• Aug. 21, 2007
What To Do?
Okay, my schedule everyday has an activity after the work is done today was the library. Well here's my problem, Ds4's attitude was horrible and I'm not kidding. We started working on Phonics which is our second subject of the day. He started crying getting mad and even disrespectful at times b/c of laziness,he just didn't want to review again. That I can handle. This is my dilemma ...I don't feel he should go to the outing even if it's the Library and I know I should leave him home. What is it that makes me take him anyway?
His attitude was great after I changed my mind and allowed him to go and I did tell him that if he acts like that again he would not go. What is going on? I would have never changed my mind when he was younger.What is it that makes me take him anyway? I have to get an understanding of this.
Your thoughts.
Comments
• Aug. 21, 2007
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Posted by Momtofivekids
For me, I just don't want my kids to miss out on anything. It's such a tough thing because we love our kids so much. I had to do this recently with my oldest son. He was getting some bad attitudes and I had to make him miss out on something. He took it ok, I felt horrible the whole time!
• Aug. 21, 2007
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Posted by 2peter318
Well, it is hard to stand firm, but it's what our children need. Please don't take that statement as saying I stand firm with my son, I usually don't. I give in too. But it usually depends on his attitude. I can tell if he's just trying to bluff it or if he's really sorry, that's what I look for. Again, I'm not perfect with it, but I do try. So all this rambling is to let you know, you are not alone. :)
JoAnn
• Aug. 22, 2007
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Posted by Michelle32
Most moms "give in" on ocassion. We love our kids so much sometimes that boundaries fall by the wayside. Don't beat yourself up about this. Is it a pattern or just ocassional. If you don't make a habit of this, you won't lose his respect. IMHO.
hugs,
Michelle
• Aug. 22, 2007
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Posted by bakerswife
Hi!
I am glad that you figured out who I was (Mama Karen).
All children seem to have different personalities. Learning how to respond to each type is the interesting part, right?
Blessings,
Mama Karen
• Aug. 22, 2007
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Posted by MishinIA
You tagged me? Now what do I do?
• Aug. 23, 2007
positive reinforcement
Posted by catlinfamily
OK, I don't have as many kids as you....And I give in all the time...but this is an idea I am doing (trying to do) this year, positive reinforcement. My kids are little so this particular thing works. I made a banana split out of paper and laminated it. There are 8 pieces. So when they ALL have a good attitude at school and treat each other nice I velcro a piece of the banana split to the board. When it is all together I am going to take them out for a banana split. The deal is when one of them starts acting out, I don't have to say anything. My other girls will remind them to act right so they can get the piece of the puzzle. It has been working really well. I don't like to leave them out of stuff either. I fail to stick to my word sometimes as well. The deal is, most of the time I do what I say I am going to. So I don't think your son will be ruined because of that. Good luck
Edited by catlinfamily on Aug. 23, 2007 at 9:30 PM
• Aug. 26, 2007
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Posted by moreofhim
We all give in at times, believe me. Especially when your punishing him would punish the other children. I had to make many a decision like that when my children were young. It's hard! Hope the rest of your week went great! God bless!
• Aug. 26, 2007
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Posted by midwifemom
I know that I do this because it punishes me more. I don't get to go, because they can't. I have to leave a store that I want to be at, because they aren't behaving. So I guess I just discovered my character flaw. Selfishness.
