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Sunday, February 7 - My Birthday

February 6th was my birthday. Here are some of the highlights:

  • I was invited out for breakfast with two good friends.
  • I received a pretty journal from one of the gals. Her thoughts on the inside cover make it very special.
  • I escaped into the spring-like day for a long, long walk.  Being outside and enjoying the birds and the fresh air is often a treat that I give to myself. The sunny day, though, was God's gift to me. The temperatures got so high that I had to remove my jacket. It's February! It sure didn't feel like it.
  • I received wine and chocolates from my husband.
  • The family and I went to a Greek restaurant for dinner. Yum!
  • I enjoyed some quiet moments at House of James soaking in Cathy Hardy's concert. (Well, only half of it...but, better than nothing!)
  • I needed a new book and found a treasure-of-a-one. This feels like a gift from God too.
  • Some of the girls from my former Bible Study class remembered my special day and sent loving words in a card along with a little plant.
  • My mother-in-law gave me a little red envelope. A little pocket-money always feels as thought its brimming with possibilities, doesn't it? I won't spend it for a while. I'll savor that feeling.

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Wednesday, February 3 - Words that Fall Flat

I have a friend who disclosed some news yesterday, news that for her is incredibly disappointing. She prefaces her story with, "I've cried for two days". I sit and look at her. My heart is full as I listen. I listen beneath her words to the places where I know her heart is breaking and she's asking questions like, "God, if you care about me at all, then why is this happening?" I try to speak but my words are hesitant and stilted. I'm trying to decide, in the tiny window of time that I have to respond, if  I just sympathize because she's smart enough to come to her own truths or if I should give her hope from my own experiences where God has come through. I can't even recall what I finally said. All I know is that somehow in wanting to be life-giving, my words fell flat.

I responded to another friend's email. She also is facing challenges. Dark days that don't make sense but she knows the enemy is behind them. She wants prayer and so I write back to her. But, I look at my words as I try to combine equal parts of concern, because I care deeply for her, and truth, in case she's forgotten. I re-read the email again after I send it. And, once again my words feel powerless. And, I realize that is what's bothering me.

In these situations when I really want my words to matter they seem to be powerless and yet when I'm angry or frustrated my words can pack a punch. I've so often wielded them as weapons - to jab and strike a blow in an argument, or to kill a discussion with a well-directed point.  I've used words as a shield to protect myself, to defend a particular stance, or to explain an action. In a positive light, I've used words to praise my children when they've done something well. I've used words to encourage better behaviour or more effort in the classroom. Usually I can see some affect for my efforts. But, I grieve the times when I wish my words could fix circumstances or  become salve for a wounded heart. At those times I realize that I cannot fix or heal. Not myself. Or my friends.

In tricky circumstances I become afraid of words. I don't want to use the wrong words and make the situation worse. I don't want to come across sounding preachy, or know-it-all-y. I overthink instead of just letting my heart speak.  I might look unresponsive but my heart is full of voice. Voice that is bursting to speak good things. But, I don't because fear holds me back. So I stay silent and then grieve the absence of words. Words that might have helped or at least shown that I cared. Perhaps there are times when words that seem to fall flat are better than no words at all.

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Tuesday, February 2 - Words That Don't Seem to Belong

As I sat in my bed last night, journaling and pondering a difficult day, a verse came to mind. When I turned to the passage, the words seemed to leap off the page in a way that they haven't before, although this verse has been a favorite for many years. "In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength, but you would have none of it." Isaiah 30:15

When I was in elementary school I used to have a spelling book that sometimes had exercises that instructed me to cross out a word that didn't belong with the others. Sometimes it would be an antonym mixed in with synonyms, or a name for an object found in a garage as opposed to utensils that would be used in a kitchen. As I read the Isaiah passage this exercise came to mind, as four strong nouns in  the passage stand out like sentinels - repentance, rest, quietness and trust. If I were to do my classroom activity with the group of words from this scripture passage, I would cross out the word repentance.

