Friday, December 28, 2007

Family Worship Part 4

Posted in Family Worship

 

One further, slightly disconnected thought…most Christians can be heard to say, “Children are a blessing from the Lord.” But we don’t really act like they are. We don’t really want them around. I think we often feel like they are a bothersome blessing.

Sometimes I feel like God has been testing my resolve on this with Bess. She screams and fusses and climbs all over everything and God says to me, “There, do you really believe it? Even now? Is she a blessing?” Yes Lord, even so. Although it sure would be nice if you’d calm her down a bit and grant me a bit of wisdom for I’m in great need.

If we are honest with ourselves, we like sending our children to SS because it gives us a break. We can focus on us, our needs, listen to the sermon and “get” something out of it…children get in the way. They take time. They have to be trained. They break our concentration. It’s nice to sit back on Sunday and take a brief break. I confess to feeling the same way and yet I wonder is this right?

Maybe it is all about training. People attended church for hundreds of years before SS was even invented. Did they stay home when their little ones were young? I think not. But, I also cannot imagine them (the children) being rowdy or noisy…

I picture beautiful children in their Sunday best sitting quietly, hands folded in their laps, staring up at light streaming through stained glass windows…maybe this is a memory of myself minus the beautiful part. I certainly stared at the windows enough…it is the one thing I miss.

I wish I could remember my own training…I guess I need to talk to my mom...I was raised Catholic and in the Catholic Church there is no SS. Children are in church with their parents. There is a crying room, but I can’t imagine my parents spending too much time in there. So I must have been trained or something. Then again, maybe it was the dress.

blessings,

dani

Behold, children are a gift of the Lord… (Psalm 127:3)

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• Saturday, December 29, 2007 - Family Worship

Posted by ADB
I stumbled across you blog and noticed the posts on family worship. Recently, I have been struggling with the same things - funny, huh!

We (me, my wife and 4 children) attend a family integrated church. This is a first for us, and it has been great so far. Yes, there are 'those days,' but life is not perfect, I guess. With our youngest (13 months) we have tried to stretch him through the singing portion of worship, then my wife brings him out to the quiet area for the teaching portion.

Service is definitely not library-quiet, but I am surprised at the attentiveness and control shown by the children. John & Noel Piper have a brief article on how they trained their children to worship with them. I recommend it.

As for family worship, I don't have the answer. For me, I struggle with wanting it to be perfect. What I have been reading lately is to start with shorter periods of time and to embrace some chaos. There is not 'right' way to do family worship. The important thing is to teach our children the gospel.
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• Wednesday, January 9, 2008 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Anonymous
Wow, great post, Danielle. I feel the same way at church. "I'm with the children all week! Can't *I* get a break? I mean, I just want to be fed! Can I just be fed without interruption?" It all comes back to our lack of character I think - we are too lazy to train, we selfishly want "peace," we want to take the easy road (Sunday school)... Plus my kids love Sunday school, but it seems like they love it because they love treats, honestly. :)

I can totally imagine you sitting quietly in church. Ask your mother. I'm curious. Were you not a very sweet, compliant child? Or were you "sitting down on the outside but standing up on the inside"? :)

-Donna
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• Thursday, January 10, 2008 - Untitled Comment

Posted by dlmiranda
I was a very, very quiet child. My parents prob. had no trouble keeping me seated. Plus, my Dad is very...strong willed and verbal so one or two words from him would have had me sitting in my seat (prob close to tears) the whole time. I don't remember though. I don't know what I was like at two. My mom has told me I talked early and a lot and wasn't shy, but it is hard to imagine.

We've (the kids and I) missed two Sundays because of sickness, etc. and last Sunday Aaron complained about missing SS. He no longer gets treats (thank goodness) but I think (and this is crazy) that he thinks he will get in trouble for missing and that he will get behind. They do a lot of work in his class. The sad thing is he is never allowed to interact with his fellow classmates so he doesn't really know them. He has been with the same kids for years now, but all the classes are so structured that the kids (unless they socialize outside of class or go to school together) don't have relationships with each other.
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• Thursday, January 10, 2008 - Untitled Comment

Posted by dlmiranda
About the above not having relationships thing - I guess that is both good and bad.
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