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December 3, 2009
Chilli Corn Salad
Posted By SuperAngel in Food-Health
When we went on our HUGE 2008 Vacation, we got to stay with our good friend, Sprittibee and she made us a wonderful dinner that included an amazing Corn Salad. It has become a family favorite now... its almost addicting... :P
Ingredients
1 bag of frozen corn – thawed
1/2 red chopped
1/2 onion chopped
1/2 of a 1 lb. bag of sharp cheddar grated cheese
1 1/2 tbsp chili powder
3 tbsp Mayo or Miracle Whip
1 bag of frito corn chips
salt to season
Directions
Mix corn, pepper, onion, cheese, and chili powder well. Add in Mayo, but only enough to lightly cover everything, not drown. Crunch up the Fritos, and add right before serving or to each individual servings since the chips will soften.
A simple tasty salad that will compliment any dinner... we had BBQ chicken, mashed potatoes, and green beans with our corn salad last night. We had it with mexican when we went to Sprittibee's house. It's awesome with anything really! ;)
©AmandaDixon2009
Dec. 3, 2009
Essie in Progress- Book Review
Posted By Martyomenko
My Review:
Essie is a busy mom of two children and a hard worker, trying to juggle many things when she finds she is expecting their third child, her husband is going through some kind of mid-life crisis, her mother does not understand her and her errant father-in-law reappears on the scene. Add to this, her struggle to support her husband, gets her a giant Hummer to drive with the toddlers, tantrums and pregnancy changes.....
This book was a story that was different to try to follow. You get to see Essie's life view and her father-in-law's, who has really messed up in his lifetime, but is trying to make it right. He would love to be involved with his son's life now and his grandchildren. He lives on a boat and is a little odd though. You feel for Essie as she does not want to hurt her husband, but a Hummer for a family car?? She struggles with it, but decides that she loves her husband and letting him do this, well, it will be okay, it will not kill her and that impressed me most about this book as I thought it was the perfect example of great submission in a marriage.
The story was a bit hard for me to follow, actually. I really enjoyed pieces of it, but others I felt like I needed to go back and re-read in order to figure it out. In fact, I thought I had finished it and then realized I never had and finished the story later. It had a wonderful redemptive story between the father and son and forgiveness, doing what is right when you have really messed up though. - Martha
It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old...or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!
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and the book:
Essie in Progress
Kregel Publications (April 1, 2009)
***Special thanks to Marjorie Presten for sending me a review copy.*** ABOUT THE AUTHOR:  Marjorie Presten is a native Georgian who has her own fair share of experience juggling career and motherhood. She lives outside of Atlanta with her husband, Tom, and their three children. Listen to a radio interview about the book HERE. Product Details: List Price: $13.99 Paperback: 320 pages Publisher: Kregel Publications (April 1, 2009) Language: English ISBN-10: 082543565X ISBN-13: 978-0825435652 AND NOW...THE FIRST CHAPTER:
 Prologue
1972
In a thirty-second phone call, Hamilton Wells would make a decision that would earn him more money than he could spend in his lifetime. Everything was on the line, but he was not nervous, euphoric, or eager with anticipation. In Hamilton’s mind, the matter was not speculative, debatable, or anything less than a sure thing. Hamilton had the gift, and it had never let him down. Yet even before he made the call, he knew money wouldn’t cure the unrelenting pain of his grief. He sat at his desk with only a single orange banker’s lamp for illumination and cried silently.
Her death had been inevitable, but feelings of helplessness still overwhelmed him. His young son’s dependency on him only multiplied his grief and anger. Six-year-old Jack Wells had insisted his father do something to help Mama, but the only thing Hamilton could do was sit at her bedside and try not to cry. Now it was six weeks after her death, and Hamilton knew his son needed him to be strong, to return life to normal. A neighbor had enrolled Jack in the local church baseball league. They played a game every Wednesday afternoon. It will be good for him, they’d said. Life has to go on.
Hamilton cradled his head in his hands and groaned. The enormity of the risk he was about to take didn’t concern him. It was purely mechanical. He would surrender all he owned for just one more blissful afternoon at the lake he and his wife both loved, but now that was impossible. His wife was dead. Nothing he could do would change that.
He remembered the book of Job. Would a loving and caring God do this to the love of my life? Well, he did, Hamilton thought bitterly. Earline had lingered for months. The doctors said it was miraculous that she had endured as long as she had. Be grateful for these last days to say goodbye, they’d said. But for Hamilton, the prolonged end only added anger to his bottomless sorrow. Standing alongside his son as a helpless witness to her slow deterioration and suffering in the final weeks was more than he could bear. It was the worst time of Hamilton’s life. Nothing really mattered anymore, and it seemed he had nothing left to lose.
Under different circumstances, he might have played it safe and put the proceeds away for his son’s education, bought a new house, or perhaps invested in a bit of lake property. He could have become like the rest of the players and worn monograms on his starched cuffs so everyone could remember whose hand they were shaking. Instead, he had gone it alone. His brokerage business had few clients. He was the only big player left. Now he planned to risk everything on something happening on the other side of the world.
Ham couldn’t remember exactly when he had recognized his innate ability to pick the winner out of a crowd. It had always been there, ever since he was conscious of being alive. The talent had blossomed in the military when the card games occasionally got serious. Now, with every dollar he had to his name, Hamilton approached wheat futures with that same instinct. The Russian harvest had been a disaster, and the United States was coming to the rescue. The price of wheat was going to go through the roof, and then through the floor. He was going to make a fortune on both ends.
He picked up the phone and dialed a number on the Chicago Mercantile exchange. He listened for a few moments as the connection was made. Young Jack tugged at his father’s shirtsleeve. “Pop? Can we go now?” Jack held a baseball in his hand and a glove under his arm. Hamilton swiveled his chair, turning his back to his son.
A familiar voice announced his name. “How can I help you?”
“It’s Ham,” he said. “Short the entire position.”
“What? Everything?” the voice asked.
“Everything.” No emotion colored his voice.