Repentance is an unpleasant word that swamps me in memories of my legalistic Protestant upbringing.  It conjures up visions of stiff black suits and somber faces, long evenings of hell-fire and ****ation preaching, and the inevitable invitation to come to God before "it is too late". Its a word that reminds me about all the ugliness of my sin that I'd rather keep buried and forgotten. Repentance is a humbling word, that requires a humbling response and when I hear that word I inwardly shudder. Perhaps these connotations are good ones in a world where words are slowly being sapped of their power, when we've learned to carefully pad our comments so that we don't offend anyone. Perhaps these old explanations of the word are good when balanced with new perspective.

Repentance is really about change and choice. About turning from a way of living that isn't working, that brings frustration and exhaustion and sorrow, to a walk on a new path. Fresh beginnings. It's as much about the dying process of fall as it is about the awakening process of spring.  As I think about this word, I recognize the need to pull it into the context of my season of rest. The resting is purposeful, not in the sense of being hard work, although it is hard work, but in the sense of being intentional about looking at the areas of my life that still require a change of heart. Identifying those areas requires the light of the Holy Spirit shone into the shadowy recesses. But inviting the Holy Spirit to work is my part of the process and sometimes that invitation is a difficult one to issue.

For many years, as the verse states so forcefully, I "would have none of it." I hindered the probing work of the Holy Spirit by dousing His convicting in busyness. I avoided confrontation with my waywardness and I filled my hollowness with all kinds of distraction. Overeating. Over-exercising. Escape into leisure. Finding a new hobby. The Internet. All those kinds of things that gave me excuses for not facing myself head on, eyes wide open, viewing all my not-so-nice attitudes and motivations.

God still has a lot of work to do in me. I am glad that the recreating is His job. If it were up to me I wouldn't have a clue where to begin, or how to fix all the brokenness. I cannot heal myself.

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Monday, February 1 - A New Page

Like the rest of you, I turned to a new page on the calendar this morning. Perhaps unlike yours, my calendar is all about paths. I was drawn to the picture and words on the front when we were calendar-shopping at one of those little stands that get set up at the mall over the Christmas holidays. The title of the calendar is "The Path: Finding your Way on Life's Journey". How appropriate for me since the direction of my life has so completely changed this year.

The picture on the front is actually the same as the one for the month of February: a path coming from the bottom center of the page and bending into the forest where it then disappears into a misty haze. Very Lord-of-the-Rings-y. Although the forest is quite dark there are glimpses of light coming through the canopy of trees above. It's beautiful and an inviting picture for someone who loves to walk.

The verse that I'll be reminded about all month is one from Psalm 4 from the King James version. It's delightful old language speaks to my poetic heart. "Ponder the path at thy feet, and let all thy ways be established." Hmm...something that the prophetic Ezekial would have put in his mouth. So, I will follow his example and savor the flavors of this passage, chew on it, swallow it and allow the essence of it to transform my inner world. I look forward with anticipation and a little trepidation to the journey ahead. Where will this month lead? This year? Will I arrive somewhere good? What challenges lie on the path? What unexpected surprises?

Lord, whatever the journey unveils, I would rather be traveling on your paths than one of my own choosing. Thank you for the treasure of a verse that I've been pondering since last spring. I still haven't unpackaged it. I still don't understand it. But, the mystery of it is what keeps me coming back to it and trying to figure it out. "Stand and the crossroads and look, ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls." Jeremiah 6:16

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Thursday, January 28 - Musings on Rest ~ Part 2

There are several challenges associated with the process of learning to rest. The 'how-to' parts have been the biggest hurtle for me, but there are other variables that present obstacles too - finding time to rest, and finding places that are restful. In a household of homeschooled teens these elements often make even the idea of resting seem ludicrous. And yet if God has called me to this season then there must be ways and means that I haven't explored yet.

For the past few Wednesdays I've been rousted out of bed earlier than usual to drive my eldest two girls into Surrey for tutoring sessions with their math teacher. While they sit and work under his supervision, I sit in the car and wait...for two hours. This wouldn't be so bad if that was the only time during the week that I was asked to sit around while they go about their activities. At first I was frustrated, feeling as though this was wasted time - time when I could be making dinner, or putting in another load of laundry, or making lessons to ease the passage of the school week. However, now I'm recognizing the rare opportunity for some real quiet time. When I was sharing this with a friend she laughed out loud and remarked that "God has great sense of humor".

