days when we couldn't get on to blog, so I am thankful that Mom listened to Him, when he told her that that was going to be one of the rules.
Being obedient is to MOST important thing. It is not something I am good at, but I am hoping and striving to getting better.
Being obedient when your parents are helping you find your future spouse, TRUST them and OBEY them with all your heart. It will turn out right in the end, if you do what your are supposed to!!
As Always...
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June 27, 2007 at 10:21 PM...Your friend who got divorced
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Hi! I just happened to see your blog when I clicked into this site from an email I got. Don't blame your friend's parents so much for this girl getting divorced. Every situation has two sides, and you don't know both of them. Remember that she was responsible for making this decision to get married, and as far as I can tell you weren't close enough to know if she sought the counsel of her parents, and if she did if she followed it. Be careful about making judgements about people and blaming them for things, even if you think you know all the facts (you still may not). It is only for God to judge - not us. Only He is aware of everything involved. Being a parent is a very difficult job, and giving advice gets even more complicated as the child gets older and becomes an adult. At that point you can give input, pray for them, and hope that those things and the years of training you gave them help them make a good decision - but they are going to make their own decision and there's nothing you can do about it. You are very wise to be obedient to your parents and want to seek their counsel, and I hope you'll continue. Remember that seeking and following God's will for your life is the most important thing. It is definitely more important than trying to figure out who you're going to marry. Keep your focus on God, and the rest will follow. It may not even be in His plan for you to get married. I always thought I would get married and have a big family, but so far I haven't and I'm almost 55. But when I was 36 and financially stable I started trying to adopt, and God blessed me with a wonderful Godly daughter who just turned 15. Although I tried to get her a sister or brother it wasn't in God's plan, but we both trust that His plan is the best for our lives and are excited to see what is going to happen in the future! Follow Him - you're in good hands!
Cheri
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June 27, 2007 at 11:31 PM...Oh my~
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That is such a wonderful post~ I agree fully with you when you say that it is the parents responsibility to make sure who their daughters marry is someone that will love them and treat them like a Queen. Shamefully, I admit that my parents did not do the right thing either. They didn't train us to be wives and mothers, only raised us the way they knew to be best; to get an education and go to work. Deep in my heart I wanted them to keep me from getting married, but I know I wouldn't listen to them or anyone, so I blame myself too. So many times I wish I could go back and do-over. I pray for my daughter, everyday, that we will help her to have the mate that God sends for her and none other. Thank you for this lesson, even though it brought tears to my eyes. Nancy
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June 28, 2007 at 8:20 AM...Untitled Comment
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Wow, that is really sad. I wonder if she was defiant towards her parents when she married him. I'm sure no parent (who knew that he was abusive) would willingly let their daughter marry a man like that. It is our responsibility as daughters to listen to our parents' counsel/orders.
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June 28, 2007 at 1:34 PM...Untitled Comment
June 28, 2007 at 3:36 PM...Untitled Comment
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That is such a sad story! Poor thing. So I'm guessing that your friend is living with her parents now?
It sounds like you're doing a good job of guarding your heart for now. That's good.
Love,
~Nikki
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June 28, 2007 at 7:33 PM...<i>Untitled Comment</i>
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Wow. That's terrible. It's especially terrible that her family knew that he was, or could be, abusive!! Why on earth would anyone allow their daughter, sister, or friend to walk blindly into a situation like that? I'll be praying for her as well. :-)
Thank you for offering the template to me! I'll take you up on it. :-) Do you want to just e-mail it to me?
You're one of my good friends on HSB too. I know lots of great people on here, but some of them are..... more great than others. :-)
I have to go..... I have a new entry to type up, and I need to send some e-mails. :-)
Hugs & Blessings,
Love,
Becca
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June 29, 2007 at 6:32 PM...That's sad...
Commented by IloveyouGod |
Oh Amanda, that is just so sad!! Divorce is such a terrible thing. I know how you are feeling.
Last year our step grandpa's son got divorce. He had two young daughters that would come to stay with us a few days on our beach vacation once a year, and my heart just went out to them when I found out that the parents had divorced. I'm sure they were heart-broken!
I agree 100% with you. It is SO important to know all about the young man before you commit your whole entire life in marriage with him. It's not just enough to know him now, but his past as well I think.