Young Jack crept gingerly around the chair to face his father. “Pop,” he whispered, “come on, the game is about to start.” Hamilton shook his head and looked away.
The voice on the phone was still talking. “Most folks are still enjoying the ride, Ham. You could get hurt.”
“It’s not going a penny higher. Short it all.”
“Don’t say I didn’t warn you.”
“Warn me? My wife is dead. What else matters?”
The voice mumbled something about her passing.
“She didn’t pass. She’s dead. Just do what I ask.”
“OK, Ham.” The phone disconnected.
Jack was standing there in front of him, shoulders slumped. The ball hung loose at the end of his fingers, and the glove had fallen on the carpet. “Pop, can we go now?”
“Sorry, Son. Not today.”
“It’s not fair!” Jack erupted. Hot tears sprang up in his eyes. “What am I supposed to do now?”
Ham looked down, silent.
Jack hurled the ball to the floor, wiped his tears angrily, and stormed out of the house.
Ten minutes later on the futures board, wheat ticked down.
It ticked down again.
And so it would continue. Ham would be richer than he’d ever imagined. He’d never experience another financial challenge for the rest of his life. It was not really important, though. Scripture came back to him: “what good is it for a man to gain the whole world, yet forfeit his soul?”
He would trade it all to have his love, his life, back again.
But that was not an option.
Out his window, Ham could see young Jack riding his bicycle furiously down the street. He watched with a passive surrender as his son’s small frame shrank into the distance.
Dec. 3, 2009
Merry Christmas Button for Your Blog
Posted By HomeschoolBlogger Company Blog in Whats Bloggin
What do you think of that nifty button up in the right hand corner of the blog? Want one? Just go to the Merry Christmas button website! You can choose a left or right hand side button. It's a great way to decorate your blog for Christmas!
Thursday, December 3, 2009
A fun and productive week
Posted By Foxvalleyfamily
Paul has been on vacation from work this week, and we have had such a wonderful time.
We are having a 'stay-cation.'
I'm still having the kids do morning school (MFW only - not the 3R's) but the afternoons have been filled with family fun.
Joseph has used a lot of his down time to work on projects.
He and Paul worked together to build a model ship. - His first one with glue!
(We've used the snap-together kits up until this point.) They did a great job!

Finished! (although he still needs to paint it)
Joseph also decided to do a little woodworking.
 First he measured and hammered some nails into a round board.

and then he started weaving colored string around them
He's still got a ways to go, but he's of to a great start!

His pattern came from this website
The girls have also been busy. They made darling little church ornaments, and helped decorate HUNDREDS of cookies, ( to give to local Army reserve units,) with their Pioneers troop.
 
I also feel like I've had a productive week. Because we've been doing 1/2 days of school in the mornings, I am happy to report that....we'll be out of Rome by the end of the week!
Dec. 3, 2009
Creative Christmas Letter Ideas
Posted By Nancy in KY in Happy Homeschooling
Wow! The Homeschool Minute readers totally rock!
Here are some of the FABULOUS creative Christmas letter ideas that our readers submitted via email:
- Last year we thought of television show titles that seemed appropriate to events from our year. Here are a few of the entries:
Merry Christmas from the M family! What would your year look like if you described it according to TV show titles? (I’m sure this is a burning question for all of you.) Ours would look something like this:
Lost – While we’ve never actually seen this show, it could aptly describe K and C’s teeth. K lost 4 over a period of three months. C, not to be outdone, lost her first shortly thereafter.
The Office – OK, another one we’ve not actually seen. But it doesn’t really matter, because Dh no longer goes to the office. 2008 saw a dramatic increase in his consulting business, so we’ve returned to the land of the self-employed. We’re thankful that God has blessed his business so much more than we deserve.
Extreme Home Makeover – We had our own version of this show, just without the lights, cameras and one-week deadline. We spent most of the year working on the remodel, changing our small, awkwardly laid out two bedroom home into a larger, open three bedroom with room for D to work and the kids to do school work or head off to their own rooms. With the remodel, R has learned more about the Albuquerque area dumps than you’d ever want to know. And while the country is struggling financially, D and R have attempted to single-handedly keep the area Home Depot and Lowe’s in business.
(I'm leaving out a huge section of her Christmas letter, but I love how she ended it... -Nancy)
It’s a Wonderful Life – Finally, no holiday season would be complete without this timeless classic. Ours is a wonderful life, thanks entirely to Christ’s love and His ultimate sacrifice. Praying that His love changes your holiday and your lives!
Submitted by Robin
- For the past 12 years I have continued my mother's tradition (started when I was in kindergarten!) of writing a poem at Christmas. All of the year's highlighs (and some low-lights) are chronicled using a 4-line stanza format (first two and last two lines rhyming), with about 8 stanzas total. Usually the first stanza is standard Christmas-greeting fare, and the last sums up with a view of the True Meaning of Christmas. Usually each family member gets a stanza, and then a couple more for general family events. Folks look forward to them every year -- I think my parents' friends would cause a ruckus if she ever stopped this tradition!
Submitted by Ellen
- I'm a big fan of trying to be funny which usually involves poking fun at ourselves. Here are ideas I have used over the years:
-Last year was an impromptu description of our family by the 8 year old. He was making a newspaper (his own idea) and I wrote down as he dictated. How he summed up our family was HILARIOUS! "Daddy likes to snuggle, likes Joel love, and likes to go to church." I also included 16 random things in the pattern of a facebook note that was going around last year.
-A comic that illustrated each member of the family followed by a paragraph summary.
-A 'Most wanted' including AKA, wanted for, description and last seen. Ex. the baby was charged with disturbing the peace. "Since his appearance Joel has repeatedly and without remorse violated noise ordinances. Victims drop charges after he smiles at them."
-Our year's story in the pattern of "Twas the night before Christmas" or to the Gilligan's island theme song.
-The year the boys were in Fiddler on the Roof, the letter was paragraphs themed according to song titles. ex "Wonder of Wonder, miracle of miracles"
-Top ten lessons learned, then paragraph explanation. Ex "Free library is a contradiction in terms. (fines b/c we ck out 30 bks at a time) "If you take the cheapest flight, be prepared to find out why."