At home, the kids activities and lives overflow into all the living spaces - from kitchen and bathroom counters to every available table-top and the majority of our room downstairs.  Computers, school books, and science experiments can be found anywhere. Although I try and keep a handle on how far the work spreads, inevitably at some point during the week  I have to reclaim some space. Even the living room isn't guaranteed to be a school free zone as piano practice occurs there for up to three hours every day, and knitting and bracelet-making projects can sit around for days waiting for that sought-after free moment.

When the kids were little, my husband and I were assured some quiet time in the evenings when everyone was tucked into bed by eight o'clock. I used to enjoy unwinding on the couch with a good book or escaping into a good TV program. Long gone are those days! Now I am often surrendering to sleep hours before the kids finally go to bed. And, on the weekends if they have friends over...You get the point.

When my daughters attend their dance and sewing lessons I have an hour and a half to 'kill'. (I don't like that turn of phrase!) Sometimes I have used that time to read a book, but lately I'm learning to just sit still and enjoy the silence. Yesterday I felt drawn to take a short trip up to the Abbey, a local monastery set high up in the Mission hills. I wasn't even sure if it was open to the public at that time of day but I drove over in hopes that it would be, and it was! Although I only had about half-an-hour before they closed the main gate, I parked by the chapel and followed the little winding path that leads to a beautiful look-out point. My heart leapt for joy as I stood there overlooking the beauty of the valley and watched the mist snake along the river until it disappeared somewhere beyond the horizon. Absolutely exhilarating in the crisp, cold evening air!

I am starting to recognize when the opportunity to rest is offered. And, I'm saying "yes" to those invitations. I am beginning to grab hold of those moments and instead of stuffing them full of activity I'm learning to savor them. Ah! What a feeling - freedom from the tyranny of "doing".

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Tuesday, January 26 - Musings on Rest

I wouldn't be experiencing this season of burn-out if I had understood in the past the complexities involved in the concept of "resting". I have never rested well nor have I allowed myself to rest for any length of time. Somehow I viewed the ability to push myself beyond normal limitations as some kind of mark of greatness. Now I recognize that as the sin of pride.The overall pattern of my life has been one of striving for perfection, driving myself hard, and always moving from one challenge to the next with little or no breathing space in between.

Back in the fall, I came to a jarring end to that way of living and have been forced - no, invited - to a whole new way of life. Learning to think differently is key to learning to live differently, and my thoughts about rest have changed. However, that doesn't mean that resting has become any easier for me. Rest is so counter-cultural that I have to keep reminding myself that rest is good, necessary, scriptural, and beneficial to mental, physical and emotional health. Sometimes, though, rest can appear to be lazy and uncaring. I have to guard against allowing what I think others' might think about me to dictate my steps. Perhaps thinking that others think about me at all is another delusion of grandeur!

I am learning that I am resting when...

  • I cease cramming my head with knowledge as though for some kind of exam
  • I pull out of the hurried pace of life into silence and solitude as frequently as possible
  • I turn off the voices that ramble around in my mind and move into stillness
  • I step back from the problems that others want to hand me and assess first whether they are for me to pick up
  • I move slowly even in the midst of a busy day
  • I breathe deeply and push anxiety away
  • I take my worries to God and visualize Him taking them in His hands and carrying them for me
  • I stop being driven by  compulsions and respond to the quiet invitations of the Spirit
  • I ask God what He thinks and feel free from the burden of others' opinions of me
  • I stop striving for perfection and move in the gentler rhythms of the Spirit

I still have much to learn. Everyday interruptions and challenges are opportunities for me to practice my new skills. Some days I fail and go back to the old frantic patterns. Other days I hear the Spirit's quiet instructions and respond well. Sometimes I need to bump up against the old ways in order to remind myself that I don't want to live like that anymore. But, I also don't want to swing so far in the opposite direction that I begin to live irresponsibly. Learning to walk the middle road between the two - legalism and complete lawlessness - is an ongoing process.