Thank you for your kind comment! You are so dear to me as well. Even though I have never met you in person, I'm sure you are such a sweet person and a great friend! I pray that God will always be close to your heart and that He'll send you the man of your dreams in His due time ;-)
Have a great day!
~Brooke~
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June 29, 2007 at 6:56 PM...Untitled Comment
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Oh, what a sad story. That breaks my heart just hearing about it and I didn't even know her. I hope she can find God through all this and some day find a man that she will have a godly happy relationship with.
I gave you the Blogging With a Purpose Award!
Yes, big kitchens are a definite. In fact, speaking of things to put in your kitchen, I found the PERFECT quote (at least for me!) for a kitchen the other day. I think I'm going to cross stitch it to put in my own kitchen when I have one one day. It's Shakespeare, and it's "‘Tis an ill cook that cannot lick his own fingers." I love it! Hehe.
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June 29, 2007 at 10:41 PM...Untitled Comment
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I am so sorry for your friend. I am thankful that you have the kind of relationship with your parents that you will trust them and they will protect you.
My heart is just aching for that poor girl.
As beautiful as a good marriage can be, it is still hard work and if the marriage is abusive and ugly in nature it is near to impossible... especially without God.
I will be praying for that young woman.
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June 30, 2007 at 3:03 AM...a note from Rose
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Hello Amanda,
I apologize for not commenting in quite sometime.
That is terribly sad. I would hope if I was in your friend's place that I would be wise enough to judge the young man's character. Poor girl.
I like the way you rearranged the template.
Love to hear from you,
Rose
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June 30, 2007 at 8:23 AM...Untitled Comment
June 30, 2007 at 12:53 PM...Post
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That wa sad. I will pray for her and her family. I love your blog! I really like watching The New Adventures of Superman with my family. Would you like to be friends with me? My blog is this
http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/Starlight/
Hope to hear from you soon....
~*Starlight*~
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June 30, 2007 at 7:02 PM...:(:(
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That is soooo sad!!! I hate when things happen like that! It's soo horrible that her parents would let her marry a man like that! What has our world come to????
Hope things are going well for you guys.
Blessings,
Liz
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July 2, 2007 at 11:41 AM...Untitled Comment
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YAY! It was so fun to see you guys!
When are you going to blog pictures?
I won't be able to write an entry until tomorrow. I'm going to post a TON of pictures!
:D
TTYL
Thanks for a great time!
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July 2, 2007 at 4:02 PM...Ok...
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this is a comment not a feedback, FYI!! JK! LOL!
I like stopping over and reading all your latest articles, even though they are really long!
Thanks for letting me go with you to the library to blog! And to get the drinks!
LOVE YOU LOTS!!!
Y.S.,
Rachel
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July 6, 2007 at 1:30 AM...Thank you
Commented by Amanda10Axelby |
Dear Amanda,
Thank you for your very encouraging posts to my blog. I really appreciate you taking the time out to read what I wrote and then send an email too.
I have just been reading your blog and enjoyed it very much. Keep up the good work.
You are blessed to live in such a wonderful family.
Thanks again.
Amanda
BTW Your parents also have great taste in names.
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July 8, 2007 at 1:06 AM...Amanda
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I hope that I am as close to my daughters when they are grown as you are to your mother. Many young ladies won't let their mothers tell them what they need to hear. Here's a big hug for you and a prayer for your friend. I pray that God would bless her and restore the time that the canker worm has eaten.
In His hands,
Carol
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Thoughts of Life Ahead...
Published on June 20, 2007 at 9:18 PM
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Something I have been thinking about alot lately is getting married. I just have the God given yearning inside to be a wife, mother, and homekeeper of my own home, and very soon. I don’t have alot of time left here at home, but I am trying to make the most of it. I have been thinking of things I want in my home. How I want things to be, what I want to do. Many thoughts run through my mind as I live day by day in my home with my Mom as our homekeeper.
I have been cooking alot lately, and when I am in the kitchen I dream of what my kitchen is going to be like, what dinners I will make, what dishes will I have, what cooking utensils, etc.
I have started making a mental list of things I want in my kitchen, and the rest of my home. I really should put it on paper, though.
Anyway... then I was in the barn and all the sudden I had this thought pop in my head: “Most parents save for a college fund... but I want my parents to save for my wedding/home fund.” It would be better spent money to buy me things for my home, then for me to go to college. I prob won’t need alot of money for my wedding because I want a simple wedding, but things I will want to furnish my home with is another story.
