I went to guiltfreehomeschooling.blogspot.com the other day and found a article "Respect must be earned..." . These are the notes I took.

• show respect to those actions worthy of respect- praising what can be praised and looking for virture and goodness in the unexpected areas of life.  I need to be looking for areas in my childrens lives to praise them, and not just praising them to others , but to them personally. Sometimes I'm to busy always looking for the fault so that I'm always correcting them instead.
• treat children the way you want to be treated- please and thank you. There is nothing wrong with saying, "Will you please do the dishes.", instead of " You will be doing the dishes tonight". I say these please and thank you's probably more to my dd#2 because I'm trying to train her, but I forget to say them to my dd#1, it's more like ordering her instead. And I wonder why we have a respect issue...
• closed doors are locked doors- knock and wait for permission to enter. This is not just children with parents rooms,  sibblings should learn to respect sibblings privacy. dd#2 really needs to remember this with dd#1.
• allow children to finish the activity before doing what you ask. Just like we would like them to wait till the end of the paragraph we are reading, or a break in a show, etc... we too can do this with our children. Of course if it's something I asked them to do before the activity, DO IT NOW.

Sometimes when I read articles, I really feel like a failure as a parent. But I know there are no perfect parents and the areas that we all need to work on are different. What may be a problem for me may not be a problem for you.

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