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I just finished having to deal with my youngest son, J. Yesterday, daddy bought M, my little artist, a new set of colored pencils. The reason that M was allowed to have new pencils is because his younger brother (and probably sister too), had lost almost all of his other ones. M has been showing himself to be responsible in a number of areas, so we decided to grant his request for a new set of pencils.

The problem came when, this morning J decided that he should be allowed to use M's new pencils. I told him, "No" and tried to explain to him the reasons why I as denying him. He didn't even want to understand. He tried his 'whining and fussing to bully mommy' tactic. I finally had to take him in and spank his bottom. After that, I told him, again, that when he is able to show me that he can take care of the crayons and pencils that he does have available to him, then I will consider getting him a new set of his own. I realized as I was explaining this to him that this is an entirely Biblical precept based on Luke 16:10. (Which I just had to look up!) "Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much."

It is true that as a child with ADHD, J has a very difficult time with organizational skills such as keeping things together and not loosing them. However, I am through with allowing his disability to make excuses for him. No matter what his disability, he still needs to learn these skills even though it may be more difficult for him. Beyond that, he must be held to Biblical standards.

The other issue at hand here, which I had to deal with again even as I was attempting to write this post, is his refusal to submit to mommy's authority. His brother was playing a game on the Wii and J decided that he wanted to play it instead. I told him, "No, your brother is playing it at this time, you may play it later." He started up the whining and fussing all over again, so we ended up marching back in for another spanking.

I sure wish there was an easier way to deal with this child, but this seems to be the only way to get through to him.   I am seeing a much more obedient and submissive child right now. And I might add a happier child!