Like I have to have a KitchenAid mixer. We got Mom one for Christmas, and I don’t know how we got along without one before. It is so easy to mix eggs for scrambled eggs, mashed potatoes, cookie dough... I love it. A Pampered Chef Cheese knife, and stoneware. A food processor, iron skillets, etc.
I want to use Shaklee for vitamins, cleaners, and laundry. They are natural.
I want to use Partylite to decorate our home with.
I want to use cloth diapers with the babies. Which means I should start making them now.
There is so many things I want/need for my home that will make it much easier to be the wife/mom/homekeeper that I need to be.
I need to make a hope chest to put things I will need in it. I don’t have one right now. Just my closet.
Mom and I were talking about the above said thought... and she brought up the point that if I am courted, then we will have a year or so before we get married to get everything for our home. She said wouldn’t it be so wonderful if while I was being courted my betrothed would build our house exactly how I wanted it. It would mean so much more if I said I wanted an island in the kitchen and he built with his own hands, instead of going to a real estate agent and finding a house and saying, “Oh I think you would like this house.” He could say, “here is your island that you wanted. Exactly how you said. I built only for you.” That would mean the world to a girl who is going to get married. Then she would know that he was the one God had intended for her.
I am so excited that I am going to get married to a man God has hand picked for me. I am praying everyday that I can be the best wife to him. I am going to make a list of things that I would like us to do as husband and wife, and as a family. I want to be prepared for my life ahead. I am still in my training ground now, and am in a great place to be trained for my life ahead. My mom is a great example of what a homekeeper should be, what a wife should be, what a mom should be. Sure she has her days, and I know I will too, but I pray that we can help each other when those days come. I am so thankful for the mother I have. God always does what is best for us, even when we don’t.
I seriously can’t wait to be married. I love thinking of what my life ahead is going to be like.
I have another post about Waiting for Husband for my next blog day. It correlates with this one. I hope you were encouraged to do all that you can before you get married. Your future spouse will appreciate it.
As always,
Thanks for stopping by "Daily" at the "Planet"!!
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June 20, 2007 at 9:45 PM...Amanda,
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That is so great that you are preparing for your future married life!! I think that you'll definitely be grateful for it later on. I know a lady who, when she got married, didn't know how to cook or do laundry or anything!! Now, she is training her daughters to be homekeepers so that they will be ready for their life when they get married.
Keep up the good work!! And remember to drench EVERYTHING in fervent prayer. :-)
God Bless,
<333 Sylvia
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June 20, 2007 at 9:54 PM...Untitled Comment
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hey
i think it is ver coll that you want to be a stay at home mom and rais your kids the way that God wants you to. I am 15 and I prettymuch think the same way and i dont meet alot of people that think the same way
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June 20, 2007 at 11:48 PM...Untitled Comment
June 21, 2007 at 12:40 AM...Untitled Comment
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Well it sounds like you're on the right track for becoming a wife/mother/homekeeper. I think you will do a great job at all three!
I read your post about Caleb's B-day. Happy (belated) birthday to your little brother!
Love,
~Nikki
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June 21, 2007 at 11:42 AM...Note from Brielle
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Hello SuperAngel,
Thank you for your comment….I’m sorry it has taken me so long to get back to you.
I love Gone with the Wind too…the costumes are incredible. I think my favorite of Scarlett’s is her green velvet curtain dress.
I enjoyed reading your post…I think about those things too, Kitchen Aid mixers are the very best! Ours is wonderful. My favorite is the sage green colored one.
Hope chests are such a wonderful tradition…I’ve started putting some things into mine, dishes, crocheted lace, baby blankets, silver…. I love the thought of saving things and collecting items for that special time when I’ll be creating my own home.
Thank you for the great post…
I hope you have a wonderful day!
Sincerely,
Brielle
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June 21, 2007 at 11:47 AM...Hello Amanda! :-)
Commented by giftedgirl |
I agree; skirts are much cooler than shorts. And I always feel so.... uncomfortable in shorts.
