Graceful Journey

Mission of Motherhood, Chapter Three, Question One - Nov. 23, 2005

Quite awhile ago, I began posting my notes from Mission of Motherhood by Sally Clarkson.  I didn’t complete that study because I misplaced my book.  It made its way to top of the pile and I rediscovered it recently.  I have begun reading and studying scripture through this book again.  It is so rich and leads me on quite a journey into the word.  I don’t even think I can post one chapter a week because it is so much.  I thought I would just post one question this week and we will see where it goes from there.

From chapter three, The Undivided Heart: Committing ourselves to God’s Design

For Thought and Reflection
1. Proverbs 14:1 What does it mean to build our house or family?  In what ways do we tear it down?  To build a physical home, a plan must be made.  What does the plan for building your family look like? What changes need to be made?


Proverbs 14:1 says that every wise woman builds her house, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands. The Webster 1828 Dictionary defines building such:

3. To raise any thing on a support or foundation; as, to build our hopes on air.

4. In scripture, to increase and strengthen; to cement and knit together; to settle or establish and preserve. Acts 20:32. Eph 2:22. i Sam. 2.35.

What a beautiful picture this paints.  If I am building my house, my family, I am raising it up on a foundation.  What, or more appropriately, who is the foundation.  Scripture says that Jesus Christ is the foundation.  Adding in the next definition, am I increasing my family in Christ, strengthening my family in Christ, knitting them together in Christ, establishing them in Christ, preserving them in Christ  Wow, not even sure what all of that means or how to accomplish or if it is even possible.  Without God is not possible, of courses.  Psalm 127:1 says that unless God builds the house, they labor in vain that build it. It is His work that is being accomplished but how, by what means, what is my role in this?

I looked up some verses about build because I wanted to know about how to build a home, a family.  Here is a great verse:

Proverbs 24:3,4  “Through skillful and godly wisdom is a house (a life, a home, a family) built, and by understanding it is established [on a sound and good foundation], and by knowledge shall its chambers [of every area] by filled with precious and pleasant riches.

Three elements that I want to explore … skillful and godly wisdom through which a family is built, understanding by which it is established, and knowledge which fills every area with riches.

Wisdom
Here are a few of the scripture that I found about wisdom.

Amplified
Job 28:23 God understands the way [to Wisdom] and He knows the place of it [Wisdom is with God alone].
Job 28:24 For He looks to the ends of the earth and sees everything under the heavens
. Job 28:25 When He gave to the wind weight or pressure and allotted the waters by measure,
Job 28:26 When He made a decree for the rain and a way for the lightning of the thunder,
Job 28:27 Then He saw [Wisdom] and declared it; He established it, yes, and searched it out [for His own use, and He alone possesses it].
Job 28:28 But to man He said, Behold, the reverential and worshipful fear of the Lord--that is Wisdom; and to depart from evil is understanding.


Message
Job 28:23  "God alone knows the way to Wisdom, he knows the exact place to find it.
Job 28:24 He knows where everything is on earth, he sees everything under heaven.
Job 28:25 After he commanded the winds to blow and measured out the waters,
Job 28:26 Arranged for the rain and set off explosions of thunder and lightning,
Job 28:27 He focused on Wisdom, made sure it was all set and tested and ready.
Job 28:28 Then he addressed the human race: 'Here it is! Fear-of-the-Lord--that's Wisdom, and Insight means shunning evil.'"


Pro 2:1 MY SON, if you will receive my words and treasure up my commandments within you,
Pro 2:2 Making your ear attentive to skillful and godly Wisdom and inclining and directing your heart and mind to understanding [applying all your powers to the quest for it];
Pro 2:3 Yes, if you cry out for insight and raise your voice for understanding,
Pro 2:4 If you seek [Wisdom] as for silver and search for skillful and godly Wisdom as for hidden treasures,
Pro 2:5 Then you will understand the reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of [our omniscient] God. [Prov. 1:7.]
Pro 2:6 For the Lord gives skillful and godly Wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding.
Pro 2:7 He hides away sound and godly Wisdom and stores it for the righteous (those who are upright and in right standing with Him); He is a shield to those who walk uprightly and in integrity,
Pro 2:8 That He may guard the paths of justice; yes, He preserves the way of His saints. [I Sam. 2:9; Ps. 66:8, 9.]
Pro 2:9 Then you will understand righteousness, justice, and fair dealing [in every area and relation]; yes, you will understand every good path.
Pro 2:10 For skillful and godly Wisdom shall enter into your heart, and knowledge shall be pleasant to you.

