I know part 2....
Deuteronomy 6:7 tells us fathers to directly instruct our children. I like the comment about science experiments and not blowing up the garage. I would like to extend that a bit further, that we teach our children to be gentlemen, and proper ladies.
What does that look like...
That our children at least would learn to respect those around them, to treat one another with dignity. that a gentlemen would never strike a lady (and all girls/women are ladies), and a lady would never strike a gentleman unless her virtue was at stake, or the gentleman was initiating rude comments toward the lady. Violence also would include verbal abuse. Too many times we forget that violence is not only physical but also verbal. Sticks and stones make break bones and words can hurt you. Who is it that is supposed to prevent spousal abuse? They don't learn it by osmoses. Yes by, example, but also by instruction.
So in conclusion our children are supposed to be instructed by us, and if they behave contrary to being ladies and gentlemen is that an indication of our own short commings? | 
Dec. 2, 2008 - Untitled Comment
It can be for sure. But luckily not always. I grew up in a home that had behavior that had much to be desired and not something I wanted for my own adult life. So I think instead each individual needs to take responsibility for their behavior and actions. As parents we cannot force our children to behave a certain way and when they don't we should not feel it is our fault. God gave them freewill too, and their own strengths and shortcomings. On the flip side, as grown children we should not blame our parents or environment we grew up in for our current behavior and short comings. I find this world too often wants to lay blame elsewhere instead of taking reponsibilty for their actions. If people everywhere could change this one thing, taking responsibility and not playing the victim of their life story, I think he world would be a very different place.