My Mama said that I can do SSA! :-)
I know what you mean about planning for your future life as a wife, mother, and homemaker. Mama said that she plans to buy things for my kitchen from Pampered Chef, (She has a few PC parties that her friends are doing to go to this year), and whenever I use, say, a certain knife or pot, I put it on a "list" of things I would like to have for my kitchen. I want a KitchenAid too! We've had ours for, oh goodness, a long time. I love it! :-)
I'm trying to increase my knowledge of herbs and healthy eating and such so I can treat my family's wounds, feed them, take care of them in natural ways.
I have a ways to go before I get married, since I'm only 14. But if my plans and desires go along with God's will for me, I'll be married by the time I'm 20 or so. :-)
Blessings,
Becca
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June 21, 2007 at 2:47 PM...Untitled Comment
Commented by IloveyouGod |
What a great post! I love hearing your thoughts and entries on these kind of issues!!
I can't wait to get married either. It's so much fun saving things and writing down things you want for the future...I have lists also of what I want to do with my family and husband, and even a list of baby names! lol
By the way, we use Shaklee too ;-)
Can't wait for the next post!!
Luv, Brooke
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June 21, 2007 at 5:32 PM...Untitled Comment
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LOL, Yeah, I'll bring my sheath up IF we come. :D
I said MAYBE 'cause we weren't quite sure at first but now it looks like we are coming. YAY!
:D
The train ride is tomorrow. I'll get lots of pictures! It should be fun.
Oh, I see. Well it's the thought that counts. ;-)
Can you send me the URL to it?
I keep falling off the front page of HSGold and then climb back up and then fall. LOL. I want to say put! :D
I hope I can buy a toy phone for Caleb before we come up there. :D Hope to here from you guys soon.
-Paulie
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June 21, 2007 at 5:34 PM...Untitled Comment
June 21, 2007 at 10:11 PM...Untitled Comment
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Ok, well maybe saying gross, and handling blood are two different things. But, the blood on my blog wasn't gross, I black and whited it!
Yes, check and get back to me, I really want to do that.
Yeah, we need to talk about NJAO soon.
You did?
There are 7 books, so it takes a bit long to make all of them. And its Disney, so it takes them a long time to make a good movie. If you add all of the movies up with a 2 year time frame for each one, then it comes out to 2019, but with complications, it could turn out to be 2023 or around there. Maybe 2030, but I don't think so now. If it is 2019, I'll be 28!
Well maybe your blog was a star, becouse you didn't even have one when I started =D
Don't talk to me about that AZ, NM thing! ;)
What drivers permit post?
KY is the total thoroughbred kingdom! They have thousands of horses! Not that NM doesn't, but KY is horse kingdom! I can't find any stats, but KY probably has more horses then NM. Horses are THE business in KY.
It didn't make me mad. =D but the Lols are getting kinda crazy...
Eric
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June 21, 2007 at 11:42 PM...Untitled Comment
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Yes, I have suddenly found myself dreaming about motherhood and wifehood alot over the past couple of months. I think about how I will decorate my kitchen (I think a country look), I wonder what my future husband's favorite foods will be, I wonder how many children God will bless me with, etc. But I am trying to focus on my character the most. I would rather be a cheerful, loving, submissive wife than have the most gorgous house on the planet. Of course, I know I can't change myself alone, but I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
I have been reading your past posts tonight and I will comment on two others as well. (If I don't drop off to sleep first.)
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June 22, 2007 at 6:46 PM...Untitled Comment
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Aww, what a great idea. I have an idea of what I want for my house too. It's a lot of fun! Hehe. I always said that when I get married and have a house of my own, I won't be too picky, but I will *really* want a big kitchen--my favorite room!
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Oh what a hard thing to remember!!
Published on December 6, 2006 at 10:30 PM
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Alatariel has been telling me that I need to post more on topics than just The Maker’s Diet post, and my daily life.
So, in light of her post: “Yes, even a Childless Woman is supposed to be home. The Bible says so.”
Here is something on the same strand that I have been waiting to post til the right time!! NOW!!
What a hard thing it is to remember that I don’t have to worry about my husband to be.
As of late I have been worrying about how will I know my husband and when will I meet him. We don’t spend time with other people very often and we don’t go to a church or youth group, and I have found myself worrying about meeting my husband.
If I keep thinking about it, the worry turns into impatience. But then I remember that God already has him picked out. He already knows when we will meet. He is already mine. Then the Peace of God comes over me and I forgot about it for a couple of days. Then it strikes again. I know it’s the Devil. He knows how much I want to be married, and he plays on it. But praises be. I have Almighty God on my side. I know that God is helping me fight off these attacks when they come and I come out more patience.