-Thank yous from our family devotions. With little ones this is hilarious. "Thank you for a good trip. Thank you that we won the revolutionary war."
-On a heavy travel year we copied a map with stars where we had been and short paragraphs telling about our travels.
-Best and worst of the year, and aspects of the year. ex best and worst of working at home ;-) best field trips, best verses
-Once upon a time - a fairy tale about the King Queen and 5 children. Story about disturbances in kingdom - too much water used for bathing, mysterious odors etc... A sage is consulted and concludes castle is infected with adolescence. Solution? Time and 3 potions- Compassion Growth formula, Backbone Strenghthener, Sense of Humor.
-ABC's of Christmas. A word beginning with each letter and a one sentence explanation.
-"Our Space" done like a Myspace with a profile pic and description of each family member.
-This year is questions heard around our house, with answers mom says or just thinks and keeps to herself. ;-)
What a fun walk down memory lane!!! My favorites are the comics, Most Wanted and the fairy tale. Some years are better than others ;-)
Submitted by Betsy
- This is the third year we have written letters - and it is a blessing to us -and hopefully to those we send the letters. We create 2 letters - one for our personal friends & family and another for our church family, since my husband is a pastor. Our church family sees us so regularly - we don't feel the need to update them on what is happening with each of us.
We try to pick one of the Christmas Hymns - and put one verse of the hymn at the top, and then we use our introduction paragraph - to encourage thoughts of the true meaning of Christmas - based on the hymn we used. For example - this year we used the hymn, O Come all Ye Faithful - so we encouraged those reading our letter - to come and adore , and behold the Lord of lords. We then pick out a verse of scripture related to the hymn, and have it at the bottom our letter.
Our second paragraph is a personal note to personal friends & family about our family or to our church family we put a summary of the encouraging work of God in our church. My husband then writes a handwritten note to each church member - and I take care of writing a personal note to our friends/family outside of church.
We too enjoy receiving notes and even cards- when they have a personal note in them. Just thought I would send this . I am fairly new to Old Schoolhouse, but what a blessing it has been to me. Thank You.
Submitted by R&K
- Our annual Christmas letter wraps up the year's events in the form of a Dr. Seuss-inspired rhyme. It's always really fun to put together, and now that our children are learning to rhyme words, it's really become a family tradition!
We’re recounting ’09, a year chockfull of blessings
As we eat our fill of turkey and dressings.
So how do we wrap up this year, grand and merry?
Guess we’ll just start with the stuff back in January.
Submitted by Brandy
(This was a fabulous full page poem. I absolutely LOVED it, but didn't want to give away her whole letter. ~Nancy)
And here are some comments from The Old Schoolhouse Facebook page:
When I was 6 months pregnant--for our first child-- our letter came from his point of view. We didn't know if we were having a boy or girl, so we just said "Baby D". The next 2 years it also came from him. Friends and family loved it! It was a fresh take. Not just a letter from mom: "so and so did this, so and so did that". It's become that in the past few years as my boys have grown. I'm determined this year to make it unique in some way again! Thanks for the inspiration! - Joie
We really had fun one year and sent out a Mad Lib as our Christmas letter! I included our e-mail address for people to send us their version of our Christmas letter with their words filled in, then I would send them the actual letter with the correct words. It was kind of a fun way to write about our family that year. I was thinking it might be fun to do it again! :o) - Yvonne
I don't have the time or energy at Christmas, so I picked another holiday. We happened to choose Valentines Day. I figure people get lots of Christmas cards they don't have time to read, so if I'... See Morem going to take the time to write it, I want somebody to have the time to read it. People are surprised and seem happy to get a Valentine's card (We try to keep it short and sweet, but include a picture, greeting, some kind of thing we've learned to appreciate through the year, and keep it low on the boring details.) - Jennifer
I have to say my favorites are those that are 'real' and funny. I don't like those that seem like mini resumes of accomplishments (bragging). I rather hear how the Lord has blessed a family/person than how advanced a reader a child is, but that is just my preference. With that said, my Christmas letter is not really a... See More letter at all but more of a newsletter. I call it The Santiago Fun-Times, and people always tell me they love getting it because it's funny. I format it like a newspaper (one sheet, front & back) and have sections like The Sports Section (My husband is a coach) and 'Arts and Leisure' where I write real things about our family but in short articles. It's fun to write & read & I need to get started on it. ;-) -Jasmine
We've done the newspaper format (with a variety of articles from different "reporters") as well as a "menu" outlining a smorgasbord of appetizers, entreés, and desserts from which our readers could "taste" a year's worth of our family's activities. - Paula
We started doing Christmas letters the year after my oldest was born. That first letter was a simple summary of our year as a new family. We change it up every year. One year the highlights were summarized in a seasons theme (winter, spring, summer, fall). Another year, we did a top ten list. We did an acrostic of CHRISTMAS. Last year we did a multiple choice quiz and that was the one that got the most compliments so far. This year the theme was TWO because events in our lives were doubled. - Anna
I really appreciate you all taking the time to write in and share these awesome ideas. Readers on the FB page are already saying how much these suggestions have helped them!
Anyone else have a creative idea to share? Just leave it in the comments section!
Merry Christmas,
~Nancy
P.S. - You can still read The Homeschool Minute issue on Christmas Letters if you haven't gotten a chance to read it yet. The Familyman has some great things to remember when you're writing your family's Christmas letter.
Dec. 3, 2009
I feel silly.....
Posted By Martyomenko
probably because I am sitting her thinking about all kinds of things that you are not supposed to think about late at night? I mean who sits up and thinks about these kind of things? Like, wondering what it will be like in 20 years when I am almost 51?? If I will have gray hair and be all crochety..... I won't be sitting here thinking it was nice to have a quiet evening with the children at church, I may be wondering what they are all doing??? Well, that got sad suddenly! Anyhow, happy things!! I was thinking I need to check on my 52 things to do this year. I think I still have until April to complete it, but I am lagging behind, although I did try to smile at people all day today! I think I kind of forgot this morning though......
