We have no shame. Well, as far as being regular parents to Jumoke, we have no shame.

We agreed to bribe him.  We need to keep him calm till June 15 so we can get a diagnosis. I don't know if we can come up with a bribe a day, because after he gets something he thinks is really cool, it loses it's "coolness" pretty quickly. But at least we have a bribe for today.

For today, I'm fairly sure it is handled. He's always had an earlier bedtime than the other children because we needed him calmed and hopefully sleeping before the other boys went to their room to go to bed. Otherwise, every night erupted into fights or tears. 

He's hated this.

We've tried to walk with him and train him so that we could get rid of this particular boundry, but he told us straight up that he doesn't want to earn this privilege. He preferred we just give it to him.

Of course, we were not going to just hand him something that he would use to harm the boys and drive people even more crazy.

But a couple weeks ago, we moved his bed and stuff into our bedroom.  So the reason for the early bedtime is no longer applicable. Sooo....now we can use the gift of a later bedtime as a bribe or motivator or grace or whatever.

Yes, we've considered that he might see this as him winning and us losing.  The truth is, we've all been losing for four years now.  At this point, we must choose our battles carefully, and try to get to June 15 with him still under our legal care and with all of us in one piece.