God is watching out for my husband and me. Honestly I don’t even worry about my husband’s purity. I know and believe that God is watching over us both and helping us fight those temptations. I pray my husband doesn’t worry about my purity either. I believe that we both know and trust each other to save the sacred part of us for each other.
I know that the man that God has for me has the same ideals and beliefs as me, so we will agree and not have contention and strife between us,
Oh, to have to wait to be a wife!! I long to have my husband confide in me the secrets of his heart and tell me his deepest feelings. To be the only one that can comfort him, besides God.
I want to be a wife who makes a safe refuge for my husband, so that when he walks through the door of our home all his cares are dropped there at the door. He will have no cares at his safe haven. He will rest easy, knowing that I have taken care of the things that he works so hard for.
I want to be the helpmeet that is a perfect match to his needs. I want to be able to reduce the stress that life will lay on him.
I am excited that I will have the man of my dreams soon. I have dreams of him, but I can’t see his face. All though I know when I see him I will know that he is the one.
I have so much love for this man; I can’t wait to give it to him with my heart. I can’t wait till we are one. It will be the best thing in the world to spend my life with him and have God lead us.
It is hard to remember that I have to pray for him daily. I also have to pray for me daily. I have a controlling spirit. I am afraid that I will be a controlling wife. I do not want that. I pray that God will help me to get this spirit of control under His control before I get married.
I’m preparing myself to become what my husband will need. It’s hard to go through these trials. But I know these trials that I go through now, as a young adult will help me be that wife. The only way I can do this is with God’s help, and I pray it comes soon!!
I know my wifely journey is just beginning. I pray I can fulfill my task the way I am supposed too.
GOD HELP ME!!
I wrote poem about my husband that I would share with you, but I am skeptical about putting it on here, because I don’t want someone to steal it.
If you would like to see it please email me and I will send it to you!! It’s a little better than my Life Insurance one!! Sorry!!
Oh, to have wait to be a mother!! I can’t wait to hold my babies in my arms and know there are mine and share all of the Love that is over-flowing in me for them.
Just the other day I looked at CUTIE Ca-bug and just a big gush of Love shot over me and I then realized how much I want to be a mother!!
I plan to stay home with them. I can’t wait till I am able to teach them how to be Biblically sound men and women and know that God is Lord, to teach them at home how to be homekeepers and men of integrity, to make them feel safe, secure and fulfilled. I hope to be the kind of mother my Mom is.
I know that some of you probably don’t agree with staying home NO MATTER what, but I believe that is what the God breathed Bible says. He also says that He will provide all my needs, so I won’t worry about scenarios that might arise. Because there is a magic word there: Might. Those scenarios that I might worry about might not even happen, so why waste time worrying about them??
I am handing all of these feelings to God for now. Until He sees fit to fulfill them. In His time, His Perfect time!
I hope that this post has encouraged all those single young women out there that might be feeling the same to just let God handle it and to keep those feelings inside you.
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December 6, 2006 at 11:30 PM...Wife & mother
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That was a very inspiring and heartfelt post!! I think you expressed so well the longing and desire that God's put in each one of us as women to be wives & mothers. Thanks for sharing.
Advent blessings,
Sylvia
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December 7, 2006 at 12:55 AM...Untitled Comment
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Wow Amanda! You certainly have it together. How I wish at your age I had half the wisdom, patience and grace you do. I know God has a wonderful plan for you as He does for all of us.
I feel very blessed to call such a wonderful young lady my friend!
Peace be yours
Kathleen
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December 7, 2006 at 11:08 AM...Oh how I remember ....
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being in your shoes. I remember having the same desires. I grew up with a daddy that wasn't Christian and how I knew I didn't want to marry anybody but a Christian Man. When I had had it with the guys I knew and just put my totoal heart for Him( God ) that is when I met my sweetheart little did I know that he would be from Cananda. I could have never asked for a better husband. God provided in a way I could have never dreamed of. You to will have your own beautiful story. Keep with the same heart that you have and God will honor it and provide just the right godly man....in His time. God Bless my SSiC.
In Him,
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December 7, 2006 at 11:17 AM...Salutations!
