Ever since I can remember, I've wanted to be married. I've always wanted to be a wife. I've always known that when I fell in love, it would be forever! I've always known that when I get married, it will be forever.
I found out a couple weeks ago that yet another friend I grew up with that was married last year, is now not married anymore. :( The same thing happened to another friend 2 years ago. When I heard what had happened all I could think was, "why is leaving/divorcing an option?" It is hard for me to comprehend that people think there is another option to leave their marriages. No, I don't know the details of why, but I do know that marriage is a lifelong commitment. Maybe that is just me... but the Scriptures say do that
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
"To those who are married I have a command, and it is not from me but from the Lord: a woman is not to separate herself from her husband but if she does separate herself, she is to remain single or be reconciled with her husband. Also, a husband is not to leave his wife."
Maybe its not me... Right there in the Scritptures it commands us to not separate from our spouse. It doesn't say "don't separate unless...". It just says do not separate. That Scripture goes along with:
Matthew 19:5b-6
"and the two are to become one flesh'? Thus they are no longer two, but one."
When you get married, you are no longer your own person, you are one with your spouse. When you pull something apart, it is not as strong as it was and it is not whole anymore. Marriage is like the example of the two strand cord. Two separate strands come together as one and is strong. It is whole. That is really profound because God  created each of us as a strand that there is another strand to which He made to become whole with. I believe that God created a specific spouse for each of us: Someone who is a perfect match for us. God has someone out there for every one of us, and the trick is to rely completely and wholly on Him to bring that Perfect One to us. No, it is not easy... I know!
I think we need to get in the mindset, and train our children to be of the mindset that marriage is a "no out" commitment. I know that marriage is not a walk in the park, but it is something you're gonna have to work at. My parents haven't always had the best marriage or one that is what it should be, but if I learn nothing else about marriage from them, the one thing I've learned is you stick it out! My parents have stayed together through the thick and thin and have prevailed! So I know its not gonna be easy all the time.
In the movie, Fireproof, Caleb and Michael make a very good point when they have this conversation:
Caleb:"Marriages aren't fireproof. Sometimes, you get burned."
Michael: "Fireproof doesn't mean that a fire will never come, but that when it comes you'll be able to withstand it."
I know that it is possible to withstand fires through your marriage. You just have to want to do. It commands you in black and white that you are not leave your marriage even when its tough and you don't think you can go anymore. You can do it tho because marriage is a forever covenant. Remember: Never leave your partner behind!
©AmandaDixon2009
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