We are not going to be adopting Kristina. The judge has ruled that the DeVries cannot choose the family for their own child, but DHS (social workers) will instead.....even though he can only legally rule that way IF Kristina was a foster child, which she is not. We could and would appeal, with an extremely great chance at winning the case, since this judge is ruling as if Kristina was a foster child awaiting placement. However, the DeVries do not want it dragged out any longer, and we have accepted the fact that Kristina will not be a part of our family.
We are all "okay" with everything and are "healing", although we're out of a lot of money. But it's all in God's Will. The strange thing is that we still really feel like this was the road God wanted us to take...although we have no idea WHY.
During this difficult trial with Kristina's adoption, we also experienced a rather traumatic miscarriage with hemorrhaging during this time among MANY other unexpected and quite "large" trials that I won't go into at this time! We even found out last week that our baby died on the day we were in court in Michigan. It's been a roller coaster ride for our family with trial after trial.
Even though our "flesh" would still like to know WHY God allowed all of these trials, we know that God's in charge and we are learning how Job handled all he went through. We discovered that God's heart reached out to Job and REWARDED him many times over, not after he defended himself as to how righteous he was and why he deserved favor from God, but when he PRAYED for his "friends", some of whom had done him wrong. Wow! He became OTHER-focused, rather than "Job-focused"! In the same way we are determined that we are going to pray for our "friends" (judge and social worker) BY NAME and trust that someday (whether on earth or in eternity) that we will see the BIGGER picture as to why God allowed all this to happen to our family.
Many blessings to all who prayed faithfully! We have really enjoyed all the prayer support we've felt and received through this process. Don't stop praying now...we all need it still!Above all, continue to pray for us and for Kristina to be placed, miraculously, in a STRONG CHRISTIAN family!!!!
Lisa Metzger
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