Sep. 17, 2006 - Advice Welcomed
Today I woke up reflecting on a weeks worth of happenings...........
And just realizing how much I need to work on MYSELF...............
Have you ever came across someone that you just couldn't seem to
be good friends with? Someone that just had a knack at getting
under your skin? I mean maybe they're not even trying to and it's
just their personality that you just can't seem to meld with? Well,
of lately that has been my problem. This person has picked me to
try and become good friends with and every time I try to hang out
with this person or talk to them, I am left feeling exhausted,
aggravated and basically like I've been hit by a MACK TRUCK.
Then a day or two later I pray and ask God to forgive me for
feeling such horrible feelings about this person and then I feel bad
for them because I know that they are new to our school, our group
and everyone and so I try once more to reach out but every time
with the same exact results. Well a few days ago I apparantly
really blew it at camoflauging my feelings because this person had
literally put my brain through a mixer just that morning and when
I saw them and they began to approach me I turned my back.
OUCH! I know that's mean. I really didn't plan it though, it just
happened without even thinking about it. But you see, unfortunately
I wasn't born with the ability of pretense. If I am mad, sad, aggravated,
etc. you will see it all over my face. And I hate it! Because the last
thing I ever want to do is hurt someone's feelings. But I've also been
hurt ALOT by people that are controlling and manipulative and nowadays
when I am sought after by the like I cannot deal with it. And this person
is like that. I have tried to help this person and I have prayed for them and
hoped that they would find someone else to hang around with instead of
coming after me. But to no avail and just the other day when I turned my
back on them it really made this person very upset and they told a very
close friend of mine and asked my friend to mediate between us and
said that they didn't undertstand how I could be nice one minute and
give them the cold shoulder the next and that I was making them feel
uncomfortable in the group and their children too (which is OUTRAGEOUS
to me because other than me turning my back in the beginning, I was not
mean and especially not to their children, I love children and am NOT
mean to them) But anyways, at this moment I am unaware as to how to
handle this situation. I do not in any way wish to hurt her at all but at the
same time I do not wish to hang out with her either. Does anyone have
any advice for me? In the meantime I will pray. Thanks!
Comments
Sep. 18, 2006 - hmmmmm...
Posted by Blessed2BMom
This is a tough situation. I am so sorry you are in the middle of it too. I don't know that I have any advice, but just to encourage you to pray and seek God's direction on this one.
I would also encourage you NOT to use your other friend as a mediator between you. You should definately go directly to the other friend. You are going to have to seek forgiveness for turning your back on her and just explain, you were having a rough day, and just be honest with her. Honesty is the best policy.
Proverbs 12:17
A truthful witness gives honest testimony, but a false witness tells lies.
Praying for God's direction for you!
Hugs, Kassandra
Sep. 20, 2006 - Tough situation
Posted by homeschoolingmama
We are called to love one another. And love in the bible is clear in Corinthians.....patient, kind, etc.....
That being said......You are to deal with her in love......but that's not saying you have to be around her all the time. And you definitely don't need any other friends involved.
I would apologize to her for acting cold toward her....maybe explain you were having a bad day. I would also encourage her to seek out other friendships within the group. And if she keeps on trying to be around you....discreetly find other things that are a priority (kids, husband, etc...) That's just what I would do. Hope it helps some.
God bless,
Melissa
Sep. 20, 2006 - Hi, friend!
Posted by MistyKrasawski
I love your new blog template! Totally cool! And you are a true country girl, and I love it too! ;-)
You already know what I think about cranky people who drive you crazy and drain you so I don't need to tell you again . . .just tell them you see spirits heading for their house and they'll leave you alone, LOLOLOL !
Love you all and hope to see ya soon--we must all have library books due or SOMETHING, right??
