Jan. 12, 2008
Why do children whine?
You know how it feels like one day you just wake up and a child has a new behavior issue? Well, that's what is going on here. Of course, it never happens overnight like it feels. We have let a behavior slip either knowingly or unknowingly or a little of both. You know how it happens.... they whine (or whatever it is) and you let it go w/ a verbal warning because they aren't characterized by whining. Then they whine again later in the day and you think to yourself "didn't he/she whine this a.m.? But he/she isn't characterized by whining" So we give another verbal warning. Before we know it, we are only giving verbal warnings or just ignoring it completely and we have a full blown whiner on our hands. Or we justify the whining (or undesired behavior) He/she didn't have a nap today, he/she might be getting sick, we've been off schedule, he/she hurt his/her finger, he/she didn't get enough mommy time and the list goes on. It's soooo easy to excuse away a behavior.
We have a case of the first scenario going on in our home. Mark was not characterized by whining and so we let it go with verbal warnings. Well, we now have a full-blown whiner. So this is what we are working on in our home with Mark right now. NO WHINING Of course, the "whining" verse for our home is Phil. 2:14, so he will be repeating that a lot over the next few days until we get this back under control.
And now to answer the question/topic of this post....Why do children whine? Because we let them get away with it. WOW So profound, huh?
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Jan. 12, 2008 - Great post!
Posted by Anonymous
Great post! I think that is true of all behavior...they do it cause we let them get away with it!
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Jan. 12, 2008 - Hi Friend!
Posted by Anonymous
Such wisdom! LOL! Thanks for sharing
Kysha
http://humblemama.blogspot.com
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Jan. 12, 2008 - Hi Kim
Posted by HisPoiema
Oooo, I could insert several behaviors in there for my kids these days. and I'm with you, it's all my fault for not being consistent. I Hate it when it's my fault!! Thanks for dropping by my blog =) And if you were my neighbor, I'd let you watch my kids because we're on the same page with biblical parenting styles. I did a post on RFR a while back, isn't it a great tool???. I see the fruit of it most clearly in my oldest (which would make sense, I guess!) in that he also will come to me at times and ask for forgiveness for behaviors on his own without me having to prompt him Every Single Time (like I have to do with all the rest!)
Hope you have a delightful Lord's day!
In Christ,
Jennifer
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Jan. 13, 2008 - Untitled Comment
Posted by H0MEFree
I am sorry you are dealing with this. I think it is better than lying or smack talk. In my opinion.
However the same cure good for lying should work with whining- since they are both sins from the tongue. I heard a few years ago from a seasoned mama, when we were struggling with mouth borne issues, to treat the source. Treat the source of the sin that is... the mouth. The hottest hot sauce you can find. It works.
Cured my oldest in 1 treatment. My second oldest still has recurrences every so often... and he gets a hot sauce reminder.
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Jan. 18, 2008 - profound?
Posted by belindaletchford
May not be profound but it is what we need to hear! Thanks for posting.
Belinda
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