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Er, sorry about that! I have to say something other than hello!
God bless you in your hynt for the perfect man
onedaymore
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December 7, 2006 at 11:32 AM...aha
December 7, 2006 at 2:22 PM...I agree
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I very much agree with you, it's hard to wait, but I have a feeling it's very worth it. God knows what our story is and we just have to wait for it to unfold. I hope your waiting goes well!
Just a reader
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December 7, 2006 at 2:22 PM...=)
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Hey!
I love that post, you know i've been worrying about that lately and what you said is absolutely true! I'm not worried anymore cause God has it all worked out for me! Thanks for posting this! =D
Thanks for tagging me and leaving me comments! that's awesome that I was your 500th comment! Awesome!
I have to go!
Luv, Arwengirl
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December 7, 2006 at 2:45 PM...Great thoughts
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I'm sure your words will bless other teens your age as they wait patiently upon the Lord and his perfect timing. You have much more spiritual insight on marriage then I did at your age~ keep growing in Gods grace!
~Amy
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December 7, 2006 at 3:07 PM...Untitled Comment
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All of your post echos my heart cries. I want all those things and can hardly wait for them!
Lord, give me patience!
Deb
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December 7, 2006 at 3:12 PM...Untitled Comment
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YOu remind me SOOO much of ME at your age! :)
Except I was into Remington Steele rather than SuperMan.
But I specifically meant the longing for my adult life! (God blessed me with marriage at age20 and my oldest daughter 2 years later. Then, the babies came one right after another for the next 8 years. Now I long for MORE babies!!! :)
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December 7, 2006 at 8:54 PM...Untitled Comment
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Oh, what a great post! That's a re-reader! lol. Isn't it so exicting to think about what God might have in store for us regarding our future spouse?
I would love to read your poem, you can email it to me.
I answered your tag. :)
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December 7, 2006 at 9:15 PM...Untitled Comment
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Amanda, your post really touched me. I almost cried reading it!! I feel much like you do. I desire so badly to get married to a great, godly man and to be his helpmeet. And I can't to have my own child!! Just holding a new-born baby makes me full of joy and excitement when one day that day will come!!
I wish girls could look at things the way you can. Why can't girls look and dream about the future? I think that's a part of where their mistakes and bad decisions come in, because they cannot see the future. They don't think about how their decision is going to affect not only them and their relationship with God, but their future husband too. It's so wonderful when girls do consider that....
Your post was so encouraging, and yes, we just have to trust in the Lord, and pray for patience.
I would love to read your poem! I can't give you my e-mail address on this, but I can give it to you on the forum.
Have a great day, and God bless you!!!
~~Brooke~~
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December 7, 2006 at 9:33 PM...Hi
December 8, 2006 at 6:17 PM...Untitled Comment
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I agree with you, but I think we as young girls should work to be content in the situation God has placed us in. Don' t get me wrong - I want to get married and birth children too - I just think we should try and be patient and content.
I read a book called "So Much More" by Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin. In reading it I was impressed with the great responsibility we as young girls at home have. We have the responsibility to help our siblings grow up to be godly Christian people and we have the responsibility of helping our Fathers and Mothers.
The book I mentioned talks a lot about helping your Father and being under your Father's protection. You can be a tremendous help to your Father in just the small things.
I really enjoy reading your blog! We sound a lot alike in many ways.
Love in Christ,
Rebekah ~ The Lord's Daugher
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December 9, 2006 at 2:16 PM...Untitled Comment
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I am glad you did not read that post then. The book is very sad in the beginning, but hang in there. I think that when Mr. Murdstone married Clara he would have gotten her money and her house, so I think technically the house is now his. But I could be wrong. In any case, it's very sad at first, but it does get better!
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December 10, 2006 at 7:20 PM...Untitled Comment
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Sorry I'm not logged in; it says my password is wrong, even though it's the same one I've always had. :-) Guess the whole maintenance thing may have messed stuff up! LOL
I completely agree with you; like I said on Jocelyn's blog. There are three babies in the homeschool group that I see pretty often - Gordon, Anna and Gabriel. I love them all; I love babies in general!! I can't wait to be a wife and mother, to keep house and educate my children. I want to be my husband's best friend, and as you said, a safe refuge.