We had a fun morning though. We went on a art field trip with the children and went to this place where you paint pottery. It is expensive, so we made magnets and other small things.....it was fun and then we went out to lunch in a really, really noisy place, where we were not causing the majority of the noise. I had three really hungry boys and I forget how expensive it is to take out three hungry boys.......yeah. Well, it was still fun.
I am really anxious for snow, but I have to get my snow tires on this week, cause it is Dec. and I have to drive northwest this week and clean out my mom's basement and apartment upstairs. We are planning on trying to rent out the place, but we all a little bit terrified of the giant spiders that live in the basement. There is a bunch of junk down there and alot of good stuff no one can get to or even use the basement at all because of the fear of spiders. So, we are going to convert one of the bedrooms that for some reason no matter what we do has lots of spiders in it.....into a giant pantry/ organized storage room and that way maybe actually someone can be using the basement for something useful. I would love to tear down a couple walls and do what we wanted to do when we first built it.......but as my sister and I built the wall, maybe it has sentimental value?? Not really, so much...so who knows...
Well, time for bed....and enough silly chatter!
Dec. 2, 2009
Life in Kentucky - The Game Played for Medical Care
Posted By Sagerats in KentuckyLife
Several times since we've moved to Kentucky we've been asked if we have experienced any culture shock. At first I thought no, not really. I mean, aside from not finding the margarine we like to use, and discovering that the Goodwills don't have color tag, sale day, nothing has really changed for us. It's not like we've moved to Chile. People do talk differently but on the whole they are understandable and the currency is still the American buck, for what's worth.
Then my one of my aunts pointed out that our difficulties with government agencies and official businesses did in fact fall under the category of culture shock. So I'll bore you with some details of this culture shock, in case you are looking to move to Kentucky yourself. It may save you some irritation if you know ahead of time. Call it a cheat sheet to Kentucky life, if you will.
That's the thing here you see, everyone expects that I should know how to play the Live in Kentucky game. While it might be quite plain to you, it's all Kentuckyian to me.
Getting doctor appointments in Kentucky has been quite an experience. Now maybe what I'm about to blog about happens all over the U.S. now-a-days, but it had never happened to us before and we've lived in four other states. What made me so mad was how the receptionist treated me like I should know exactly what she was talking about.
Dear Man had a sinus infection and after it was evident that it was not going to go away on its own, I attempted to get a doctor appointment for him. (Don't any of you leave a comment saying that sinus infections can't go away on their own like we heard from countless people. Yes, they can go away on their own, Dear Man has had several do this, and just what do you think people did prior to antibiotics not more than 100 years ago? I've not read a single history story about people living in fear of getting a sinus infection.)
Moving on . . . so I find out which doctor's offices are ones we can visit on our insurance plan (which was an irritation all its own). I then call several offices only to be told that most of them are not taking new patients. Which is fine. What got me was that those who were taking new patients first had to have some information so they could find out if we were drug seekers. Which I find rather ironic. I mean, if Dear Man has a sinus infection is he not seeking to get drugs from the doctor to cure it? A week later we found out that we indeed were not drug addicts or makers, and we could now schedule an appointment. Except by now Dear Man no longer had a sinus infection. (See, yet again proving my point on that score.)
I tell the receptionist that we don't need the appointment anymore and she informs me that if I ever want to see the doctors in their office we have to have a physical. You can't just call up and say, "Hey, I think I've got a dastardly rash, can I come in and have you confirm my suspicions?" No, can't do that because first the doctor has to see you to make sure you aren't a drug seeker. Which is ridiculous, why can't they see that while seeing the patient when he has an actual need to be there?
Okay, fine, make me an appointment I told the receptionist. Only she can't get me one for two more weeks because we are new patients and they only see two of those a week and they are booked up on new patients that far out. If Dear Man would have still had a sinus infection at the time of making the appointment he surely would no longer have it in two more weeks. He'd be dead from gangrene of the sinuses as everyone was so keen on suggesting.
The receptionist did say Dear Man could go to the ER. I told her that was dumb, who goes to the ER for a sinus infection? This of course won me no points. She then began her litany of it could be more then just a sinus infection, in a way that said because I'm only a housewife I couldn't possibly understand medicine and illness.
Now aside from being treated guilty as a druggie until being proven innocent, a part of this conversation also covered just what happens after the physical. The way the receptionist was putting it, it sounded like that no matter when we called it would be two weeks or more until we could see the doctor, even after we had established that we weren't out for pharmaceuticals to maintain our drug habit. Again I thought this was pretty stupid, and I was trying to ask her what a person was supposed to do if they had something that needed to be taken care of but it was not an ER visit kind of problem. The receptionist was angry at my attempts to find out the next step of the Living in Kentucky game.
That's how the game is played here you see, only one rule at a time and once you know that rule and cover the obligatory steps to accomplishing that rule, then and only then can you know the next rule. Trust me, I've seen it played out from getting library cards to car registrations.
Finally I was able to drag it out of the receptionist that yes, once the physical was done we could call up and make an appointment for the same day for any of our non-ER needs. Whew! Now why couldn't she have just explained all of that from the beginning? I still say it's a stupid way to run a business but if they'd have just explained all the details I would have known what to expect.
So if you ever move to Kentucky I suggest that you make doctor appointments pronto to get that ridiculous physical out of the way. Otherwise you may be waiting weeks to get your owie looked at, by which time you'll either be dead or cured but with a scar that has cancerous properties because everything is dangerous to your health and must be looked at by a medical professional before it can be determined a non-threat.
Dec. 2, 2009
Family Photo
Posted By KayinMaine in Family Life
A dear sister in the Lord took this lovely picture of our family while she, her husband, and her sweet daughters were visiting a few weeks ago. I think the photo came out well, though I'm not sure of the reason for the look on my second son's face. Maybe this one makes up for it....

Dec. 2, 2009
One Simple Act by Debbie Macomber
Posted By Martyomenko
My Review:
Because of birthday season and Thanksgiving, I have gotten behind on reading. But this book looks really good and I will post a short review of it later this week!
