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Jun. 5, 2009
The Father Led Home - Giving Thanks, In Every Circumstance
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"Even those of us who homeschool worry about this petty intrusion and that niggling incursion into our homeschooling freedoms. Meanwhile, in Europe, children are being dragged off to state schools, and parents just like us are being dragged off to jail. We have forgotten to give thanks." -R.C. Sproul Jr.
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Giving Thanks, In Every Circumstance
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Dear Homeschooling Dad,
A few years ago as I listened to a family conference (on cassette tape) I heard for the first time, the straightforward, life-changing teaching of Dr RC Sproul Jr. Since that time, my life, and consequently my family, have been profoundly impacted by his teaching.
My friend, and pastor, RC has recently been called to take this teaching on Christian homeschooling overseas in a rare and incredible opportunity which could be witnessed by millions.
Please prayerfully read this brief article from RC and consider how you may be able to help.
Steve Murphy
Publisher, Homeschooling Today magazine
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Giving Thanks, In Every Circumstance
By R.C.Sproul Jr.
These are hard times for Christians. A President hostile to our perspective has been installed in the White House. Vermont and Iowa state governments have redefined marriage at law to allow for two men or two women to "marry" one another. Tax dollars are pouring into the coffers of abortion providers. And perhaps worst of all, Christians have forgotten how to give thanks. For all the heart rending cultural decline all around us, more heart rending still is sin within Christ's body.
Though we live in a time of cultural and economic decline, we live in a place of both relative freedom and relative prosperity. I have, in God's grace, not long ago had occasion to visit brothers in Christ in a country still under martial law, ruled by socialist dictators. Our church recently participated in a drive within the western churches of this small denomination to raise tens of thousands of dollars to be certain that the thousands of members of our denomination over there do not starve to their deaths. We worry about our 401ks. They worry about whether their children will live through the night.
As we enter into a time of cultural decline, too many of us are worrying about that which is Caesar's, and bears his image rather than that which is God's and bears His image. We fret about what Washington is doing to our money, while eighty percent of evangelical parents hand their children over to the state to be taught in a context where Christ's Lordship is daily denied. Even those of us who homeschool worry about this petty intrusion and that niggling incursion into our homeschooling freedoms. Meanwhile, in Europe, children are being dragged off to state schools, and parents just like us are being dragged off to jail. We have forgotten to give thanks.
Opportunity to Witness
The United Kingdom has slid more deeply into cultural decline than these United States. But even there God has not left Himself without a witness. A few months ago I received an email from Conor O'Riordan, a producer for Revelation/Genesis TV, (www.revelationtv.com) the second most popular Christian television program in the United Kingdom. He asked if I would be willing to come to London to appear on a live program to debate over the course of several hours the merits and blessings of homeschooling. I told him I would be delighted to so do. He then explained that as the second most popular Christian television program in the UK they had the ability to reach millions of viewers, but did not have the budget to get me there. I told him I would still be delighted to do this.
In the ensuing months I have been preparing what I hope to say. Conor has lined up my opponent, Robert Reich, a well known Stanford professor who has published articles critical of homeschooling in prominent magazines and journals. My eldest daughter Darby has been working extra jobs to earn money that she might be able to come along, to be a help to me, and to be an example of the kind of child homeschooling can encourage. And now I am seeking to raise the money necessary to go there and make the case for homeschooling.
In addition, I have been given several other opportunities to serve the saints on the far side of the ocean. I have been invited to teach the Saturday before the debate and to preach the Sunday before the event in Dublin, Ireland. Plans are also under way to teach in Glasgow, Scotland, as well as other smaller events while in London. These opportunities, like all that we do at Highlands Ministries, are on the one hand exciting, but on the other hand, expensive. We need to be busy raising funds.
Help Needed
Given hard economic times, this is no easy task. Given the opportunity, however, we need to get it done. We are asking those here in these United States who share our commitment to homeschooling, to encouraging Christians to live more simple, separate and deliberate lives to the glory of God and the building of His kingdom to help us raise these funds, that the case might be made. If each of you would give only $20, we would easily be able to make the case. And those whose freedoms are in far greater danger than our own, might still enjoy the freedom to homeschool. Those who already love the Bible might hear what it has to say about raising His children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. And even those hostile to us and our convictions might see that we are not asking for special favors from the state. We are only asking for freedom. Please visit here to make a donation, just remember to put London in the comment section, and please remember to pray for this gracious opportunity.
Dr. R.C. Sproul Jr.
