Feb. 4, 2008
Have you ever.....
Have you ever found a site on the internet, didn't bookmark it when you HAD to leave the computer, then can't find it, nor any resemblance of it anywhere? I've spent the last week looking for this site that apparently doesn't exist anymore. I retraced my steps (keystrokes), and looked in my browser's history, and to no avail.
Well, the site got my brain tickled anyway. I can remember just enough to get me started. The idea is to write letters to your family members, as well as giving help for writers who need confidence in their writing. (Right up my ally!) Since I can't go back to see their suggestions, I'll have come up with my own.
I was thinking to write to tell them that I love them, and include some of the things that they did that day (or that week, or that month). Tell them how proud I am of strides that they have made. Things that I don't say on a regular basis, (that I should say on a regular basis). That's why I wanted to start doing this, to make it a regular thing, so that my kids don't go through the rest of their lives thinking that I don't love them. (Not that I don't ever say it, but I just spend so much time harping on what they don't do.)
I wasn't sure how often to do it, or whether to give it to them right away, or what. I guess that's all for now.
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Jan. 11, 2007
oh the woes.....
Having a toddler and a newborn - they are 2 years apart. I don't know how I'll ever get myself together.
Those of you that have 2 or more small children: How do you do it?
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Mar. 22, 2006
Fathers Helping at Home
I'm not too sure what I think about this yet, but, a father left this question for the Bluedorns, and I was wondering what others thought about all this, and maybe some suggestions from how it goes in your household. I'll add more to mine later.
Okay, it is now later, and have given it some thought. Part of my problem is that I couldn't think clearly. Because...on one hand, knowing what it's like to be at work all day, sometimes being a very long and stressful day, then having to deal with the traffic on the way home, all I ever wanted to do was flop down on the couch as soon as I came home. So, I wasn't sure about having hubby on specific duties when he came home..... On the other hand, well, I may not be leaving the house five days a week, but I'm still working all day. Now, I'm having trouble trying to word this right.... I think that my hubby often holds to the idea that he has the 'right' to 'relax' when he gets home. But, the household stuff (including the children's needs) is a continual process, and I think that we both have the 'right' to relax, but not before we are finished with our daily duties. So, there's my struggle.
But not the only one.... I did pray about this, and God reminded me that (at least between my hubby and me) that we need to plan together. That's the main thing. I'm more tired out by having to make nearly every decision around here than by doing work around here. The planning together is not happening. So, I too agree with that man's perspective.
Okay, it is now later, and have given it some thought. Part of my problem is that I couldn't think clearly. Because...on one hand, knowing what it's like to be at work all day, sometimes being a very long and stressful day, then having to deal with the traffic on the way home, all I ever wanted to do was flop down on the couch as soon as I came home. So, I wasn't sure about having hubby on specific duties when he came home..... On the other hand, well, I may not be leaving the house five days a week, but I'm still working all day. Now, I'm having trouble trying to word this right.... I think that my hubby often holds to the idea that he has the 'right' to 'relax' when he gets home. But, the household stuff (including the children's needs) is a continual process, and I think that we both have the 'right' to relax, but not before we are finished with our daily duties. So, there's my struggle.
But not the only one.... I did pray about this, and God reminded me that (at least between my hubby and me) that we need to plan together. That's the main thing. I'm more tired out by having to make nearly every decision around here than by doing work around here. The planning together is not happening. So, I too agree with that man's perspective.
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Mar. 15, 2006
What do you do?
About the boys.....My son is already 14. His father is a ---- (I can't think of anything that isn't indecent.) - that's my ex-husband that I'm talking about btw. The reason that I say that is because, well, first of all, he didn't make any effort to be involved in the boy's life after we split up (when he was 2), he wouldn't keep a job (even before we split), and shortly after we split, he joined the navy. Sounds like that would've been a good thing, but some things just sound too good to be true. Well, it was. When he got out of the navy, he said that he had been "baptized in the Holy Spirit". I was hesitant to believe this, but, in time, I realized that this probably never happened.
I'm trying to train up my son in the way he should go, the problem is that his father takes him to see every Jim Carrey movie, every Adam Sandler movie, uses no discretion when it comes to what he lets the boy see. Also, I wouldn't put it past him to be doing these things on purpose because he thinks that the boy 'needs' to see these things, to understand the things of the world. As if, to have an innocent mind (not a naive one) is a bad thing to have. He's remarried, but he married someone who is as old as his mother. And I have found out recently that he doesn't treat her as a man should treat his wife. He didn't me either, but one would think that a person would grow up at some point.
Does this sound like a man who was "baptized in the Holy Spirit"?
I originally started this post, because, I'm concerned about the way that my son is going to treat women. He often is disrespectful towards me, in the way that he never will give me straight answers; I have to poke and prod to get a substantial answer out of him, he's passive aggressive. And he is hardly ever nice to his sister. I know about sibling rivalry as I have 4 sisters and a brother, but, this isn't the same as that. It's lilke he simply despises her. There is no love. She never does anything right in his eyes. There are occasional surprising days where he seems almost human toward her. Those days are far and few between, though.
I almost wish that my husband were the one staying home, so that he could spend as much time with my son as I do. So, what, may I ask, do some of y'all do, in situations like this?
I'm trying to train up my son in the way he should go, the problem is that his father takes him to see every Jim Carrey movie, every Adam Sandler movie, uses no discretion when it comes to what he lets the boy see. Also, I wouldn't put it past him to be doing these things on purpose because he thinks that the boy 'needs' to see these things, to understand the things of the world. As if, to have an innocent mind (not a naive one) is a bad thing to have. He's remarried, but he married someone who is as old as his mother. And I have found out recently that he doesn't treat her as a man should treat his wife. He didn't me either, but one would think that a person would grow up at some point.
Does this sound like a man who was "baptized in the Holy Spirit"?
I originally started this post, because, I'm concerned about the way that my son is going to treat women. He often is disrespectful towards me, in the way that he never will give me straight answers; I have to poke and prod to get a substantial answer out of him, he's passive aggressive. And he is hardly ever nice to his sister. I know about sibling rivalry as I have 4 sisters and a brother, but, this isn't the same as that. It's lilke he simply despises her. There is no love. She never does anything right in his eyes. There are occasional surprising days where he seems almost human toward her. Those days are far and few between, though.
I almost wish that my husband were the one staying home, so that he could spend as much time with my son as I do. So, what, may I ask, do some of y'all do, in situations like this?