It is time for a FIRST Wild Card Tour book review! If you wish to join the FIRST blog alliance, just click the button. We are a group of reviewers who tour Christian books. A Wild Card post includes a brief bio of the author and a full chapter from each book toured. The reason it is called a FIRST Wild Card Tour is that you never know if the book will be fiction, non~fiction, for young, or for old...or for somewhere in between! Enjoy your free peek into the book!
You never know when I might play a wild card on you!
Today's Wild Card author is:
and the book:
One Simple Act
Howard Books (November 3, 2009)
***Special thanks to Jennifer Willingham of Simon & Schuster sending me a review copy.*** ABOUT THE AUTHOR:  Debbie Macomber is one of today’s leading voices in women’s fiction. With more than 100 million copies of her books in print and translated into twenty-three languages, her popularity is worldwide. Debbie and her husband live in Washington and Florida and are the proud parents of four children and grandparents of nine grandchildren. Visit the author's website. Product Details: List Price: $22.99 Hardcover: 224 pages Publisher: Howard Books (November 3, 2009) Language: English ISBN-10: 1439108935 ISBN-13: 978-1439108932 AND NOW...THE FIRST CHAPTER:
 Chapter One
Fleas, Footsteps, and Check-out Lanes
Giving from a Grateful Heart
Kate stepped out of her bookstore at the end of a long, tiring day, locked the door behind her, pulled her scarf up over her nose and mouth to shield her lungs from the bitter cold air, and rushed across the lot to her car. Just one quick stop at the grocery store and she’d be on the way home to cuddle up with her new book in front of a warm fire.
As she waited at the traffic light to turn into the grocery store lot she took off one glove to feel if the air blasting out of the heat vents was starting to warm. Ah, yes. What a relief. In the few minutes it had taken her to get from her bookstore to the grocery store her fingers had started to ache from the cold. “I think I was born with cold fingers,” she muttered. The light changed to green and as she turned into the lot she came alongside a narrow median strip and noticed a man holding a crudely made hand-lettered cardboard sign. HOMELESS. NEED FOOD. PLEASE HELP. At his feet was a small white plastic bucket. His collar was pulled high against the cold, but her eyes went to his hands holding the sign. Bare hands.
My fingers ache from five minutes in this cold car, with gloves on. How cold must his be? she wondered. Her eyes went to his face. Late twenties, probably six or seven years older than Mark. The sudden thought of her son instantly made her shoulders sag. She hadn’t seen Mark since summer. Addicted to drugs, Mark had left home several months ago after a two year struggle—maybe war was a better word—with his parents over his drug abuse. He still called sometimes, but he’d been bunking in with friends, house hopping, and he’d even slept on the streets rather than come back home. Never had she felt so helpless as she’d felt watching her son self-destruct these past two years. Never so powerless to meet the deep needs of the son she loved. But he wasn’t ready to give up his drugs or his illusion of freedom. He remained elusive about his whereabouts and declined every offer Kate made to meet him someplace to talk. Where is he tonight? Cold and hungry like this guy? Begging on some street corner? And if a kind stranger gives him a ten dollar bill, he’ll buy his next hit of pills before buying a warm meal. Kate’s heart sank. Are Mark’s hands cold tonight?
And then it came to her. A quiet nudge. She parked, hurried into the store to pick up bread, eggs, and some yogurt for the weekend, then hit one more aisle. Through the checkout, a dash back to her car, and back along the other side of the median strip, where she pulled alongside the young man, rolled down her window and stopped. Her heart picked up its pace. He walked over to her car, bucket held out, but she didn’t hand any money out the window. Instead she held out a warm pair of gloves she’d just bought. He looked startled.
“Your hands must be terribly cold,” she said. “I hope these help.” The young man looked confused for a moment. Then accepted the gloves. “Thanks,” he said.
The car behind her honked and she pulled away and moved toward the intersection. She glanced in the rearview mirror and saw him pulling on the gloves. She blinked to clear a few tears away. They were warm on her cold checks, but another warmth from somewhere in her core was spreading upward, and she found herself smiling.
For the first time in a long time she didn’t feel powerless at the thought of Mark. Take care of my son tonight, Lord, she prayed. Show him Your love through the kindness of a stranger. And Lord, comfort the mother of that young man tonight.
In that one simple act Kate had discovered the power of generosity. She’d not only warmed a troubled young man; she’d kindled a spark of hope for Mark. And she realized that God had just used her to care for the son of another worried mother. And who knows, maybe the young man on the median strip called is mother that night.
Just one simple act.
A Discovery Worth Sharing
You’ve read the subtitle of this book, Discovering the Power of Generosity. If you recognized my name on the cover of the book you may be asking yourself why a writer known for fiction is writing a nonfiction book on generosity The answer is . . . well . . . if you don’t mind me quoting the title . . . simple. Have you ever discovered something so great that you just had to tell your friends? You know, like a great little vacation spot you stumbled across while on a trip, or a new clothing store with affordable prices, great selection and really stellar service? Maybe you’ve heard a speaker that had a huge impact on you, or saw a movie that made you laugh ‘til you cried and you knew just the friend who needed it. When we find something we love, we want to share it with it others and spread the joy. Right? That is how I feel about simple acts of generosity. I have had some encounters with generosity—as the recipient, the giver, the witness—that have had a profoundly life-changing impact on me. I’ve just got to share the news.
On the other hand, you may have seen the word generosity and thought to yourself, “Oh great. One more appeal to go digging deep into my pocket.” Don’t worry! You are not in for a brand new load of guilt. I promise! That’s precisely what this book is not about. In our age of overwork and exhaustion, tossing a few dollars here and there may be the easiest way to practice generosity. But I am talking about it in larger terms—life-changing terms.
Like my friend Kate. She made a five minute investment of time, and on a whim probably spent about eight or nine dollars on that pair of gloves. But her decision had nothing to do with her wallet. It had to do with her heart. When she handed those gloves out the window she brought unexpected goodness into a bleak situation. And that goodness spilled over and gave back. It multiplied. For my friend Kate, that was just the beginning. But that is a story for another time.
