In my Garden

Dec. 4, 2006

Venting...

Well the past couple of days have been a little bit- no actually very stressful. Mostly just the things that happen at home.

I might as well tell you, 3of4 drives me up the wall all the way to China. She is a sting in the bone and she does not do what is right. I am constantly angry at her. I just don't understand why she does the things she does! If she wouldn't try so hard to destroy my things, mutter under her breath mean things and flop around all the time and not do any work I might be able to cope with her.

But no, all day every day (and we are both at home all day every day) she does these things.
And I get angry. I am OK at being somewhat calm most of the time but then I just can't take it, I blow up and it's bad.

No but most of the time I just try to talk (OK sometimes yell) to her and tell her why she is in the wrong and when that doesn't work, I go tell Music man or Piano woman.
They have gotten so sick of both me and 3of4 telling on each other so they just get mad. I do understand that it is not good for any of us to be under this kind of stress all the time, I really do- Music Man and Piano Woman tell me that and they think it falls on deaf ears but it really doesn't. But I don't think they understand that I am enduring this from 3of4 too!

I'm not sure what to do, I guess not to get so angry.
I need to get that punching bag from Billy Blanks.com...

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Dec. 4, 2006 - I know how you feel...

Posted by theLORDplansmyfam

Hey there,
I have an 11 year old and I know how hard it is sometimes when she gets on my nerves and does the same things over and over. Have you ever heard of No Greater Joy? There are tons of articles in there about child training that has really helped me. The website is www.nogreaterjoy.org It really has a lot of great articles that really help. Hang in there!
Jennifer

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Dec. 4, 2006 - I understand completely!

Posted by Mamabearof5

Oh man, do I feel what you are feeling, lol. My oldest child (a daughter) is the same exact way. We are totally butting heads all the time! Although we get along great, most of the time she tries to over rule what I say. I give a certain direction to something she thinks she can do it her way and not mine. She'll take things from me without asking and help herself to whatever is mine. I would like to be able to tell you that it gets better from here but I'm not sure of that yet, lol. I can only hope that it does and feel good about my decisions with her. You have to admit that it is nice to know that there are tons more of us moms who are going through the same things.

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Dec. 4, 2006 - Hi

Posted by Anonymous

I understand how you feel. My son is younger, but just as stubborn. Sometimes they just seem to take forever to "get it". Anyway, I get angry too, but I realize later that when I am inconsistent, that is when the behavior gets worse. When I start to handle things right away, with consistency, at first he gets mad, but then he realizes he is not going to win. Get tough, but try not to get too angry. More like a drill sergeant is what I do sometimes. Anyway, this stuff may or may not work for you, but above all, prayer will help. Just remember that this too shall pass, and keep trying your best. Many of us have been in the same or similar stages. God bless.

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Hi! This is my blog. It is more of a record than a diary. Keeping a journal wasn't really ever my thing. I am 15 years old and enjoy reading, cooking, gardening, and learning about fitness and nutrition. I'm currently studying Revelation in school and Genesis on my own. Also, I am learning about ocean currents and the structure of the earth. Neat stuff...