 

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Thursday, January 21 - Being Organized

Being organized goes a long way for a homeschooling family. School work only gets accomplished and progress is only made when activities and assignments are made in advance and are ready to go at a moment's notice.

Several years ago I realized the value of planning an agenda page for each child to use for each week of school. When the kids were younger this meant writing out assignments for each day of the week with check boxes for them to mark when the task was completed. Now I have a more open ended schedule, with all that week's work listed under subject headings. How the kids go about completing those tasks is their call. They are learning the value of completing larger assignments at the beginning of the week rather than leaving them until Friday. But, sometimes they still choose this approach and suffer the consequences of working into the weekend.

This scheduling practice has been invaluable as we entered the new year a few weeks ago and I began to be out of the house more frequently. On Tuesdays and Wednesdays my presence in the home is fleeting as I breeze in for an hour or two before leaving with the next couple of children for whatever activities are booked in that time slot. Lately I feel as though Mondays and Fridays are the only days when I'm assured that I'll be around to supervise. But, even those days seem to have been tampered with for the past couple of weeks - meetings, appointments, or social engagements with other homeschooling families.

In the meantime, housework has been piling up and I've a mountain of marking to do. Housekeeping aside, as I monitor the number of weeks until the next report card I realize that if I don't tackle this work soon I'm going to be overwhelmed when I begin to gather grades for the supervising teacher. Like the children I put off the inevitable until the last possible moment and then am scrambling to complete a mammoth task in just a few days. Is it worth it for the intervening sense of calm? Apparently, I think so, or I'd be doing a better job!

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Wednesday, January 20 - Chicken Soup

I am always looking for new soup recipes. Soup is my idea of the quintessential one-pot meal that is both nourishing and warming during the chill of winter. It can be made ahead of time and only improves as it simmers at the back of the stove, or rests in the fridge overnight. This recipe was served to me during the Christmas holidays along with conversation that blessed my soul. I pass it on to you with the hope that you will share this meal and your heart with those who mean the most to you. Enjoy!

Chicken Vegetable Soup

Ingredients:

  • 2 tablespoons olive oil
  • 4 boneless, skinless chicken breasts, cut into bite-sized pieces (about 1 3/4 pounds)
  • 2 onions, chopped
  • 2 cup sliced carrots
  • 3 celery stalks (rinsed and chopped)
  • 3-4 bok choy (rinsed and chopped)
  • Salt
  • Pepper
  • Garlic (optional)
  • 2 medium zucchini (sliced down the middle and julienned)
  • 2 (14.5-ounce) cans diced tomatoes with basil, garlic, and oregano (optional)
  • 3 boxes of fat-free reduced sodium chicken broth (Campbells)
  • grated parmesan for garnish

 Directions:

  1. In a 6-12qt stock pot, heat olive oil over medium-high heat. Add chicken, and cook for 10 minutes, stirring frequently.
  2. Add vegetables and cook for 5 minutes.
  3. Liberally season and stir into vegetables and meat.
  4. Add zucchini, diced tomatoes (if you choose to use them, I don't), and chicken broth. Bring to a boil; reduce heat, and simmer, uncovered, for 30 minutes.

Serving suggestion: Top each serving with a good spoonful of grated parmesan. Serve with warm crusty bread, buttered and topped with slices of your favorite cheeses. Yumm-O!

Serves: This makes a big pot of soup - enough for everyone (six in my family) to have a couple of bowls and there are leftovers for the next day. This light soup but could be made more hearty by adding a couple of handfuls of noodles. But, I like it as is.

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Tuesday, January 19 - Life in a Flash

When the kids were babies the days used to pass in a flash. Between nursing, changing diapers, and getting the little ones settled, there was little time for myself. I was lucky if I managed to squeeze a shower into the hour when they were napping, and some days I used that hour for napping too. The babies dictated the rhythm of the day although I was a stickler for routines and so had a general plan for how the day would unfold.