But, I don't think staying at home can be set as absolute. :-) That's just my opinion; in my lifetime, (Which I know hasn't been very long, but long enough to see certain things), I've seen that some things have been made absolute by God. Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not lie, etc. I know you know the the Ten Commandments, so there's no need to list them all. :-) And yes, if the only reason you're working is to suit your richer lifestyle, or to "fufill" a void that has been made by society's standards, then you need to quit your job, watch your babies and re-evaluate your priorities. However, life "has a way" of making changes, and suddenly your perfect plan is destroyed and you're not in the place you thought you'd be.
In one place, the Bible says not to worry about the future, yet in another place it says to think of how your actions will affect the future. (Not the exact words, I know.) What we have to remember is that God speaks to us through His Word. So while the verse about not worrying speaks to one person, the verse about thinking about the future speaks to another.
I try very hard not to judge people, as I have no place or authority to judge them; I may not have the same sins, but I have plenty of sins in other areas. And it is my feeling that by saying women need to be at home no matter what, you are indirectly judging the woman who doesn't. I'm not saying this is what your purpose for writing this post is; in fact, I'm completely sure that the reason you posted was not to judge someone, but to share your feelings with others. Yet, there are so many different people, in different situations, where an absolute for you cannot be absolute for them.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I completely agree with you, as I agree with Jocelyn. I'm just not going to use the same approach, and state my absolutes, as it could cause lots of controversy and conflict.
Don't misunderstand me, I think your post was very well written, and although I'm not at that point in life yet, it gives me a better understanding of how I want to handle it when I do reach that time. So thank you!
On a different note: Did you get POTC 2? Are you going to? I know that's completely different from what I was saying before, but I just wondered. LOL
~Becca~
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December 13, 2006 at 4:30 PM...Untitled Comment
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Married without Children?!?!?!?!
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As I was making a wonderful dinner of lightly barbecued seasoned chicken, brown rice, carrots, and fresh garden green beans a couple weeks ago by MYSELF, I thought, “Is this what it will be like when I am married?”
For our family we have to make like 5 or 6 chicken breasts, 3- 3 1/2cups of rice, 12-15 carrots and a whole lot of green beans, (mostly for me!!).
I was in the kitchen alone and I couldn’t help but feel lonely. Everyone, but Jocelyn who was on the pc, was upstairs and it was very quiet, which is very unusual for our house.
I thought about when I get married and don’t have kids yet, I will be making dinner alone and I won’t have a lot to make or a lot of dishes to wash. It will be very weird. I thought that it was weird tonite, I can’t imagine what it will be like when I have my own house.
Yes, sometimes I want to lock up all the little kids so that I can think, but what will I do when I won’t have them running around?
I wonder what my days will be filled with when I am married without kids. I won’t have school, I won’t have to clean all the time, and I won’t have to worry about stuff like that.
So I have a question:
If you are married and you didn’t have kids right after you were married and you didn’t have a job, what did you do? Or if you are married and you don't have kids yet, don't have a job, what do you do?
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October 5, 2006 at 2:17 PM...Untitled Comment
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My mom said that she had a job, so I'm afraid she can't give you any advise. When she was married without any children, my dad was at the office half of the day so she was a nurse, and she couldn't cook worth a dewflotchy (but she sure can now:-). Thanks for stopping by, stop by again soon.
Taters
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October 5, 2006 at 5:20 PM...Hey
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I am tagging you. :)
Q. 1 What color is your hair?
Q.2 Whats tha last movie you watched in theatres?
Q. 3 What type (s) of music are you into?
Q. 3 Name 5 of your favorite bands.
Q. 5 Whats the last book you've read?
Q. 6 Whats your favorite book?
Q.7 Whats your dream car?
Q.8 Whats the last thing you've ate?
I have my answers on my blog.
Everyone loves my blog layout.
Thx again!
~**JesusLovesU**~
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October 5, 2006 at 11:20 PM...I guess you will have to ....
