Apr. 15, 2008
Self Esteem
I need prayer. What a statement and it says it all. My daughter, some of you know her, in my opinion is very beautiful and so very talented (I'm her Mom, what else am I suppose to say). She is a very accomplished musician and singer and song writer, but she has no or very low self esteem! I have tried so hard to up lift her and to praise her, but nothing seems to help. I know that her Mom (holding my head down in shame) also suffers from this. How do I help her. What are the words that I say that will keep her humble (as I want her to be) but give her the self worth that she needs. I want to take a mirror and say Look, See what I see. Listen, Hear what I hear. My heart is very heavy and burdened for her. Often she feels that she has no friends (she does) and that she is not good enough at anything that she does (she often wins music competitions). Any help from anyone would be greatly appreciated. And absolutely not least, Please PRAY for her, me (US)!!!!
Thank you,
Tammy
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Apr. 16, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by simply42B
Dear Tammy,
I was moved by your blog. Your beautiful daughter will be okay. I know this because you love her so much and you pray for her. Could special one on one time with Dad help? Sometimes we think that our girls mirror our behavior (i.e. lack of confidence) but I think that Daddy's pride in his little girl can make a young lady shine so brightly. Think back to the things that gave you confidence as a girl. And also remember that not all of your feelings about yourself made any sense at all. I don't think that low self esteem is hereditary. It sounds like you all perform on stage. If you can share your gifts and talents this way, I don't believe you have anything to worry about. Sometimes, when a young lady has adorable little sisters, people can more easily connect with them than an older girl. This might be awkward for her. And sometimes it is just plain awkward for a girl to grow up. I'm not sure if you said how old your daughter is.
Another simple thought is exercise. Maybe your daughter is experiencing some "growing pains" and just needs time and space to clear the cobwebs and sort things out. Exercise can be powerful in lifting the spirits. I've noticed my 14yo takes walks more frequently than ever, sometimes alone, and I think it is good for her. And, often when I walk with only one of my daughters at a time, it opens up different kinds of conversation. Usually, homeschoolers have plenty of family time and that is great but the one on one time takes a bit more creative effort. (oh dear, my comment is bigger than your post....sorry)
God bless you!
Brenda
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Apr. 16, 2008 - Hey!
Posted by dixiebeauty
Hey Mrs. Tammy!
Sarah's slowly getting better. She doesn't look nearly as bad as she did before. :) And both Sarah and I missed being at the benefit on Saturday night. I highly think you would not want to hear me play the guitar. Though I try to practice a lot, I'm not all the great. :) I still have a long way to go. :-)
Oh, that would be so great if you could talk with Mrs.Charlotte to see when we can have a scrapbooking night!!!! We really enjoyed it when we did the church's one! :) And speaking of scrapbooking, I keep forgetting to thank you for those scrapbooking things you gave us! It was real nice of you! Mom did a page a few days ago and it came out looking really great! :-)
Well, I hope you have a wonderfully blessed day!
lots of hugs,
Jordan Lee
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Apr. 16, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by crochetcrazy
Hmm... I'm the same way, though I'm building confidence. I have friends, it's just hard when my sister has ~40 friends and I have 10 or so... Through blogging, I've met many, many wonderful people who accept me for who I am. Might I suggest her getting a blog?
I've added you to my friends list! Yay, A new friend!
.:::Renee:::.
Romans 5:8
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Apr. 16, 2008 - My hormones must be raging, 'cos this made me cry!!LOL!
Posted by luvs2bemom
I was very moved by the post and comments. Since I personally know you all (being your sister) I have to say I think the alone time with Dad might help. It's no secret that I'm a Daddy's girl. But sad to say most of my memories of growing up are not pleasant ones of me and Daddy. They involve me not being able to do things right and not pleasing him. Sound familiar? My best memories, even though they are few, are me riding on the tractor with him, not saying anything, but just being with him. Maybe that's what they need, just to be together. I was going to suggest a golfing trip, but it shouldn't be anything competitive or anything he will have to teach her. Maybe just a walk through the pasture behind your house. It is beautiful down there by the little stream. I have such good memories of MawMaw taking us down there to wade. It barely covered our feet, but it was wonderful just the same. Keep telling her you love her, keep praising her, you really are doing a good job!!! Remember, Halston thinks you're the best mom in the whole world!LOL!
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