This is a question I have recv'd in the past and I recently got another e-mail asking about this.  I dug through photo bucket and found an old picture of just the charts instead of taking a new picture.  Here is the chart that is being referred to:

The top two are our chore charts.  They have each child's name down the left side.  Then across the top it is divided into morning, meal time, afternoon and before bed chores.  Below the chore chart is our daily schedule. 

The next question that usually accompanies "what are the charts" is "what is the tape for"?  There are three pieces of tape (one beside each child's name)  From time to time (usually once or twice a month) I put special things on those stickers.  We have plastic disks and have special things on each disk.  I put them up on a Monday morning before the children are awake for the day.  They are surprised to see the disk and have all week to redeem the disk.   All disks have different things like:

*eat dessert first

*pick your favorite cereal

*foot rub

*choose seat in van all week

*moon walk with mom or dad

*and so on

We don't do this every week.  Most often it is once a month and sometimes twice a month.  We all greatly enjoy these special treats.  The children never know when they will appear and are always thrilled to see them.

A comment was left asking me to comment/expound more on non-conflict training. 

Non-conflict training is a time set aside each day to work with your child on things that need work (preferably before they are a "problem")  Often times parents get frustrated and upset by the behavior of their child but when asked "have you taught him what he should do" the answer is no, they haven't trained/taught the child what he should be doing.  This training time takes place when the child is well rested, not hungry and his love tank has been filled.  I, personally, did this time each morning when my children were all younger.  It is ideal to keep the sessions short and positive.  Many moms I have talked to did the training time too long because the child was enjoying it.  It is great that they enjoy it but you want to stop with them wanting more. 

What types of things do I do during non-conflict training?

Absolutely ANYTHING and EVERYTHING I want to train the child/ren in.  I always use non-conflict training time when training a baby to go from a crib to a big boy/girl bed,  First time obedience (FTO),  using the interrupt rule, how to act in a store, how to sit quietly, how to use the appeal process, blanket time, assigned toy time, how to handle things when they aren't going as they should (a friend or sibling that won't share) etc...  You really can use non-conflict training for anything at all. 

If you are having a friend over and the friend is bringing a child younger than your child, you can do non-conflict training time with your child on what would be appropriate with this younger child.  We used a phrase "playing on Susie's level" (or whatever the child's name is) 

When a child goes from riding in the cart at a store to walking beside you, you can set up a store in your home and during non-conflict time, train on proper behavior. 

You can also use non-conflict training time if you see a behavior creeping in that you don't desire.  It is best to catch it before the behavior becomes a habit.

I recv'd this e-mail:

How did you teach your children what to do when you have unexpected visitors?  When I stopped by your house unexpectedly, there wasn't chaos.  In fact, things were rather orderly.  What did you do?  Do you give bread to every unexpected visitor?

Any time I want to work with the children on something I use non-conflict training time.  This is a time of day when everyone is alert, not hungry and well rested.  I tell the children what we are going to be working on and we do so.  I continue with the non-conflict training until they understand it and can be held accountable for this new item.  For pop-in visitors the general rule is, we greet them at the door (each child says hello and how are you today -- or something along those lines)  Then each child gets a book and sits down to read.  For non-readers, they sit and look at the book.  This allows me time to evaluate how long this visit will last.  Some pop-in visitors are only there for a few moments while other visits can take longer.  If the visit is going to take longer, then after 15 minutes or so, I will instruct the children on what to do.  This is our general rule we follow when we have pop-in visitors.  Of course, there are exceptions to this rule.  If the pop-in arrives and we are in the middle of an activity that the children can continue on without me, then they greet the guest and go back to the activity. 

The bread -- this part of the question cracked me up.  Our goal is to always have an extra loaf of bread available to be given away.  This does not always happen but it is our goal.  We enjoy blessing others (even if it is just a loaf of bread)   There have been days when a company delivers a package and if bread has been baking they will comment on the smell.  I love having a loaf available to give them.