Dr. R.C. Sproul Jr. is a homeschooling father of seven, a frequent speaker at homeschooling conferences and is the author of several books including When You Rise Up: A Covenantal Approach to Homeschooling. He is the founder, chairman and teacher of Highlands Ministries in southwest Virginia.
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May. 26, 2009
The Father Led Home - Fathers as Historian: A Manly Mark of Righteous Leadership
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"By teaching the history of God and His many loving providences in the life of His people, fathers teach their children to hope in God, to stand strong in the day of adversity, and to better know and love their Heavenly Father." -Doug Phillips
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Fathers as Historian: A Manly Mark of Righteous Leadership
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May 21, 2009 |
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After reading the brief article below by my friend, Doug Phillips, I'd like you to click on the Vision Forum banner and take a look at "the family event of the year" being held this July up in Boston.
It's time to plan a family vacation like no other and redeem the days you have as a father with your children, because the days in which we live are evil, and now is the time for you to take action.
God bless you as you lead your family!
Steve Murphy
Publisher, Homeschooling Today magazine
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Fathers as Historian: A Manly Mark of Righteous Leadership
Why 2009 is the Year That Home Educators Are Gathering in Boston to Celebrate Freedom and Remember a Half a Millennium of Family Reformation
By Doug Phillips
The living, the living, he shall praise thee, as I do this day: the father to the children shall make known thy truth. (Isaiah 38:19)
Every father is a God-appointed historian for his family. By teaching the history of God and His many loving providences in the life of His people, fathers teach their children to hope in God, to stand strong in the day of adversity, and to better know and love their Heavenly Father.
Central to the biblical record are the many commands of God directed at fathers to faithfully teach their children and children's children about the "praises of the Lord," "and His strength," and "His wonderful works that he hath done." (Psalm 78:4). In short, one mark of a godly father is that he willingly embraces the role of resident historian for the family.
The Bible specifically commands fathers to "...take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons." (Deuteronomy 4:9)
Promises of God
One way to look at the histories of the Old Testament is as a record of the promises and providences of God for His people as told through the legacy of fathers and sons. The Bible records an unbroken chronology of fathers and sons spanning more than sixty generations from Adam to the Lord Jesus Christ through his stepfather Joseph. Each of these fathers were commanded through the law and the prophets to relate the work of God in the lives of their fathers so that the proceeding generation would fear the Lord and keep covenant with him.
Fathers like the Ephraimites who failed to teach these histories to their children lost their children (Psalm 78:7-11). Fathers like Abraham, who wisely taught his children, were blessed of God with a mighty progeny (Genesis 18:18-19).
The Reformers of the sixteenth century understood this principle. Their emphasis on the sufficiency of Scripture and Gospel revival in the hearts of true believers resulted in a rebirth of father-directed family religion with fathers playing an indispensable role both as resident theologians and historians.
With God's Word translated into the vernacular tongue, fathers during the Reformation opened their Bibles and taught their children the great stories of the faith as well as the deep doctrinal truths that, to a great extent, had been shrouded in darkness due to the undecipherable Latin liturgies and scant access to the Scriptures that had characterized the Western world for centuries. The lost book of the law was reopened, and the world was transformed.
Literature of our Faith
New histories were published, such as Foxe's Book of Martyrs, which told of the heroic sacrifice of great men and women of faith throughout the history of the church who were martyred for their belief in the true Gospel. Fathers told these stories of bravery to their children, and their hearts were steeled to endure great difficulties-as Christians who came before them had done.
Though many families faced antagonism and public censure as the Reformation unfolded, hope prevailed as fathers rehearsed God's law and recounted His great deeds to their children.
Reformation 500 Celebration
This year, fathers have a unique opportunity to play the part of resident historian and discipler as we remember the birthday of John Calvin and celebrate the world-transforming, liberty-advancing legacy of the Reformation.
On July 1-4, homeschooling families from across American will gather in Boston for the Reformation 500 Celebration. There, fathers will have the opportunity to lead their families in rediscovering and celebrating God's great work through the lives of the Reformers.
The four-day event will feature forty dynamic history messages, Faith & Freedom mini-Tours of historic Boston, a debate between Calvin and Darwin, and a Children's Parade on the Boston Common. The festivities will climax on America's Independence Day with the world-renowned music and fireworks celebration on the Esplanade by the Charles River with the Boston Pops Orchestra.
The Reformer's legacy laid the foundation for freedom in America, and their story must be told. Though much of the world looks with scorn upon our Christian heritage today, now is the time for dads to breathe new hope into the lives of their children by helping them to understand the great providences of God from the past.
