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Aug. 3, 2006

DEPRESSION,does anyone else deal with it AND homeschool?

Hello! Well for a first "blog" here this sure isn't gonna be great or fancy, sorry if you are reading it. I am really just setting this thing up , I am REALLY tired, not in a great mood and ...well did I say TIRED? lol I am trying to approach my life in a much more realistic manner after years of beating myself up for not being "Super-Mom". This blog is hopefully going to be another part of me getting a little more in touch with my "real" side. So, I thought, why not just jump in full on,with total honesty. I deal with depression, and its hard. I really wonder if anyone else out there has REAL issues with their mental health and still is able to homeschool their children in a somewhat normal manner. So many days I wonder if I am really doing the right thing. I feel lead to homeschool, I truly believe God called me to this (okay,honesty again, ...MOST days I really truly beleive these things, some days I think I'm just plain crazy) and I have the support of my dear husband, so why do I still think I may be "screwing up my poor kids lives"?? Do they deserve better than I can give ? I am really giving them what they need ? Well just thought I'd throw that out there, who knows if anyone will even read this, I'm gonna go to bed and atempt sleep before my baby is up for a night time nursing session. (YES, I am also sleep deprived at this time,lol) Good night~Carole :)

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Aug. 3, 2006 - Hello!

Posted by TOSPUBLISHER

Welcome to HomeschoolBlogger! I don't think I know of a single homeschool mom that isn't sleep deprived. Hopefully you will find some answers to your questions, and some pick me ups, here at HSB.

-gena
www.TheHomeschoolMagazine.com

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Aug. 10, 2006 - We can all understand!

Posted by ccostner4

I have went about a total of 6 yrs without a full night's sleep! I understand! It gets better. I have found that women in general like to pretend that they are the perfect Proverbs 31 woman. We act like we have it all together, when on the inside we are falling apart. Let's take a realistic and factual look...you don't get sleep, you are trying to manage your home, take care of many children, teach many children, look pretty for your hubby, and continue to put Christ first....don't beat yourself up...it's a hard job.
Ok..there are some things that have helped me:
1. I figured out that God 's view of me was not of the tired housewife and mother, but of his precious daughter that He adored. He ached for me to have life abundant and I just couldn't get it. I became determined to recieve the promises of the bible..I found out I was His heir and that those promises were for me too!
That was a breakthrough!
2. I started blogging...it was a safe outlet to be myself and share my thoughts..you're headed in the right direction!
3. I found Managers Of Their Homes and all of the other Maxwell Family resources...Changed my life! Highly recommend it!
4. My friend...I have ONE friend that I can say anything to, cry, laugh, pout , and even fuss at and she's there. It's a two way street of course, so she has her days to! She is invauable to me, and a true gift from God.
5. I had a sit down with my hubby. I said what ever I needed to to get him to see into my world. We had to make changes, I had to have a designated time to get away and the freedom to say...I need to go for a drive now!
7. We stopped putting church first and started putting God first! That's a whole different topic!
6. I think if I could do one more thing that would make things better for me it would be to exercise daily...but it is almost impssible with the kids..I get up early and start and the baby starts crying or someone has wet the bed...ect.

I hope this helps and gives you some real ideas that you can do. This is just my experience...
Many Blessings,
KArla

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Aug. 10, 2006 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Anonymous

I was just randomly selecting blogs that caught my eye and yours came up. I have 9 children 4-19 and I homeschool, and no I,m not a super-mom and you know what I don't need to be. I need to be what God and my husband want me to be not what I see or hear or read that other women are! depression can be avery real stalker of any mom with lots of kids,nighttime feedings. Find someone to help you sometimes if at all possible. You don't have to feel inadequate if you can't do it all alone right now. Have a good talk and prayer time with hubby. It does wonders! Try to get as much sleep as you can by having someone babysit sometimes while you nap. But most important in the middle of whatever circumstance and little rest God has said "My grace is sufficient" and it is and it will be. Rest in that and God will uphold you as long as you just follow Him and your own husband and not someone else' ideal. Learning from others tips and such can be helpful. But don't let it depress you further. God bless your honesty and your choice to homeschool and guide your family. -Valerie from Xanga "Orchids and Laundry"

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Oct. 21, 2006 - You ARE doing the right thing!

Posted by BerryGirlyMom

I am just starting to homeschool my kids, after five years of struggling with both public and private schools, and believe me, this is much better for both me and my kids. Having been a full-time working mom for 8 years, I can see the difference. Now all my energies can be spent on my kids, who want my time, instead of some unappreciative and uncaring boss. Even though there is no monetary compensation for my work, it gives me a much better sense of self-worth, and it has brought my kids & I much closer together. So keep up the good work!

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