I am not in the same shoes as my children are young yet, but you have to remember that your children are born with their own personalities and temperaments and make their own decisions at some point. I have two older brothers who have strayed far from their Foundation, and for decades my mother asked (and still does sometimes, though my oldest brother is in his 50s!) what she did wrong. It breaks me heart to hear her ask that question still.

I don't have an answer for you, but as I know you and your family in real life, this really saddens me. I will keep you all in my prayers.
Blessings ~ Diane