Feb. 27, 2007
Fishin' for Friends with My Eyes Wide Open
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Plays with Fire and I want (need) more friends. Plays with Fire's reasons are more noble than mine. He still believes in this romantic notion called, "Christian Community". My main motive is that my oldest son is months away from puberty and I am on the offense. I truly believe if my parents had friends with their own teenagers while I was a teenager, I might have survived adolescence. Therefore, I am committed (I think) to spend time with other families in a similar season of life so I can build a community my children and I to some degree share. But that's all I can come up with. As a result, Plays with Fire wants to open our home more. He thinks its time for an adult-only dinner parties. We made a list of ten potential families. Then he asked me THE QUESTION: "So, out of these ten, who are the three women you would most like to talk with over the teapot?" In other words, "Who do you want to hang with, Dear?" Well, this tied me up in complete knots. The three I picked, sorta, were, surprise, surprise, the ones I know the least. Cuz ignorance is bliss. Actually, no. Ignorance is bliss till you get kicked around, judged, challenged, or dumped by said friends. In other words, that feeling of finding a kindred spirit in the first few hours of knowing someone? Not sure it happens after junior high. All the dis-qualifiers ran through my mind. "Well, she doesn't read." "Bunco, um no. I will not attend a Bunco night at her house." "But she's a Baptist!" (Sorry, but true). "She would find me improper." "No, I think she's a little too flaky for me, been there, done that." "But could we serve WINE if we invited them?" One of my New Year's resolutions was to find three new friends. And I did have a qualifier, they needed to be friendships that would help me become more. In other words, once when my mother dropped me off at a birthday party as an adult, she told me later, "Honey, those aren't your friends, their your ministry." I got mad, but she was right. Will I risk it? To be determined. |
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