"A tiny piece of advice:  You and Tim should make your decision based on what you hear God saying and then get your confirmation, affirmation and support from him. This is such a hard decision.  Most people will never understand because they have never raised a broken child, and so are bound to disagree with you.  Geez, at any given moment you disagree with you.  That's why you need to hear from Him and stand on His word alone.  Kind of like what Noah had to do."

Working on this paradigm shift.