As a father of eight, I invite you to join me with my family as we recount the stories of God's faithfulness through the Reformers and seek to rebuild a godly order.
May our children say of us what was said of the faithful fathers throughout history:
We have heard with our ears, O God, our fathers have told us, what work thou didst in their days, in the times of old. (Psalm 44:1)
Persevero,
Doug Phillips
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May. 11, 2009
Homeschooling father, you need to be deliberate - Time to Throw Down!
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"Homeschooling father, you need to be deliberate. Ask yourself the questions I asked above and come up with some answers, biblical answers. Sit down with your wife and listen to her thoughts. God has given us wonderful helpers to complete the picture and encourage us along the way. Then patiently, and with great determination, reach at any length for the prize of the upward call of God." -Steve Murphy
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Time To Throw Down
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There are times when we need to be more aggressive in our conversation about our responsibilities as homeschooling fathers. From one man to another, I share these thoughts with you, praying that it will encourage you to continue down this road or consider taking it.
And...I would appreciate your well thought out feedback on the issue.
Steve Murphy
Publisher, Homeschooling Today magazine
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Time to Throw Down
By Steve Murphy
Men, It is Time
No. I am not saying that it is time to take up arms and defend ourselves. Nor am I advocating civil unrest or disobedience. These all have their appropriate time and place, but this is not it.
I am, however, advocating a sober look at the children we homeschooling fathers are training up. I believe that while we are on the right track, there is still a lot of track to cover. As a famous musician once put it, "We've only just begun."
Over the last couple of years, as I have pondered the path we are on as homeschooling fathers, these are a few of the questions that have been running through my mind: What are the preparations of life? What are we going for here? What will our children look like as they head out of the doors of our homes and into married life? If I could make a list of all the things I want my boys to be prepared to do by the time they leave home, what would I include? What about my daughter? Should we even make lists?
Homeschooling is Not Enough
While most homeschooling dads are content with their children being "academically superior to their government schooled peers," or kept clean of the "socialization of the world," I am convinced that we are not going far enough in preparing our children to be the men and women of God that they will need to be in order to be able to look a wicked world in the eye and show them the loving justice of God and His ways.
To do this, we must first soberly consider every part of every day in our home. We have to do the hard work of bringing every thought captive to the obedience of Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). Without this our children watch us and learn how to live haphazard, sloppy, pseudo-Christian lives.
"But, Steve, we're homeschoolers, isn't that enough? People already consider us a bit extreme and if we continue further down this road we'll end up losing the respect of our church, our friends, and our family."
The problem with that kind of thinking is that it gives credence to worldly philosophy to the exclusion of sound biblical teaching. The writer of Hebrews put it this way in chapter 12, verse 1, "Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us and let us run with patience the race that is set before us." And in Philippians 3: 13-14, Paul said, "Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before, I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus."
Have you ever heard the wonderful phrase "Always reforming?" Or maybe you have seen the Latin "Semper Reformanda" which means "forever reforming." While homeschoolers have taken a huge step in the right direction I believe it is only the first step of many needed steps which will lead us "further up and further in" as CS Lewis put it.
A Good List
One of King Saul's servants made a list one day. He came across a young man who had in many ways been prepared. He said, "I have seen a son of Jesse, the Bethlehemite, that is cunning in playing [the harp], and a mighty valiant man, and a man of war, and prudent in matters, and a comely person, and the LORD is with him" (I Samuel 16: 18). What better could be said of our children when they leave our homes than that the LORD is with them?
Homeschooling father, you need to be deliberate. Ask yourself the questions I asked above and come up with some answers, biblical answers. Sit down with your wife and listen to her thoughts. God has given us wonderful helpers to complete the picture and encourage us along the way. Then patiently, and with great determination, reach at any length for the prize of the upward call of God.
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Apr. 23, 2009
Daddy's Thoughts on Keeping Your Children's Hearts - great tips and practical pointers!
Book Review: Keeping Your Children’s Hearts by Steve and Teri Maxwell
Currently, I am leading a group of other homeschool fathers through this insightful book. A great point is made early in the book. The more our goals for our children differ from the world’s, the more we need their hearts! Malachi 4:5-6 uses strong language in prophesying the coming of John the Baptist (400 years later) by stating that, “He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse." John the Baptist, the man charged with preparing the way for the Lord did so by restoring fathers!
