One thing I struggle with is how to be fair with our kids. I've recently decided that it's not worth trying to be fair all the time with them. After an incident this week with my oldest 2 I decided to try to train unfairness. Instead of trying to be fair with them, I'm trying to not be fair with them and to teach them to be happy for one another. It's been interesting to actually see some improvement in this and to actually hear my oldest say it's ok when his sister got to lick off more chocolate cake batter than him and to be happy for her! That's an amazing sign of improvement! Would I complain about not getting enough chocolate (j.k.)!!!
I recently wrote a longer article on this on my website. If you'd like to see the full article, check it out on my website. Click here for the article (sometimes the color doesn't show up well to tell this is a link). God bless!
That is a great area for training. I always stuggle when my mother-in-law brings my other children a small gift on another child's birthday. My kids never expected this and would sit wonderfuly at other children's partys while gifts were being opened, but since she has started doing this, they are starting to feel more entitled to something too. She is not going to do this this year, but it was hard for her to see that she was untraining my kids by her 'thoughtfulness.'
• Sun 22 Apr 2007 - Untitled Comment