Sunday, September 28, 2008 - parenting with love and logic
Well, we got the book. It IS as good as everyone says. I have not had the guts (me? soft??) to be that hard on my kid, but this book puts stuff in perspective. Best of all, it gives me a plan and HOPE.
Long, boring story, but today we had to take something from Jo that was VERY special to him. He had waited to make it, wanted it, loved how it turned out.....but disobeyed us to get it there. So we took it. He cried, made excuses (I didn't hear you!), offered to pay to get it back.... But we need to use this as a learning opportunity. For him to learn our word means something, it has to HURT. Sean and I are both wishing we could let him buy it back....but that would undermine the learning opportunity that is here. This kind of parenting is not for wimps. We will need to lean on GOD to pull it off. But I have hope.
Now he is playing chess with Sean. Go figure? Sean took his thing, it is Sean's fault, the only thing Jo did was not hear well (twice)......Dad, will you play chess with me?
Saw Jay and Faith TenBrink last night. It was good to see them and their kids. They are so big now!!! We hope to see them again soon.
Off to church for us. I have a friend who is not going because he's upset with God. Things are not going his way. It is the opposite for me! I go to church sobbing, life falling apart, because I know I need GOD above all else. I feel like the agony, tears, waiting and heartbreak of the last month are coming to good fruit now. Stuff with Jo is hopeful. Sean has realized some things and made drastic changes to how he lives around here. I've learned a lot recently. GOD is so goooooood!