Keeping the hearts of our children is hard work. It means focusing on them. Learn to share your hobbies with your children or give them up entirely. Giving of your time daily in an effort to keep a strong and open line of communication is essential. So, why is it worth it? How many of you know of parents whose children have become involved in sin of various kinds? Do you see the grief and heartache these parents endure? Is it worthwhile to invest your time and energy now, while they are young, to avoid becoming one of these grieving parents?
Here are some practical suggestions that we have implemented in our home:
- “Daddy dates” – Each Monday morning, bright and early, I take one of my children (in rotation) to breakfast. They choose between McDonalds, Burger King and a local diner (all within a mile of our home) for a good breakfast and even better conversation with Daddy. This is the time to discuss their relationships with their siblings, Mommy, and, of course, Daddy. This question is always asked, “Has Daddy done anything to hurt your feelings lately.” I get the chance to repair and invest in the hearts of my children.
- Constant companionship – Whenever there is an errand to run, to the grocery store or maybe the hardware store, Lisa and I always make it a point to take at least one child with us. These are times to again invest in their hearts and minds, talk about what they are learning in our family worship times or what they want to talk about. Explain what you are buying, how you make your decisions, and other life lessons. Guard special times with your spouse, but aside from this, make your children constant companions and you will keep their hearts.
- Family worship times are the first priority in ensuring spiritual growth and maturity within your home. 2 Tim. 3:14-15 says, “As for you (children), continue in the things you have learned and becomre convinced of, knowing from whom you have learned them (parents), and that from childhood (literally: infancy) you have known the Holy scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. Keep reading verses 16 and 17 for more insight on how valuable Scripture teaching is for your family.
Fathers, turn your hearts toward your children and watch the Lord turn their hearts toward you. No greater joy could be experienced (3 John 1:4). God bless you Dads as you pursue Godliness!
~ Mark Metzger
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Apr. 20, 2009
The Father Led Home - Abraham: A Great Commission Father
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"For I have known him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the Lord, to do righteousness and justice, that the Lord may bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him."
Genesis 18:19
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If you're an imperfect husband and father, the following article from Scott Brown was written just for you.
Steve Murphy
Publisher, Homeschooling Today magazine
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Abraham: A Great Commission Father
By Scott Brown
Genesis 18:1-19
Abraham was a father and not a perfect one either. He created problems for his wife and children and he also had trouble telling the truth to the civil authorities. He shows us problems that every man struggles with. But God designed Abraham's experience for a purpose: as an example, so that we follow in his footsteps where he was faithful and when he was not, to avoid and repent of similar sins that we have been committing.
But, in spite of his weaknesses, he was called to the same task as every father. When God called Abraham, He called him to fulfill the great commission--through his family. His call and commission in Genesis 12 sets forth the great evangelistic program of God for all of human history. In this passage of scripture, God makes an incredible promise for the means of salvation for the following generations, and he links it to the trans-generational fatherhood of Abraham. God says to Abraham,
"I will make you a great nation; I will bless you and make your name great; And you shall be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, and I will curse him who curses you; And, in you all the families of the earth shall be blessed.' (Genesis 12:2-3).
Later in Genesis 15, God affirms and elaborates on the covenant he made with him in Genesis 12.
"Do not be afraid, Abram. I am your shield, your exceedingly great reward.' But Abram said, "Lord God, what will You give me seeing I go childless, and the heir of my house is Eliezer of Damascus?" Then Abram said, 'Look, You have given me no offspring; indeed one born in my house is my heir! And behold the word of the Lord came to him saying, "This one shall not be your heir, but one who will come from your own body shall be your heir." Then He brought him outside and said, "Look now toward heaven, and count the stars if you are able to number them." And he said to him, "so shall your descendants be." (Genesis 15:1-5)
Notice what God has promised. God makes a promise to Abraham that will ultimately be fulfilled in Christ, for the salvation of multitudes. He links the promise to Abraham's role as a father and the fathers who would follow in his footsteps. The result will be that "all the families of the earth would be blessed" through Abraham's seed. It explains how it will be that at the end of the age, there will be multitudes of people from every tongue, tribe and nation, worshipping before the throne of God.
Notice also how this will be accomplished. What is the link between the promise and the fulfillment of the promise? Through a father, Abraham, God will bring forth a godly heritage from one generation to the next.
Most men do not make the connection between fatherhood and evangelism, but the Bible makes it clear that the work of fatherhood is one of the chief evangelistic enterprises established by God. God created fathers to be His great multigenerational evangelists. This is why I believe that recovering the fatherhood practices in Scripture represents the greatest untapped evangelistic opportunity before the church in our day.