When you pick up a book, it’s fair to ask, “What’s in it for me?” My goal in writing this is to surprise you with the multiple benefits that come from small and large acts of generosity. I’m convinced that we cannot become all we could be until we are willing to unclench our hands and release what we’ve been clinging to, what we’ve been determined to keep for ourselves. The intriguing part is that once we release such gifts we are free to take hold of something more, something better; something that God has wanted to give us for a very long time.
Simply put, intentional acts of generosity can open our lives to the very best God has to offer. In fact, the very best that God has to offer is exactly where we need to start.
A Tradition Worth Keeping
Several years ago I read of the old Quaker tradition of keeping a gratitude journal. I was inspired by the idea so I purchased a book with blank pages and titled it My Ode to Joy. Each morning I wrote a little thank you note to God. I found it to be a way to start my day on a positive note. Little did I understand then how the discipline of writing down five things for which I am thankful every day would forever change my life.
When I first started I found it easy to hit the big things—good parents, a wonderful husband, my children (and later my grandchildren) and, of course, a writing career I love. These precious gifts still make their way onto my list over and over. Today, when I re-read journals from past years I see that as the months, then years, trickled by, I began to dig deeper for things to add to my list. As I matured in my understanding of how God works, it wasn’t only the good things, the pleasant, “happy” gifts for which I expressed appreciation. I began to see more clearly how God was using life’s trials in unexpected ways for my good so I began to write down my gratitude for the seemingly negative things in my life—my troubles, pains and losses. With that knowledge I became more confident that God would see me through everything, and my gratitude grew deeper. In fact, expressing thanks for negative things is a practice I adopted from Corrie ten Boom as I read her book The Hiding Place.1
Fleas, God’s Secret Weapon
During World War II, Corrie and her sister, Betsie had been arrested in Holland for trying to help Jews escape the Holocaust. They ended up in Ravensbruck, one of the most infamous Nazi concentration camps. Their barracks had been built to hold 400 prisoners but by the time the sisters arrived at the camp, the room held more than 1400 women.
Living conditions were insufferable. The women were housed like stacked cordwood on dirty, flea-infested straw, strewn on wooden platforms. The fleas feasted night and day until everyone was covered in itchy, raised welts.
If it hadn’t been for their Bible and the comfort the sisters were able to take from Betsie’s readings, Corrie didn’t know how they could have survived from day to day. If the guards had ventured into the room they would have discovered the forbidden Bible. Not only would it have been confiscated but the consequences would have been brutal. Over and over, the two sisters wondered over the mystery of why the guards never inspected their barracks.
One morning Betsie read the Bible verse in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 that said, Give thanks in all circumstances. She insisted that they put this into practice, feeling certain that ‘giving thanks’ was the answer to their suffering. As Corrie tells the story, her sister named a litany of things they needed to thank God for—from the amazing circumstance that enabled the sisters to stay together, to the Bible she held in her hands, to the other women in the camp. But when Betsie began to thank God for the suffocating room and finally for the fleas, Corrie balked. It seemed impossible to Corrie to find anything for which to thank God in the deprivation of a concentration camp.
But Betsie insisted, reminding Corrie that God said, “in all circumstances.” Corrie recalled standing in that room with all the other women, thanking God for the fleas and being certain that, for once, Betsie was wrong. Yet, that prayer proved to be a turning point for the women. Their circumstances hadn’t changed but their attitude did. Betsie and Corrie began to connect with the women in a way that changed those barracks and the women imprisoned there. It wasn’t until much later that Corrie discovered the reason the dreaded inspection never happened and their beloved Bible remained undiscovered. It was the very same reason she and Betsie were never stopped from having their much-anticipated Bible studies.
The fleas!
The guards refused to set foot into those barracks because of the out-of-control flea infestation. When Betsie took God at His word and thanked Him in all circumstances, she had no idea those fleas were actually a gift from God.
It’s easy to be grateful for the sunshine, the good things, plenty of food, meeting the budget and compliant children. But God tells us to express gratitude in all circumstances.
Think about it. That means we are called to offer thanks when the wind blows into our lives at hurricane force. We are asked to thank Him when the money runs out long before the end of the month, and when the kids are pushing the boundaries and challenging us at every turn. It doesn’t make any logical sense, does it?
Corrie ten Boom discovered the “sense” of giving thanks in all circumstances. She discovered the vital link between gratitude and trust. Through reading The Hiding Place and through the practice of keeping my own gratitude journal, I, too, have discovered this link. Though we may not understand the whys of our circumstances, by thanking God we grow to acknowledge that He is in control—that He can be trusted. We learn to release our iron-tight grip on our circumstances, and we experience a much-welcome reprieve from worry.
The importance of giving thanks is clear in Philippians 4:6: Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Interesting, isn’t it? The antidote for anxiety is to pray with thanksgiving.
Discovery
The act of gratitude reminds us that God is worthy of our trust.
Footsteps Worth Following
I admit learning to praise God in all circumstances takes practice. I find I need to be intentional and deliberate in doing so, and make it a day-by-day, even minute-by-minute exercise. My grandparents were immigrants of German-Russian extraction who settled in the Dakotas. They were dirt farmers during the Great Depression of the 1930’s. My grandparents, Anna and Anton Adler, rose long before dawn, greeting each day with anticipation. My grandfather labored in his fields only to see his crops fail year after year. When all seemed lost, he didn’t give up. He looked toward the future. He heard of work picking fruit in the Yakima Valley in Washington State. Selling everything they had, my grandparents headed west with six children, leaving their two adult children behind with and all their earthly possessions strapped to the back of their Model T Ford. They headed west, and without a backward glance, he left the farm behind. By all outward appearances my grandfather had failed just as the land had failed and yet, as told in our family stories, my grandparents chose to thank God for the work ahead of them, rather than complain over what they had lost.
In the footsteps of my grandparents I, too, want to look at life with a sense of gratitude. I see my journal writing as starting my morning out on the positive note of practicing gratitude. Instead of grumbling over the drizzle outside my kitchen window, I can smile and remember that it’s the rain that makes everything so green and lush in the Pacific Northwest.
