May. 4, 2007 - Emotional Purity

Entry #6


This is an entry written by a 19 year old girl named Jordan Lee. Her post is about an excerpt from the book "Before You Meet Prince Charming" by Sarah Mally. I thought it was really good....
    You can visit Jordan's blog at www.homeschoolblogger.com/dixiebeauty

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   Nobody really talks about emotional purity. Well, one girl does. Her name is Sarah Mally. She's is 26 yrs. old and here's what she has to say about it.

    Being reserved for one includes not only physical purity but emotional purity as well. This requires guarding our hearts, our minds, our thoughts, our words, our emotions, and our eyes. It means saving that close, intimate friendship for one man only, avoiding premature emotional attachments, and staying free from the intimate bonds that can form so easily, but are then painful to dissolve. Emotional purity includes guarding our eyes from those "fun" romantic glances and stares, keeping our hearts from being poured out until the right time, and taking captive thoughts that want to run wild with fantasies and dreams.

  We see this concept throughout the Bible. Holiness means "being reserved for one". A powerful picture and important pattern is found in Genesis 24:16 where Rebekah reserves herself for Isaac the way the church does for Christ.

    Emotional purity is hardly even considered possible in our present society. But think of it this way: How would your future husband feel if he knew that some other guy had known your deepest thoughts, dreams, fears, and emotions? What would he think if some other man had known you even better than he himself knows you? Or how would you like it if some other girl had dozens of long, deep, Intimate conversations with your husband and knew practically everything there was to know about him?

    You see, there is more than just your first kiss and your pysical purity that you can save. There are many other "first" that will be very special if you make them special by saving them for the right time rather than trying to generate romance with every young man you get to know. Sure, most girls your age treat all these things casually. Sure, they might be having fun now, but how is it going to affect their marriages later? Think how meaningful each of these "first" can be, when shared with that special someone:

First expression of interest.

First words of affection or love.

First gift given or received.

First romantic look into his eyes.

First trip together.

First special song, place, event, or memory

First ring

First dinner date

First personal letter expressing emotions

First " I love you"

First piece of your heart given

First serious or ongoing correspondence with a young man

First special affectionate nicknames or actions

First kiss

     This is not by any means a list of rules -- rather, it's a list to make you think. Many young people seem to want to get as close to "the line" as possible and still remain pure. But looking at the big picture of our lives ought to motivate us to have the opposite perspective. The question is not " how little" I can save for him, how many little special and meaning " firsts" will I have to share with him? It is not that we are merely trying to avoid the worst, but rather that we desire to achieve the best!

    I would like to thank this girl even though I may never meet her. She has made me stop and think 'cuz even though I'm 19, I've never had a boyfriend. I'm fine with that because I know God has someone out there waiting for me as I am waiting for him. I want all my "firsts" to be for my one and only.

   lots of love,

   Jordan Lee

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