When the kids hit the toddler years, some in and some out of diapers but all scampering around, the days felt endless. From the moment they woke up until they went to bed, they were constantly moving bundles of energy. Filling in the days was a gigantic task of creativity. Again I found that routines were key to keeping everyone engaged and happy. I developed a variety of schedules that helped the day move ahead like cogs on a wheel. Although the kids were probably unaware, I mentally cut the day into do-able chunks and the phrase "and now it's time for..." was the gentle mantra of that season.

Then we hit  the elementary school years. We became busy with school, and the kids had few activities out of the home. They filled their time away from the books with play and toys. Simple pleasures kept them smiling. I still had lots to do but of a different nature than being physically involved in their daily tasks. They could cut their own meat, and clean their own bottoms, and make their own beds to some degree or another. They were happy to be home with the family and we spent lots of time together.

Now we're into the teenage years and life explodes around us in a daily flurry of activity. Simple pleasures aren't so interesting. The social life has gained momentum. The school day extends into the wee hours of the morning as assignments have grown in magnitude and number. Everyone has contrived their own routines and schedules and any sense of being in control of the day has long passed. Once again I'm at the mercy of their needs and have to carefully guard my boundaries. The kids could run rampant over any quiet time that I try and carve out of my screaming-past-at-mach-five day.

Time is entertwined with change, and change nearly always takes a fair amount of time. Adjusting to each new stage keeps life interesting and always keeps us on our knees. Some challenges that we thought were insurmountable have simply vanished into the fog of the past as we've journeyed on. Others drag along with us for awhile. All of the phases have been handled best with lots of prayer. We've almost always come to a place of wringing our hands and wondering what to do when the kids have moved out of that stage and into the next. Sometimes we've wasted a lot of time on needless worry. So we walk on together, all of us learning as we go. Handling each phase takes lots of patience - with ourselves as parents, and with the kids as they learn how to navigate the hurtles of growing up.

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Tuesday, January 12 - A Sweet Escape

On Sunday morning I escaped from the routines of the house and drove out to Whiterock by myself. The ocean had been drawing me for a few weeks and I just didn't know when or how to fit it in. The weather was perfect, my family released me to go, and so off I went.

I took a quiet country road rather than the highway to pull out of the frenzied pace and slow down. I was reminded a few times as I drove to watch the speedometer. The drive was calming and I encountered few other drivers along the way.

Whiterock was fairly quiet for a Sunday but got busier as morning crept into afternoon. I walked for awhile. Sat near the shore where the water lapped quietly among the rocks. All kinds of sea birds were gliding around and calling to one another. Families were there with young children who amused themselves finding shells and other treasures.

I walked all along the front, stopping when I felt like it, sitting for a spell here or there. At lunch time I stopped by Whitbeys and picked out my favorite sandwich, a treat and a hot cup of coffee to hold between my hands. The lady packed it in a lunch bag for me and I carried it back outdoors to a little bench where I enjoyed it while soaking in the day.

The sun broke through the clouds for short periods and lay a shimmering path along the sea toward me. I felt as though I could walk out on that sea and find my way to God. I headed back to my car only when my parking time was drawing to a close but I felt as though I'd had lots of time to quiet my spirit.

On a whim I pulled over and phoned my mom and asked if I could come by for tea. She was delighted as her day had been fairly uneventful. I ended up staying for more than tea as she already had dinner planned and there was more than enough for the three of us.

All in all, I had a very unusual but delightful day. I am tempted to escape by myself like this more often. In the hurried pace of everyday life it's hard to find quiet moments. And, in a house full of homeschooled teens, it's even harder to have a quiet space all to yourself. I only wish I knew how to carry the peace of this day through a week full of appointments, school, and all the daily challenges of navigating life.

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I'm a child of God. This is a journal about life with my four children and husband on our homeschooling journey. This is also a safe place to write about my soul's stirrings as God directs my paths and leads me heavenward. A verse that has been meaningful in my current season is from Psalm 62. "My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from Him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress. I will never be shaken."
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