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This is a post from the archives of my other blog. I think it is important enough to repost. What image do you give when you write on your blog? Is it truly the image you want to show? I'm not only talking about pictures, but about your words. I am a mother who loves spending time with my children. All the time - not just when they are quiet and obedient. I even enjoy the times when they are talking my ear off! Maybe it has something to do with losing a child - you do gain a different perspective. I know that God has given me a heart dedicated to my family and I am so glad!! Why this now? I was reading the blog of a friend (her husband knew dh from school and we attended their wedding). This friend has 4 children, her husband works in ministry, they are very active at church and they homeschool. Sounds wonderful, doesn't it? I know she loves her family - especially her children. The blog, however, does not always reflect this. She writes that she is so glad to drop the children off at homeschool group where she doesn't have to stay. Before she could take the youngest she struggled because he talked non-stop the entire time the other children were gone. She sounded so relieved that he could finally go join his older siblings. Now, she is a comedian, and maybe she is just writing to be funny and these are not her true feelings. I really hope so. It saddens me when mothers look forward to time away from their children. It breaks my heart that the children hear these things coming from the mouth of their mother! I asked my children how they would feel if I said things like this, and they agreed they wouldn't feel very cared about. I am not saying that I don't ever feel I need a moment - I think we all do. If my dh is home, I will take a moment away down the hall or in the basement (doing laundry or cleaning, but, hey - it gives me a moment). If he is not, I say a quick prayer for strength and lovingkindness and give out extra hugs. I could never drop my children off somewhere and feel good about doing whatever "I" wanted to do. There will be time for that when they are all out of the nest. I don't look forward to that day - I think it will be so quiet! Pay attention to your words when you blog. Do you want people to know you cherish your dh and children? That message does not come across when you state that you can't get anything done because the children are all home and dh is home. It doesn't come across when the children are once again in Sunday School or Children's Church because you couldn't possibly have them sit with you and interrupt your worship time. It doesn't come across when you state that the littles kept you up all night so you just had to sleep late and then the whole day fell apart because you were cranky and tired. You can choose to make the best of those days - ask me how I know!! Please be sure you show the love you have for your family when you blog. I know that I represent mothers with many children (though I still think we have a small family) as well as homeschoolers. I don't want people to think that life is always a wonderful and quiet time, but I also don't want them to think that I would choose anything else. I love my family, I love the occasional chaos and I would not change it for the whole world. I want my children with me - all the time. They are a joy and God's wonderful blessing. I am charged with caring for them for as long as He sees fit, and I plan to do this with all the love, attention and affection I can. |
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