Things are feeling a bit better this morning.  Partly...well, in large part, because of the links that some of you have sent us.  Wow! We are not unusual. We are not bad parents. Jumoke is not a "bad" boy (as in "bad seed"...we were getting kind of scared and letting mythical thinking take over...you know, those scary stories written years ago).

Here are a couple of the links that we found most helpful and encouraging. I'm posting them here as kind of a "favorites" place. But mostly because I'd like them all together in one place in case we need to show a therapist or counselor what we have been learning.

Thank you, Christine, for this one. Families By Design was a huge relief.  There are a number of great articles in here, including one about moms and healing.  Apparently with a RAD child, it is the mother that he is most abusive toward. Wonderful! At least if that is so, I'm not overreacting to my son's niggling, underhanded ways of trying to make me feel insane. It's normal! Yay! I'm normal!

There's also a great list of things to do for RAD kids. A lot of things we've already done wrong. But some things we've been doing well. And no matter that we are walking the road that says this won't end the way I want it to. We can be working with Jamoke until the end gets here.

Lots and lots of good things here.

This is one that my friend, Kim, sent us. It's a lot of information from the parents perspective. Again, very encouraging. We are very much like a number of other parents with a child with RAD. Whoo hoo! RadKid.org

And Addmama sent us so many really great links.  We are going to subscribe to Natthan. Even if Jumoke doesn't end up living  here anymore, it is such a relief to find out that we are normal people living under abnormal circumstances.

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