I once read that there are more verses in the Bible that praise God than anything else. I’m not a Bible scholar so I can’t say for sure if that’s true or not but I do know that when we have a thankful heart, despite our circumstances, we lighten our load. Nothing jumpstarts our gratitude like practicing the habit of praise. King David, who poured out his gratitude in verse after verse of the book of Psalms, was called a man after God’s own heart. Isn’t that what we’d like to be? Simply reading his psalms of praise is an ideal way to build gratitude into our lives.
Check-Out Lane Surprise
A few months ago I was in line at the supermarket. My cart was piled high and I was anxious to be on my way. I was grateful that the young woman in front of me only had a partially filled cart. As I watched her carefully unload her groceries, I could see that she seemed anxious. As the checker finished ringing up the groceries, the young woman leaned across the check stand, whispered something to the checker and left—without her groceries. The checker piled the bags onto the cart and set it off to the side.
I guessed the scenario. The young women didn’t have enough money to pay for her purchase.
The clerk looked up at me and smiled, “Thanks for waiting. She had to go to the bank for more money.”
I looked at the mountain of groceries in my cart, remembering my own scary days back in the early 1980’s when I first decided I wanted to be a writer. My husband Wayne and I had four young children and, as a construction electrician, Wayne was often between jobs. I remembered well when were feeding our young family of six on Wayne’s unemployment check of one hundred fifty dollars a week.
I felt that inner discomfort that I sometimes get when God nudges me to do something. I call these moments ‘divine appointments’. It wasn’t by accident that I turned up behind this young wife and mother.
“How much were her groceries?” I asked.
The clerk looked up as if she hadn’t understood my question.
“How much was the bill?” I repeated. She pulled the tape from the bag and told me. Then she shrugged her shoulders as if she didn’t know why I’d be asking.
“Kindly add that amount to my bill,” I told her
The clerk stopped checking my groceries. I was glad my piled-high cart had kept others from lining up behind me.
“She may not even come back,” the woman cautioned. “Sometimes if a person doesn’t have enough money they say they’ll come back because they’re embarrassed. In every likelihood she won’t return, so save your money.”
“No,” I insisted, “I want to pay for her groceries.”
“She probably won’t be back,” she said in a flippant tone. “What do you want me to do with them then?”
“Give the food to someone in need,” I suggested.
I could see the clerk had never had someone offer to pay for someone else’s groceries. She appeared shocked and continued to stare at me. “Why are you doing this?” she asked.
I explained that at one time I’d been in that young woman’s situation. I remembered wondering how I’d feed my family. I told her how grateful I was for all that God had given me. I tried to explain that with gratitude comes the urge to share.
She didn’t say a word and I was left wondering if I was babbling on far too long. What I was doing didn’t make a lot of sense. The clerk was right—the woman who’d left might very well not return. Yet I couldn’t shake the feeling that God wanted me to do this. I’ve come to recognize those promptings from God and learned not to resist them.
Slowly the clerk returned to ringing up my groceries. “I want to know more about God,” she said simply.
That’s when it hit me. This nudge from God wasn’t about the young woman who left her groceries behind. God hadn’t nudged me for her sake, but for the clerk’s sake! For whatever reason, she needed to witness an act of generosity done in the Lord’s name.
I thought of Corrie ten Boom’s fleas. In this case, my own gift of generosity was having a benefit I had never imagined, just as the fleas had a benefit Corrie had never imagined. I thought I was helping the young woman needing groceries, but the Lord had set his sights on the clerk. Something my Florida pastor, James Biles, once said in a sermon came to mind. I remembered being struck so by his words that I wrote them down on the margin of my bulletin: “We aren’t called to share the Gospel. We are called to show the Gospel.”
Look at it this way: had God not been tutoring me in the habit of gratitude, I might have been stewing about the delay caused by the young woman’s inability to pay. Instead I was able to listen to that still, small voice that sometimes gently urges me to act. Had I rationalized that the young woman might never come back for her groceries, I might have missed blessing the person God intended. Although I frequently shopped at that store I never saw her again and yet I feel God planted her in my path that day for His purposes.
Keep the eyes of your heart open for those God may want to help through you today.
Discovery
Practicing an attitude of gratitude spills over to acts of generosity.
The Science of Gratitude
My own discovery about the importance of gratitude was largely developed as I read the Bible. But did you know that science confirms the importance of gratitude as well?
Two researchers, R. A. Emmons of University of California at Davis and M. E. McCullough of the University of Miami, have been researching the Dimensions and Perspectives of Gratitude. Their findings fascinate me and have been the basis of dozens of articles in scientific journals and bulletins. Take a look with me at what they learned.
Their experiments demonstrated that those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised more regularly, reported fewer illness symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded troubles or neutral life events. As they continued to experiment, they found that participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress over a two-month period toward their most important personal goals—academic, interpersonal and health-based—compared to the subjects in their control group.2 So gratitude not only contributed to better overall health but helped reach important goals. Think about it. Our creator designed us to benefit when we give thanks.
And that’s not all. Here’s something else they discovered: a daily gratitude exercise where young adults regularly focused on specific things for which they were thankful resulted in higher reported levels of the positive states of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy.
And remember that I said that generosity grows out of gratitude? The study also showed that participants in the daily gratitude experiment were more likely to report having helped someone with a personal problem or having offered emotional support to another. You see, when gratitude becomes a habit, then generosity seems to follow naturally.
In a sample of adults with neuromuscular disease, a twenty-one-day gratitude intervention resulted in greater amounts of high energy, positive moods, a greater sense of feeling connected to others, more optimistic ratings of one’s life, and better sleep duration and sleep quality, relative to a control group.
Wow!
