Mission of Motherhood, Chapter Two - Jul. 14, 2005
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The problem is that the self-centeredness implied in such a relationship is a formula for relational failure. No sinful, imperfect human being can ever fully satisfy the longings in another person's soul for love, security, and purpose especially over the long course of a human lifetime, because neither partner was intended to have these needs met apart from God.
Oh my, I know this. I KNOW this. I remind other women of this ... we are not to look to our men to meet our needs. I cannot expect that my husband can meet my heartfelt needs. In fact, it is unfair and burdensome to do so. However, I find myself, again and again ... looking to Chris to make me feel special, to feel loved, to feel secure. He disappoints me and I spiral into anger and hurt feelings. I cry and I conjole and I manipulate. (Those of you who know me well, know the saying from my former pastor, "what you manipulate to get, you must manipulate to keep") I cannot put Chris is God's place. I cannot look to him to fulfill me. My jealous Lord God does not want me to do that. Those needs can and will only be met in God.
-- Cynthia
