BEFORE WE START:  GROUND RULES

Before you get to look inside the inner lives of men, here are some ground rules:

-  First, if you are looking for male-bashing or proof that your husband is indeed a cad, you won't find it here.  I honor the men who share their hearts with me, and I hope that by sharing their insight, more women might come to understand and appreciate the wonderful differences between us.

-  Second, this is not an equal treatment of male-female differences, nor do I deal at all with how your man can or should relate to you.  Yes, we women obviously also have needs, and many of the truths discussed in these pages apply to us too.  But since the theme is the inner lives of men and my space is limited, I'm focusing entirely on how we relate to men, not the other way around.  (That is also why the survey did not poll gay men.)

-  Third, recognize that there are always exceptions to every rule.  When I say that "most men" appear to think a certain way, realize that "most" means exactly that--most, not all.  I'm making generalizations out of necessity, and inevitably there will be exceptions.  One reason I did the professional survey was to dtermine what was an exception and what was normal.

-  Fourth, I'm addressing what is normal inside men, not necessarily what is right in their outward behaviour.  And since these pages are not the place for a lengthy exploration of any one issue, you can always go to www.4-womenonly.com to explore more resources, including the entire survey.

-  Fifth, I need to warn you that some of the enclosed insight may be distressing because it affects our view of the men in our lives and our view of ourselves.  It was tempting to exclude certain things, but I realized that I was hearing things men often weren't willing or able to say directly to their spouses or girlfriends.  So it was critical to include these comments.  But please realize that in most cases, these comments have little to do with us--they are hust the way men are wired.  And we should celebrate that fact.  After all, it is because he is wired as a man that you love him.

-  Finally, and most important, I hope that this book is not just about learning fascinating new secrets.  The more we understand the men in our lives, the better we can support and love them in the way they need to be loved.  In other words, this revelation is supposed to change and improve us.

So read on, ladies, and join me as we look into the inner lives of men.

More to Follow Tomorrow.

In Him

Cysco