In continuation from my notes...
While many young maidens have chosen not to date,
many of them seem to think that the 1st man who asks to court is 'the one.'
Just because a young man approaches Father the right way,
and he says that he's 100% sure you're the one!... doesn't make him the right one.
You must have peace in your mind and heart,
and not respond in fear that there might not be another.
We need to be honest and wise, and if he isn't the right one,
we must tell him no.
When a man expresses interest in you,
it's quite flattering, and naturally you don't want to hurt him.
But it is neccesary to realize the Satan might offer his "best"
before God brings His best.
And God makes it plain that we as Christains are not to marry an unbeliever.
Because when you get married,
your goal becomes to please your husband.
How miserable it would be to marry a man
who did not want his children in church,
or didn't make decisions based on the Bible.
Yet while it is very important not to marry an unbeliever,
it's just as neccesary to marry a strong Christain.
Your husband needs the same vision,
commitments, and life purpose you have.
And vice versa.
When wondering if "he's the one",
it's a good idea to list some qualifications he should live up to.
A few qualifications could be*
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- Does he have assurance of eternal life?
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- Does he faithfully share the gospel with others?
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- Is he always truthful?
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- Is he commited to never being divorced?
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- Does he honor his parents?
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- Has he applied diligence in spiritual disciplines such as Bible reading, prayer, fasting, memorization, and giving?
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- Does he make all decisions based upon the Word of God?
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- Would you be excited to have him as the father of your children?
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- Is he diligent in his work and wise in his use of money?
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- Is God calling you in the same direction of ministry?
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- Does he ask forgivness when he is wrong?
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- Is he humble and willing to be a servant?
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- Is he kind, thoughtful, and gracious?
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- Is he generous with others?
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- Does he respond to criticism in a Christlike way?
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- Is he willing to stand alone?
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- Do you see spiritual fruit in his life?
(* 'qualifications' quoted exactly from the book)
Most importantly, look for fruit in a young man's life.
It's not enough that he just says he wants to serve the Lord,
you need to see spiritual fruit in his life.
It is also important to know if you're ready for marriage as well.
It's good to think 'what kind of wife would
the man I'm looking for look for in a wife?'
Try to come up with ideas and start preparing now.
It's never too late or too early to prepare.
"Be not unequally yolked together with unbelievers:
for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrightousness?
And what communionhath light with darkness?
2 Corinthians 6:14
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