Linking Fatherhood and Evangelism
To fully understand God's call to Abraham, we need to link two weighty things together: fatherhood and evangelism. And we need to look in both the Old and the New Testaments to observe it. Scripture inextricably links these two important functions. This is why the writer of Hebrews says,
"Therefore from one man, and him as good as dead, were born as many as the stars of the sky in multitude - innumerable as the sand which is by the seashore." (Hebrews 11:12)
He is speaking of believers from the seed of Abraham, who are rescued from darkness through the loving kindness of a covenant keeping God.
Genesis 18 is making it clear that the evangelistic enterprise through Abraham is woven into the normal fabric of life in his household. The narrative shows the interplay of his relationship with his wife, in his household, and his offspring. Again, we see a powerful interaction between home life and evangelism - literally - the blessing of the "nations" and the "families of the earth."
With this as a backdrop, we come to Genesis 18, which shows us that during the normal flow of life in Hebron, God appeared to Abraham and revealed to him his life's purpose.
From these verses, we get a glimpse of Abraham's walk by faith. He is a man of intimacy with God. He loves God and demonstrates that love through his hospitality. He follows the counsels of the Lord regarding his children and teaches them to walk with God and to spread His Name on the earth for many generations, so that all the nations and families of the earth would be blessed.
This beautiful narrative puts on display a diverse set of situations and principles. We are given the privilege of seeing into the personal inner workings of the household of Abraham. We are shown some of the glaring weaknesses in the family as well as its' strengths. We see Abraham for who he really is, not the perfect father or husband, but one who has been chosen of God to declare His glory. Consistent with so many of God's words uttered to fathers, He comes with words of comfort and direction to His imperfect fathers. And He issues a great commission regarding the purpose of a man's life.
As spiritual sons of Abraham, we need to realize that Abraham's purpose is also our purpose. What we should see in this text is that Abraham is passing on a vigorous, God-centered family life that is a paradigm for future generations.
One of the most amazing aspects of this chapter is that in the midst of a colorful narrative revolving around Abraham's household and his visitors, there is given one of the clearest and most powerful descriptions in the entire Bible of a man's mission in life.
For I have known him, in order that he may command his children and his household after him, that they keep the way of the Lord, to do righteousness and justice, that the Lord may bring to Abraham what He has spoken to him." Genesis 18:19
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Apr. 17, 2009
What Does Family Leadership Look Like, Anyway?
This is from ValuesDrivenFamily.com. ~ Mark Metzger
What Does Family Leadership Look Like, Anyway?
A recent event in the Carrier home provided a neat illustration of [the] "father-led" family ideal.
I told our two older boys that it was "room cleaning day" and ran down some of the responsibilities associated with the job: clean off the bureaus except for a few things they wished to display; organize the desk drawers and clear off the desk tops; clean under the bed; and clear and vacuum the floor.
After cleaning for approximately 30 minutes, my older son came upstairs. I asked if he was done. He replied, "Yes. But I paid Jo some money and gave him one of my arrows if he would vacuum the floor and clean up the mess of books that the girls left in our room." ...READ THE COMPLETE ARTICLE ONLINE...

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Apr. 4, 2009
Does God Know What He's Doing by Sending All These Children to be Under MY Care?
Lisa and I have joyously received 5 biological children, so far! In addition, we have adopted three children over the past 6 years. Taking it all in, I am left to wonder if God truly knows what he is doing in entrusting all these children to my care. Doesn't he know my struggles? Has he not seen every time I've failed him? How can he put so much trust in me?
What a wonderful position to be in! Doubting my own adequacy only brings me to rely on my Lord more than ever before. My Lord says, "MY STRENGTH IS MADE PERFECT IN WEAKNESS." (2 Cor. 12:9) How wonderful to be the recipient of his perfect strength! When we move beyond our strength into our weakness, our Lord uses that very weakness to demonstrate his power.
Mark Metzger
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Apr. 4, 2009
Family Man, Family Leader - One of the Best Books I've Ever Read
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Family Man, Family Leader could easily be called the second most influential book on my life to date. I am a father of 8 children (so far) who constantly wrestles with feelings of inadequacy.
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Does God really know what he's doing giving me all this responsibility? He knows everything I've done, even the secret things I am embarrassed about.
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Why has he given me a family?
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Why has he entrusted these children to me?
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Most importantly, how can I raise these children to love the Lord?
Our culture is destroying the family and this book points out the specifics of what is happening. It also explores how we, as Christian men and the stewards of our families, can buck the trend in popular culture. We can raise Godly warriors and we can be true leaders that love our wives and our children and raise them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord!
Mark Metzger

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