I love this seemingly circle that chases itself in these scriptures.  One says that to have wisdom I must begin with a reverent and worshipful fear of God.  The next says that If I seek wisdom, then I will understand reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord. Which comes first, the chicken or the egg?  LOL!  It doesn’t bog me down at all.  I just keep seeking both.  Give me the wisdom Lord, the wisdom that I know only comes from you.  Increase my knowledge and my reverent fear of You! I must search for your wisdom, understanding and knowledge with all that is within me, with passion and desire.  James says that if I want wisdom, I must ask for it.  Yes, Lord, give me the wisdom I need to build my family. Help me to understand righteousness, justice and fair dealing.  Let your godly wisdom enter my heart!


Amplified
Jam 3:13 Who is there among you who is wise and intelligent? Then let him by his noble living show forth his [good] works with the [unobtrusive] humility [which is the proper attribute] of true wisdom.
Jam 3:17 But the wisdom from above is first of all pure (undefiled); then it is peace-loving, courteous (considerate, gentle). [It is willing to] yield to reason, full of compassion and good fruits; it is wholehearted and straightforward, impartial and unfeigned (free from doubts, wavering, and insincerity).

Message
Jam 3:13 Do you want to be counted wise, to build a wisdom? Here's what you do: Live well, live wisely, live humbly. It's the way you live, not the way you talk, that counts.
Jam 3:17 Real wisdom, God's wisdom, begins with a holy life and is characterized by getting along with others. It is gentle and reasonable, overflowing with mercy and blessings, not hot one day and cold the next, not two-faced.

Tough questions to ask myself.  Do I consider myself wise?  I want
to be wise.  I met someone this week whose last name is wise and I joked that I wanted that last name so that I could say that I am wise.  Oh, but I do want true wisdom.  So, am I living humbly?  The lesson of humility comes before me almost daily.  God taught me clearly his words that He resists the proud but gives grace to the humble.  I want his grace and must die to this prideful spirit that rises up within me more often than I would like to admit.
 
God’s wisdom is pure.  Am I living a pure, undefiled, holy life?  Oh, I want to avoid this question.  What does it mean?  Do the things I do or don’t do make me holy?  Or am I holy by virtue of being a child of God?  Now this is a question that deserves an answer but to be honest, I know that it will take me further into word studies that I don’t have time for tonight.  I will put it in my to look up later file.

Am I peace loving and courteous?  I think I am peace loving but there are times that I am not courteous to my family.  Why is it that my behavior is worse with those I love the most?  They deserve my best.

Am I willing to yield to reason?  Do I give my children a chance to share their reasoning or do I discount their opinion, their judgments as immature and childish, giving them on value at all?

Am I overflowing with mercy?  No.  I know that I am not overflowing with mercy and I like to explain it away as not being my spiritual gift.  I see no room for excuses here.  I am to be full of His mercy and pour out blessings to those in my life. 

God’s wisdom will bring surety to my life and I won’t waver in doubt.  Though the questions of my heart seem to be multiplied as of yet, the areas where I know that I have found God’s wisdom are unyielding areas. 


Understanding
Understanding, skillful discernment will establish my home, my family, giving an unshakable foundation to my family. Just as with wisdom, only God can provide the understanding that I need to build up my family.

Job 12:13 But [only] with [God] are [perfect] wisdom and might; He [alone] has [true] counsel and understanding.

1Ki 3:9 So give Your servant an understanding mind and a hearing heart to judge Your people, that I may discern between good and bad. For who is able to judge and rule this Your great people? [James 1:5.]

Job 32:8 But there is [a vital force] a spirit [of intelligence] in man, and the breath of the Almighty gives men understanding. [Prov. 2:6.]


Psa 111:10 The reverent fear and worship of the Lord is the beginning of Wisdom and skill [the preceding and the first essential, the prerequisite and the alphabet]; a good understanding, wisdom, and meaning have all those who do [the will of the Lord]. Their praise of Him endures forever. [Job. 28:28; Prov. 1:7; Matt. 22:37, 38; Rev. 14:7.]

Psa 119:104 Through Your precepts I get understanding; therefore I hate every false way.

Psa 119:104 With your instruction, I understand life; that's why I hate false propaganda.

Psa 119:130 The entrance and unfolding of Your words give light; their unfolding gives understanding (discernment and comprehension) to the simple.

My understanding of life deepens as I seek to do the will of my lord, as I incline my ear toward him and listen to his word, his precepts, his instruction. His word unfolds in my mind, my soul and my heart and gives understanding to this simple mind.  It is with the understanding that only God can give that my home, my family is grounded, made firm and established.

