Friday, November 24, 2006

Children and Work

In my previous post I talked about my oldest child’s willingness to help around the house. He’s now 4 1/2 years old.  We have always encouraged our children to work because work is good as ordained by God. We received some comments in the past such as:

  • “He’s helping out right now because it is something new. Just wait until the novelty wears off, he won’t want to help anymore.”
  • “It may seem fun right now, but wait until he’s older as it wouldn’t be fun anymore. Naturally, he wouldn’t help anymore.”

Even though I didn’t exactly like hearing these comments in the midst of my blissful glee about my son’s helpfulness, I knew they were true. However, these comments didn’t deter me from impressing upon my son the importance of work. I knew the day would come when my son lost interest in work and would rather play than work. I’m realistic and I know the fallenness of man. Well, that day has come. The novelty has worn off and laziness has kicked in in full momentum. Since the inevitable has become a reality, what are we doing about it?

Recently I have given him the task of stacking cloth diapers. I told him that since he is old enough and is well capable of helping out, he now is responsible for stacking (clean) cloth diapers and accessories. I make sure I’ve given him a job that is within his capability lest he becomes exasperated. To my dismay, thus far he is not doing a good job as he would rather play than work. This is what I have anticipated.  He can take up to several hours and accomplish virtually nothing.
What has been our response thus far to his laziness?  We continue to communicate to him that work is good and that God looks unfavorably upon sluggards. Every member of the family will contribute as soon he or she is ready. My husband encourages him to make himself useful so as to bless others. He has been much blessed and gifted by God, and accordingly, those gifts are given to bless others.  In helping with the diapers, he is blessing his siblings as well as his mother. Besides having these kind of talks with him, we also take away his play time until he is finished with his job. Once in a while I give him a treat as a reward for doing a particularly excellent job, though it’s communicated that this is his responsibility as part of the family.

Any out there have suggestions for motivating / helping young children to do chores with diligence and faithfulness and a pursuit of excellence?

Comments

Cindy said...

Children and Work

I know I'm responding to an old post--maybe since November your children have all developed stellar attitudes toward their chores! If they're anything like mine, though, I'm sure they'll go through seasons so I'll share my ideas for what they're worth.

We like to do chores in the early morning, right after family devotions when everybody is fresh from a good night's sleep. We capitalize on 2 Thessalonians 3:10: ""If a man will not work, he shall not eat" and Proverbs 16:26: "The laborer's appetite works for him; his hunger drives him on." (The children are all encouraged with these verses if they are lagging, and breakfast after chores is usually a pretty good motivator.) I think ONE time ONE of the children actually missed breakfast--but it was such a disappointment (and an example to the others!) that we haven't had any significant problems with morning jobs at all.

Another rule we have is that our four chore-age children all need to be working until ALL the jobs are done. Our oldest usually zips through his work and our middler typically dawdles, but the older brother helps out his younger siblings until all assigned duties are completed.

I do allow the children a little leeway when it comes to "enjoying their work," since they often get caught up in games or joking around if they are working together. I try to keep them on track in a loving way with Scriptural encouragement, or I may set a timer if I think it will help them to remember the task at hand. If after a couple of gentle admonitions the "playing" seems to get out of control, a spanking usually helps them to stay focused!

Of course, I keep busy during chore time as well. It's work time for all of us! My own example and attitude count for a lot when it comes to getting everyone to work toward a common goal.

Sometimes we put on some praise music (whatever your style), which can keep everyone moving a bit and also help encourage an attitude of praise while working.

Monday, January 8, 2007 4:11 PM