Joyful in Hope
Jul. 13, 2009
This Ain't Your Typical Separation Anxiety!

Excuse my poor use of English - it's been a very trying day (make that week, no month)!  Our little Phoebe, the precious golden-haired cherub, has been screaming her cheeks red and my head aching for weeks.  This photo may be the only smile she's had in the past month.  I keep looking at it to remind myself how cute she is. 

She'll be 3 next month, but developmentally she is about 6-12 months which puts her smack in the middle of separation anxiety time.  HOWEVER, we've been through this before with 2 other babies and I'll tell you, what we have here is two screams shy of a mommy breakdown!  If she wasn't our first child, I'd think we just really messed up somewhere along the way.  But Esther especially had a long and intense separation anxiety phase and that doesn't hold a candle to this.  With her sensory integration/processing disorder, being apart from me may seem more intensely scary.  Add to that her central vision and hearing impairments and no one really knows what she understands or processes.  And it probably changes daily.  No easy answers - hoping she outgrows this and we all survive.  Even poor Andrew said he wanted to give her to an orphanage - he especially struggles with the constant ear-piercing noise.  So who's been taking care of Eden?  Here's who:

She's been begging me since Eden was born to change her diaper & I finally decided Eden was big enough to handle diaper-changing Esther-style.  We'll see what Esther thinks about it after Eden eats peas and squash in a few months?

It's never too early to read the latest Lego magazine!

So you can understand my long pause in blogging - at night I'm either collecting the pieces of my brain to form 2 coherent thoughts or tidying up from all the housework left undone all day.  Except for Sunday when I was in bed all day after a stomach bug ravaged through me the night before.  Yuck!  Thankfully Greg could keep everyone alive while I recovered so I could tackle today.  And how did the big kids spend their Sunday?  Playing in the mud and hunting rats!  Go Daddy!  We just discovered that the big holes along the fence in our backyard are the homes to Templeton and his family.  Our neighbor is taking this seriously with his pellet gun so we're hoping the problem gets resolved soon!

When Greg is home things relax more and we try to have some fun:

There's nothing like coming home to a house that smells like dog doo-doo!  After Esther's dance recital this sight welcomed us home.  And it's in Phoebe's room (hmmm, maybe this is why she's so unhappy lately?)  Ahhhh, it's nothing that a good steam vacuum and $100 worth of candles didn't fix!  Don't you love Greg's cleaning gear? 

Esther's dance recital was lovely.  We thought she'd glow in the spotlight since she is always so full of life, but she surprised us by acting reserved and shy.  We were thankful her first dance class experience included Bible devotions, prayer and modesty. 

         

And a couple more photos of our lil 4 month old - We call her our little "small and mighty"!

 

How could I leave out a farewell to the truck??  It's gone now after 8 good years of seeing Greg come home from work in it - to a Mormon family with 11 kids.  I was actually sad to see it go!


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Jul. 15, 2009 - bless your hearts and ears!!

Posted by Anonymous


did you know i keep a pic of phoebe in my kitchen window? don't know quite why my heart turns toward your special little girl like it does...but the Lord reminds me to lift her up and all of you as He in His time helps you find the answers that can help her! loved all the pics, isn't life "interesting" to say the least...being parents isn't for the weak is it!!hear a new neice or nephew is on the way..due date my birthday in dec. know you mom is away right now doing her yearly medical missions trip, and i'll look forward to talking to her on her return. really hope our paths cross again in person someday and love following the lives of the "hennessy" family. seems like just a few years back you all were kids on edenburg...now with yours and ours...17 little lives have been added, with the 18th on the way! wow!! God bless you all! love, bettie


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Jul. 19, 2009 - Love it!

Posted by Anonymous


I am so going to get Nathan a snorkel mask and goggles for his diaper change duty!! He handles kid poop about that well. So funny I have tears in my eyes. Jamie


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