Oct. 21, 2009
Heartbroken And Upset
Heartbreak and upsetting situations/moments are unfortunately so common in life. You can't go a week without someone having a hard time with something, whether it being a bad mark on a school assignment, friends getting into arguments and one or both coming away hurt, or whatever else one might be going through.
Lately, I've had quite a few people in my life go through upsetting situations and heartbreak. I've dealt with a small amount of it myself, but I'm almost convinced it's worse watching it happen to those you love most, than to feel it for yourself. You feel so helpless, and there's also this uncertainty of if and where you should step in to help. Or, even, HOW involved you should get or not.
And then there's also helping them to a certain extent - trying to encourage them, give them advice, etc. - but they are too blinded to see the truth in your words. That's hard too.
What I've been noticing, though, is that sometimes just being there and listening helps, or doing so much as to make them smile or laugh. That's huge! But another important thing I've figured out, is it's best to step to the side a bit and just let Jesus help them directly. Sometimes he likes to help heal people through others, but there are many times when he needs to directly help them. He is after all titled our Comforter, and I know from experience he is the best comfort. He knows how to help those who are suffering by giving them exactly what they need. We earthly beings can only offer what we've learned and of what we know ourselves. Taking those people who are hurting and (figuratively speaking) taking them by the hand and leading them to God is the best way to deal with situations. We can try by our own power to help people, and they may be satisfied, but only momentarily. Jesus...if you bring those who are hurting to him, he can heal them and satisfy whatever it is their heart is desiring or needing to hear to heal. We may be used as instruments by God, but in the end, it's Him who can heal people the best, and it's He who can comfort those who are hurting.
"I find rest, O my soul, In God alone; my hope comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken. My salvation and my honor depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge. Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge."
~ Psalm 62: 5-8
"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all; he protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken."
~ Psalm 34:18-20
Lately, I've had quite a few people in my life go through upsetting situations and heartbreak. I've dealt with a small amount of it myself, but I'm almost convinced it's worse watching it happen to those you love most, than to feel it for yourself. You feel so helpless, and there's also this uncertainty of if and where you should step in to help. Or, even, HOW involved you should get or not.
And then there's also helping them to a certain extent - trying to encourage them, give them advice, etc. - but they are too blinded to see the truth in your words. That's hard too.
What I've been noticing, though, is that sometimes just being there and listening helps, or doing so much as to make them smile or laugh. That's huge! But another important thing I've figured out, is it's best to step to the side a bit and just let Jesus help them directly. Sometimes he likes to help heal people through others, but there are many times when he needs to directly help them. He is after all titled our Comforter, and I know from experience he is the best comfort. He knows how to help those who are suffering by giving them exactly what they need. We earthly beings can only offer what we've learned and of what we know ourselves. Taking those people who are hurting and (figuratively speaking) taking them by the hand and leading them to God is the best way to deal with situations. We can try by our own power to help people, and they may be satisfied, but only momentarily. Jesus...if you bring those who are hurting to him, he can heal them and satisfy whatever it is their heart is desiring or needing to hear to heal. We may be used as instruments by God, but in the end, it's Him who can heal people the best, and it's He who can comfort those who are hurting.
"I find rest, O my soul, In God alone; my hope comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken. My salvation and my honor depend on God; he is my mighty rock, my refuge. Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge."
~ Psalm 62: 5-8
"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. A righteous man may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all; he protects all his bones, not one of them will be broken."
~ Psalm 34:18-20