Pro 14:29 He who is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who is hasty of spirit exposes and exalts his folly. [Prov. 16:32; James 1:19.]

Pro 15:14 The mind of him who has understanding seeks knowledge and inquires after and craves it, but the mouth of the [self-confident] fool feeds on folly. [Isa. 32:6.]

Pro 15:31 The ear that listens to the reproof [that leads to or gives] life will remain among the wise.
Pro 15:32 He who refuses and ignores instruction and correction despises himself, but he who heeds reproof gets understanding.
Pro 15:33 The reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord brings instruction in Wisdom, and humility comes before honor.

Pro 17:24 A man of understanding sets skillful and godly Wisdom before his face, but the eyes of a [self-confident] fool are on the ends of the earth.

Pro 17:27 He who has knowledge spares his words, and a man of understanding has a cool spirit. [James 1:19.]

Pro 28:16 A ruler who lacks understanding is [like a wicked one] a great oppressor, but he who hates covetousness and unjust gain shall prolong his days.

When I am not walking in understanding with my children, not steeped in God’s precepts, not maintaining control over my words and temper, not taking heed to correction from His word and His people, I run the risk of living my life as an oppressor, a tyrant. This is not the type of rule that I want over my children but rather to be humble, servant leader before them. 


Knowledge

Pro 1:7 The reverent and worshipful fear of the Lord is the beginning and the principal and choice part of knowledge [its starting point and its essence]; but fools despise skillful and godly Wisdom, instruction, and discipline. [Ps. 111:10.]

Pro 12:1 WHOEVER LOVES instruction and correction loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is like a brute beast, stupid and indiscriminating.

Ecc 2:26 For to the person who pleases Him God gives wisdom and knowledge and joy; but to the sinner He gives the work of gathering and heaping up, that he may give to one who pleases God. This also is vanity and a striving after the wind and a feeding on it.

Knowledge is closely linked to wisdom that I am not sure that I can discern what the difference is, if there is to be any difference.  I did find it interesting that sometimes in scripture a person is referred to as having a knowledge of someone and it of an intimate nature, a close relationship, like I know my husband. I can’t help but wonder about that especially in light of the verse in Ecclesiastes.  It is to the person that pleases Him that God gives wisdom, knowledge and joy.  Why do I even want to please God?  Because I love Him and why do I love Him?  Because He loved me first. It all comes back to Him. He initiates it all.  I please Him with my faith, my love for Him, my obedience.  He increases my knowledge, my knowledge of Him, deepening the relationship that we have.  The areas of my life, my home and family are made richer by this knowledge of the everlasting God.


Well, I have spent much time thinking about building my family.  I know that I must seek after wisdom, understanding and knowledge as if it is a hidden treasure.  I must dig and relentlessly search for the truth.  I must be obedient to what God is teaching me.  It is not enough to have the knowledge … putting it into practice makes it wisdom. I must live a humble life, full of compassion and mercy not giving into anger and many words.  I must lead my children along the path that God has created for us.  It is not enough to just do it myself but I must be bringing my children along beside me and sharing my experience with them, teaching them as well.

Sally asks how a woman can tear her house down. If I am ignoring the master builder, if I am ignoring his commandments, not allowing the truth of his word to change who I am and how I am, if I am giving into fear of man and to my own selfish ambition, if I am allowing anger to control me … if all of these things, I may as well take a sledge hammer and destroy the house. 

What needs to change? Romans 12:1-2 talks about not being conformed to this world but being transformed by the renewing of the mind.  How does that happen? I drink just a bit of coffee each morning.  Many times, there is coffee left in the pot at the end of the day.  When I get up the next morning, I put the pot in the sink and start running water into it.  As the clean water pours in, the coffee is rinses away and soon, I am left with fresh water to start a fresh pot of coffee.  In much the same way, if I am pouring God’s truth into my mind, my soul and my heart, I am being changed from the inside out. 

I think we are all on the right path to the changes that need to be made in our home.  Our individual devotional times are taking root.  I am becoming more aware of God all around me … in the sunset, in the music that never leaves my head, in the patience of a loving husband.  I don’t want to miss Him.  I want to catch Him in all the steps of my journey. 
 

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Nov. 24, 2005 - Untitled Comment

Posted by Titus2woman

Thanks for this! I LOVE the Clarksons and have wanted this book~I'll have to make it happen! (((((HUGS)))))) sandi

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