Ok so, I’m going to break this into many parts, I don’t know how many it will be but it would be to big and long. So I will say again this is what I think, not what it must be. I am not saying this is how it needs to be, this is how I want mine to be, and it’s how I see it working best through my studies in the bible.

Ok I want to start by what I’ve gone through was a son, and what I’ve noticed in my mom and dad’s Marriages.  For starters you should know that my parents are divorced, and have been seine I was three. My dad lives in Illinois and I live with my mom in Michigan, so it’s like a six hour drive to see my dad.  Now my mom got remarried soon after as well as my dad. Mom is still with him, but dad got divorced again, and remarried again. So I have had two step moms a step dad and then my mom and dad. I along with to many youth in the world had to see marriages fail. I have seen them start and end and all the bad throughout the whole thing.  I know thing that don’t work in marriage, I know the wrong way to start one, and for that matter the things that can rip them apart.

Ok so I want to start at the beginning and then go though as far as I can. So the first thing is when to get married. Now I personally want to get married young like before or during college (that is if I can find Her by then). Now I know that that is contrary to our society today, but most of my thinking is. Now I do have a reason for wanting to be married young, so I ask you to consider what I say, you don’t have to agree with it but please try to understand where I’m coming from.

Ok so we all know that God has made someone that completes then. (I will talk as if it’s my “wife” so I’ll be using hers and not him or her) I know that somewhere out there is the girl that God made just for me, to complete me and for me to complete. The problem is I don’t know if I’ve found her yet, I might know her, but God has not yet told me who she is (I’m starting to get inpatient). Of cores there are girls I have thought might be “Her” but I still don’t know for sure. Now the reason I think it better to get married young is because, I’m not finished yet. Ok the way I look at it is, that God has made us perfectly, but in two pieces, and I can’t be “perfect” until I find “Her”. I think that you can’t really know what or where God wants you to be until you are “perfect”. So its best to be “perfect” or complete when your finding out where or what you will be going with your life. You can’t fine or get to your really potential until you’ve been made complete.  So find that the best way to prepare for my life is to do it interlay with my wife. If I am “perfect” when I, in collage then I’ll know more what I will and will not be able to do. For instance I am good at putting thing in a different form to help people understand it better. I am not good at math, reading, spelling, and computers, but my wife will make it up. The bible says that when you get married you become one flesh, when God made Adam He knew that he wasn’t finished, so He made Eve to complete him. Now it is a finished project. Now there is nothing that between the two of them that they can not do, they have become perfect.

Now we are going to say that I have found “Her” so what now. Well I think that its vital that you do the entire prose’s in a Godly fation and with help. So I strongly think that premarital counseling with a Christian consoler is very beneficial. Ok now it is of vital importance to not stay all googly eyed over my wife to be (once I’ve found her) I need to stay open eyed and keep in mind that if I don’t, It could mead I can’t do what God put me here to do, but it don’t stop there, now my wife, the girl I’m mint to be with, and the person she’s with, and its just keeps going, will not be able to completely fulfill what God made us to do. Now don’t get me wrong I still believe I will be able to do good work for Him, But not to the same existent.