Apr. 12, 2007 - Marriage by Suess
"One Day, making tracks
In the Prarie of Prax,
Came a North-Going Zax
And a South Going-Zax.
And it happened that both of them came to a place where they bumped..."
My husband LOVES music. In our early days I used to tell him that I married him for his CD collection. His taste in music is so varried that a girl couldn't possibly appreciate everything from his musical library the way he does. On occassion this has caused us to come to a place where we bump. Today was one of those days.
You see, my Steven is such an even-keeled kinda guy emotionaly (Yes, it does amuse me that this is so, and that his name is Steven) that he uses his music as a way to feel. When he listens to music it is never in the background. It truly becomes what you are doing until the song ends thirty minutes from now. He loves to close his eyes and allow the song's story in. He can do this at any moment, no matter what else is going on in his enviroment.
I, on the other hand, may not act on my emotions or display them all the time for everyone to see, but they are there. I am pensive. You might even say that I am noisy inside. I do not need anything external to create turbulence - it's already there! I have no problem accessing it, and if anything, I have to work very hard to quiet it. On top of this, my surroundings can be so clamorous moment by moment that I CRAVE those rare times of silence.
So what do you do when things are chaotic, your routine is lost because one member of your family or another has been sick every day for weeks AND you have allowed way too much business into your life? What do you do when you feel stuck and behind, and are trying your hardest to become unstuck (with a smile), and your husband picks just that time to saturate the air with music that reminds you of a feverish sleep; a strange dream that goes around and around and that you just can't wake up from? Why, by all means, if you are me, you stand there with him "Foot to foot. Face to face" and you say something like this:
"Look here, now!" the North Going Zax said. "I say! You are blocking my path. You are right in my way. I'm a North-Going Zax and I always go north. Get out of my way, now, and let me go forth!"
And what do you do if you are the husband of said North-Going Zax and are sick on the couch, just trying to escape the fact that after a couple of days now, you still aren't feeling well? You could snap:
"Who's in whose way?"
You could say:
"I always go south, making south-going tracks. So you're in MY way! And I ask you to move and let me go south in my south-going GROOVE."
You could say this but this would simply cause your "North-Going Zax wife to puff her chest up with pride." She would just say something about HER needs-her desire for 'happy music' (if any music at all), and then things would get really ugly with both of you declaring your unwillingness to budge, "not an inch to the west! Not an inch to the east!"
You could respond this way, but you are a smart Zax husband and you know that this would only threaten to cause "the whole household to stand still."
So instead you really make your wife mad. You build a bridge over her! You just smile at her and put on this:
Comments
Apr. 14, 2007 - You are QUICK!
Posted by Amber
I'm already on your friend list, thanks! I haven't been around in a while bcz I just moved, but hopefully I'll get back in the swing of things, because I love to blog. I would blog in a box, with a fox, I would blog in a house, I will even blog with a mouse. I would blog here or there, I would blog anywhere.....did I mention Green Eggs and Ham is my favorite Dr. Suess book?
Hope to see you around.
God Bless,
Amber
Apr. 15, 2007 - LOL!
Posted by ApplesofGold
You are too funny and it sounds like your dh is, too.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this post. Wow-so much marriage reality right in a Dr. Seuss book. I love Dr. Seuss! Holly
Apr. 15, 2007 - Untitled Comment
Posted by nsremom
I don't know what is funnier....your post with the whole Seuss thing.....or the fact that your husband OWNS that CD. I did in fact listen to it and let me say, "What?"
Why do you own that? He must keep you laughing. :)
Apr. 15, 2007 - <i>Untitled Comment</i>
Posted by callmekate
How nice to run into another OR homeschooler! We are in Seaside all the time, how long did you live there? I've never been to Bend, though I'd like to visit, I hear it's a lovely area. Thanks for stopping by my blog. Have a great week!
Kate
Edited by callmekate on Apr. 15, 2007 at 11:45 PM
Apr. 19, 2007 - Untitled Comment
Posted by debbiecorley
CUTE CUTE post! Thanks for making me laugh!
I can totally relate, by the way, I am also an auditory overload sensitive type. There are drums being recorded as I write (out in the music studio)....the outer wall is vibrating. Quiet is so rare.... and underappreciated by those noisy types. I'm going to take a bubble bath.
