When my children were really young, we allowed them to address their elders as "Auntie" and "Uncle".  It was something that my husband did as a child when he lived in Germany.  As our children grew older and started entering school (this is before we homeschooled), we then taught them to address their elders as "Mrs", "Mr" and "Ms."  -  since we started on this route of teaching our children to show respect, we have had several adults who have expressed their wishes to not be addressed properly.  This has really been difficult for my children, because their father and I have raised them to show their respect.  My parents as well were strict on this issue when I was growing up as well.  They are too old now to be calling everyone "Auntie" and "Uncle" and I just don't feel that this is right.  I can understand the other adults understand at not liking to be addressed properly....because even I feel weird to be called "Mrs"....but it is what I am.  We have tried the "Ma'am" and the "Sir" too when someone doesn't like the other way....but it gets confusing.  So I am curious what others do?!!  I now find that when a child calls me by my first name I feel irritated lol..in some small way.  I am, I guess, quite old fashioned. 

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