I discovered last week that Trader Joe's has a list on their web-site of all the gluten free products they carry. I really like this list; as it helped me to think outside the box. I thought perhaps others would find it useful. You still have to read the label for dairy if that is an issue; but every little bit helps. They have some terrific Dairy Free (and gluten free) chocolate covered mints like Jr. Mints with no dairy. We loved them here :).
The bottom line is; We try not to insist on parent-led learning or gravitate toward child-led learning. We try instead to focus on God-led learning and ask for His input and perspective on every aspect of our home school. That way, when others fuss about what Dan and I are doing and make me second guess our decisions -- I can go back to our decision process and find God's fingerprints, reminding me that this is His way.