Sometimes I think I can be such home body. I used to love to go almost daily but finally began to really enjoy home and a more peaceful lifestyle. I still like to go but I find that me and a good budget means me staying home more . I am weak when it comes to my children asking for things. I don't even feel that they are really bad about this but I know what they like and what they would want and I want to give it to them. However, I have seen grown children who had that life and gratefulness was not their forte. So, sometimes it is just better to stay home away from spending temptation.

Yesterday I had great plans. We got all ready and I was planning in my head to take them to the library and for some ice cream and play at their favorite play place. Just as I was about to declare my thoughts they came in and just asked if we could all cuddle. I love it. They are not toddlers so it is nice that it still gets asked for. Usually this entails me snuggling kissing and stroking their arms or cheeks while they begin to chat with me. :) (just for the record so I don't sound like perfect listening mommy, there are also times they ask to cuddle where I am in the middle of something and say no or not right now, but it is never with guilt, why do we mom's carry such guilt all the time? now that would have been a good blog)

So, anyway, they ended up getting good reading material and us sitting together on the couch reading and learning. I figured I liked our library better and they were completely content. (never having heard my other plans.) I haven't been going much since surgery except to some family deals. I may make today the outing....or not. LOL

Another weird thing with me is calling people back. By this, I mean people I love and really Do want to talk to! I get so perfectionistic about it. I want it to be the best time when I don't need to be giving attention somewhere else and where I can have uninterupted time with them. Isn't that silly? In the meantime, I hurt peoples feelings or they think I have phone issues. Do I? Does anyone else feel like this?

I guess I get the love of home from my grandmother who said "Honey, sometimes I get sad just pulling out of the driveway." We both laughed but in a way I see what she means. I enjoy having people over to our home and entertaining but some how when you are at home you can visit so much better than a noisy food place. (always had issues with spelling rest...you know, food places L) BTW, I have realized quite a few spelling errors in my last posts and none of you even corrected me...you really are great friends! ;) Okay, can you tell I still didn't have much to blog about?

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Posted by quietcajun

I am a homebody too. I love to be home and do you know what... Now I can blame gas prices! LOL

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Posted by SandBetweenMyToes

I am a homebody. I don't like going out places. Sometimes I feel....not guilty, but wonder if I'm shortchanging them by not giving them more "adventures" and doing things they love to do. Your cuddle time sounds great. Marissa, especially likes to do that sometimes. Almost every night, I pile in the bed with my older girls and we have girl talk or serious talks, depending on the day. I love that time with them, and I am very aware of the reality that it is fleeting, especially with them. My oldest will be 20 soon, and my next one has decided to go away to college(not far, but not home) in 2 years. It's a letting go time that can be very heavy on my heart. Cuddle, cuddle, cuddle when you can!
Letitia

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Posted by SandBetweenMyToes

I didn't mean that last comment to sound like you shouldn't ever say you can't right now. I meant it in agreement to what you were saying! That time with them is precious.
Letitia

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Posted by CocoaBean

I've become more of a homebody over the yrs. Home is the place God made just for us to raise our family. We make it what we want actually. I saw on the news about a women who wrote her children are boring...I can see that being true for her if her focus is distorted or she doesn't have one at all. I love snuggle time or anytime I get to hear what's going on in their heads! Even if it's trivial about a show. Want more interesting conversations be interesting i'd say.
Have you ever heard of Managers of the home? Teri Maxwell talks about not taking calls in the day and learning to be better at returning calls. She taught her older children to take messages. I like to write so I'll send a card or note. I think someone commented that these early yrs. of cuddling will pass quick...I know I don't like to be on the computer or the phone when my children may need me. Many times they want to ask questions when I'm on the phone. I take a day out of the week or month...depends, to talk to an old friend of mine and that seems to work for me because it's usually for about 15 min.
I'm glad your recovering well.

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Posted by si344

Hi! Im with you! I love staying home...but now that we havent gone on a vacation in July Im really staying home! ( I still want that vacation!) But I too love it when everyone comes to our home to visit. It is so much easier to conversate with people and not be streseed where M is or what he's doing the whole night.

In regards to calling friends, I am the one who always does the calling since
like...forever. I call my friends and if my phone rings..its cuz they are calling me back. I agree with the above post, that calls should be after bedtime so you can devote your time to your friends, but only one problem...thats hubby's time...so then what do you do?

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