Homeschool Daddy

Feb. 18, 2009

Four Types of Women

This morning, I updated and expanded "My Favorite Things about My Wife" (below). She's quite a lady, with too many qualities to list in one sitting!

Also, I heard something recently on Gary and Barb Rosberg that I found helpful. In a program about godly sex, Barb mentioned that most wives fall into four categories regarding what makes them most inclined toward intimacy:

Tell me: really likes it when her husband talks to her about his day, etc.
Listen to me: really likes it when her husband really listens
Do things for me: really likes it when her husband does the dishes, fixes things around the house, etc.
Feel me: really likes it when her husband frequently hugs her, holds her hand, squeezes her, etc.

It may oversimplify things to put a person into a single category, but for me simplicity is critical when I am trying to improve by changing habits, etc. Anyway, I honestly could not decide for sure which best described Erin. Last night, she was in a very open and introspective mood , so I asked her how she would categorize herself. I know this is so hard to do, because you are leaving yourself vulnerable to being stereotyped/oversimplified and even expected to act forevermore based on whatever category you select. Therefore, I told myself I would not take unfair advantage of the information when she told me...

Regarding intimacy, she is a "feel me" girl. (Forget what I said above about not taking advantage, . At her own suggestion, I plan to dust off my old trick from our early years ... giving her a back massage and then watching her melt in my hands.)
Regarding filling her love tank (making her feel loved on a day-to-day-basis), she is a mix between a "listen to me" girl and a "do things for me" girl.

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Journal of a father very interested in seeing his four children walk in truth. While my wonderful wife is our school's main teacher and curriculum planner, my role is critical as well ... so I'm always interested in learning and sharing with other homeschool parents. I own a small consulting firm (see www.blackwater-consulting.com) that I love because the work is interesting and I get to work from home.