But there’s more. Stephen Post, PhD, professor of bioethics at Case Western Reserve University’s School of Medicine, is the author of Why Good Things Happen to Good People.3 In an article in Guideposts, “The Power of Gratitude” he shares five things he discovered about gratitude:
Gratitude Defends. Just fifteen minutes a day focusing on the things you’re grateful for will significantly increase your body’s natural antibodies. Gratitude Sharpens. Naturally grateful people are more focused mentally and measurably less vulnerable to clinical depression. Gratitude Calms. A grateful state of mind induces a physiological state called resonance that’s associated with healthier blood pressure and heart rate. Gratitude Strengthens. Caring for others is draining. But grateful caregivers are healthier and more capable than less grateful ones. Gratitude Heals. Recipients of donated organs who have the most grateful attitudes heal faster. Discovery
Gratitude gives back. When we practice gratitude, not only do we grow in our trust of God, but we benefit physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Gratitude as a Prerequisite to Giving
As we acknowledge all we have, as we learn to praise God for all He has done for us. Then God helps us pry our fingers off our possessions, our Day Timers® and our bank statements. This brings us full circle. Can you see why we explored gratitude before we set off on our journey to discover the power of generosity? Gratitude is the basis for giving. Grumpy, stingy people cannot live in the spirit of generosity. In order to be able to open our hands to give, we first have to give thanks for all we’ve been given. It’s just that simple!
[Design note: Bordered feature—or maybe decorative corner treatments and different font—at the end of each of each chapter: Simple Acts of XXX. Also, find an attractive alternative to plain bullet points.]
Simple Acts of Gratitude
Begin a Gratitude Journal. Each day write five things for which you are grateful. Practice praise. Nothing opens our eyes to the gifts we have been given than focusing on the Giver. Find at least one new thing to praise God for each day. Stay alert for those “God Nudges” and be grateful when you sense them. When you feel like you should be doing something for someone, act on it. Keep track of those nudges. Write them down, noting how you responded and the outcome. When we practice listening for that still small voice we become better at hearing it. Thank God in all circumstances. This means that sometimes you’ll thank Him for the “fleas” in your life.
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One Simple Act
Debbie Macomber
Howard Books
Nashville, Tennessee
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Dec. 2, 2009
Homeschooling Through High School ~ The Teaching Behind Holiday Planning To Our Students!
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One of the greatest things about homeschooling is the way we can emphasize life skills and worldview in addition to academics. We are not raising our children for the glory of the University...we are raising them for the glory of God, and to be ambassadors for Jesus Christ, the soon-coming King, before whom every knee will bow, and every tongue will confess His Lordship!
As we enter the season of Advent and then Christmas, I desire to be mindful of the worldview I espouse, and the messages I send via my actions, my traditions, and my decisions. All of life is a classroom for our young adults, and they are learning from everything we do, even when we don't think we're teaching.
I do not wish to lay a "guilt trip" on anyone regarding holiday traditions, or the cleanliness/guest-readiness of their home, the "beauty" of their home decor. Quite the opposite! Many homeschooling families, as a matter of fact, are choosing not to celebrate Christmas because of the overwhelming commercialism the holiday has come to represent to the world, among other things. A dear friend of mine has come to this conclusion, and her family simply doesn't "do" Christmas. Although I won't personally be following that practice, I do understand the reasoning behind their decision. And, as a result, I have thought long and hard about the Christmas "practices" in my own home. The following is a brief glimpse into what I've been contemplating, and you are invited...if you'd like...to join me in answering these questions:
1. What am I teaching my children as I go about my holiday planning? There should be an intentionality about my work, about our traditions, which is not focused on the world but rather on Christ's incarnation and the reason for His coming to Earth. If I am putting decorations up inside and outside of my home, why am I doing it? Sometimes traditions are just that--they're traditions, handed down through generations. My sons know that I do the things I do, decorate the tree the way I do (actually, they do it now!), bake the cookies that I bake, because it is how my parents did, decorated, and baked.
My personal thoughts: Traditions aren't bad. Christmas trees aren't bad. Cookies aren't bad...in moderation! But do they show or reflect the miracle of God Incarnate? Can they? So where should my priorities be, given a choice of decorating and baking vs. spending time on a missions or outreach activity?
2. What is the overall "focus" of Christmas in our home? When my sons speak to their children someday (Lord willing) about what Christmas was like when they were growing up, what will they say? What will stand out in their minds? Going to Wisconsin to cut down a tree (we live in Illinois), a 7 t 8 hour event, big yellow dog included, will be a highlight! But will they remember the outreach activities? Hospitality? Missions? Hymns? Or will they talk about presents, food, vacation from schoolwork?
My thoughts: I didn't grow up in a Christian home. We were faithful church-goers, but the church of my younger years was a spiritually-dead church. So Christmas was focused on Santa, the cookies, the tree, the presents. There was church, there were Christmas carols and candlelight, and I loved all of it, but I didn't comprehend the intensity of what God was doing when He came to us as a babe in that manger. All I knew was that "Jesus was born on Christmas," according to the Christmas carols. I praise God that He found me, and that He drew me to Himself, and that I have been able to share so much more with my sons about that babe in the manger! But again, where has the main focus appeared to be? I know my heart is thinking about Christ, but what are my actions showing my sons? More is "caught" than taught.
Within the practice of holiday decorating, a key for our family is to get that decorating done in one fell swoop, even though it's a three-day-long-fell-swoop! Our tree was cut and brought home from Wisconsin on Saturday. It was decorated on Sunday after church, and today (Monday as I write this) I will pull out and put up the last of the special things we use only once a year in December. From tomorrow on, then, our focus can truly be on remembering and reflecting upon Christ, and His first-coming...with our eyes and and our hearts FIRMLY fixed on His second-coming. Our "holiday busyness" can be because of missions and outreach activities, not "decorating." We can be praying, worshipping, and fellowshipping with the saints, rather than racing around at WalMart. We can enjoy relaxed fellowship with one another, as a family, in the baking of traditional German cookies to share with loved ones, rather than in haste and impatience. Should the latter become the atmosphere of our home at Christmas, then the activity should cease.
I pray that some of these thoughts might be a blessing to you as you go about your holiday activities with your high school-age children! May we all seek to honor Christ Jesus throughout this Advent Season! And may God bless you and your homeschool this week!
Lori
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