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beautify your house and design blogs ! I guess I never thought about you gals not having alot of littles making noise and needing big Sis to help with something. Wow what a thought ! lol. Please let you Sweet Mamma know if I don't get back to her tonight it will be tomarrow. I am making the Dixon rounds. (o=
Love your SSiC,
In Him,
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October 6, 2006 at 8:09 AM...Untitled Comment
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Well lets see, that was only 6 years ago....The first 6 months, we lived in a 27' camper trailer.....that was aweful, but after that we moved into a double wide and it needed a lot of work, so while DH was at work, I painted, wallpapered, cleaned, organized. Some days I'd go shopping, some days I spent with my sister in law, somedays I spent with my Mom. Once in a while I spend the day with a friend, sewing or scrapbooking. You'll get a lot of scrapbooking done! My advice is work on it hard before you have kids, because it's hard to keep up after if you're already way behind! Or it is for me anyway! I have an Aunt that doesn't have kids and she goes to nursing homes a lot and visits old people and shut ins.
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October 6, 2006 at 11:43 PM...Hi
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Thank you for the comment! If I get married someday, then before having children, I would want to do a lot of things. Keep the house clean and decorated, quilt, sew, knit, continue doing freelance writing, all that fun stuff!
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On the subject of PartyLite and getting a HOPE CHEST
Published on June 4, 2006 at 1:04 PM
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Our PartyLite show was really great!
We had a $500 show, so we split them and got 2 shows out of it, so we got double hostess gifts. YAHOO!
We each got about $68 worth of FREE stuff. WOW! I got more wax than anything. I got Passion Fruit Salsa, and my new favorite Blue Tamarind! And I finally got to get the Hollywood Melt Warmer that I have been wanting. And I got a set of 3 holders that the votive cups come out of and you can fill the bottom with beads and etc, that would normally cost $60, but I got for $25.
We are having another one, if anyone needs anything. =0) Just let us know!
All these things will be going in my "Hope Chest" for when I get married. Which will prob be sooner than we think =0) Except for the wax, that will be gone before long too. I have a list of stuff that I would like to get to go in my "Hope Chest".
I have come to realize how important it is to have a "Hope Chest". How will I be able to keep my house if I don’t have anything to put in it? If I have a "Hope Chest" then I will be able to easily be able to set up a home that is comfortable and is a safe haven for my husband when he comes home from being in the world. He will know that he can come home to me and know that his house and possessions that he works so hard for are being well cared for. And he will luv to be home surrounded by a wife who cares and luvs him beyond words.
I can't wait to get married and have that special relationship that God himself ordained in the beginning of time with my husband. Man, won't that be AWESOME!
Thank you for spending your precious time to read the ramblings of a 16-year-old girl who is trying to become a woman seeking the way of God.
I can only hope to become as much as a blessing as all the people I meet here are to me. So THANK YOU.
Thanks for stopping by "Daily" at the "Planet"!
Luv
SuperAngel  Kryptonite Angel 
*Rosie-Posie Iris Hardbottle* ~Luthien Alatariel Elanesse~ 
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June 4, 2006 at 4:30 PM...Untitled Comment
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Hey there! You had asked what ages we all were, so here goes:
Heather,21
Hollie,17(me)
Heide,13
Joseph,12
Haylee,10
Jonathan,9
Joshua,6
Jacob,4
James,2
Hilarie,5 months
I would love to hear all of your families names and ages;)
ttyl~Hollie
Oh ya, I love Partylite too.
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June 4, 2006 at 5:23 PM...Hope chests!
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Oh wow, i love tealight stuff! They're so fun!
That's so cool that you're thinking about stuff like that early!! He'll be a lucky guy....
BookFreak:) :)
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June 4, 2006 at 6:05 PM...An invite to my Hope Chest Post!!!!
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That's a good post, glad we're doing now instead of later or too late!!
Here is my post about Hope Chest: A girls Hope for the future: http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/Jocelyndixon/139116
I should be doing the next part for the "GirlHood to Courtship Series" soon!
I thought we should both share our Hope Chest experiences!!!
Love your sis,
Myrtle, a Hobbit from "BloggerEarth"
Sister of SuperAngel & rjdjohn316, and daughter of JacqueDixonSoulRestES
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June 4, 2006 at 8:32 PM...Untitled Comment
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Hey there!
Sorry, I haven't looked at your blog in a pretty long time!! It's lookin' really good!
I have a hope chest that I started on my last birthday, my 13th. It's really neat to think that someday you'll be using these things in your own home!
-giftedgirl/Rebecca
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June 4, 2006 at 8:56 PM...Hi
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Thanks for sharing about your hopechest and dreams for the future. I have a hopechest, too, and enjoy putting things in it, saving for my future home and children (God willing).
I hope you have a wonderful day!
~Ashley
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