Jul. 4, 2008 - Advice Given After Intensive
We just ended an intensive with Nancy Thomas to help our family to heal. Our children have RAD and Becca has been hurting Jonathan. Becca doesn't want to stopand wants to hurt us too. We were told she should not return home with us. We have made sure that will now happen. My husband is taking her to Arizona now. He will return to Nancy's ranch tomorrow to pick Jonathan up and drive home with him. I need to fly home tomorrow because our oldest daughters' boyfriend is arriving so we can meet him.
Nancy felt that I needed time to heal and should not homeschool full-time. She also saw that full-time school for Jonathan would be overwhelming. We are going to move him to the Christian school just in the mornings. I will pick him us just before lunch and homeschool him in the afternoon. She suggested experiential learning for him. I do know that he needs to learn his math facts. He has struggled with this because if his inability to pay attention.
We will build things, cook and just do things together. My boy needs time to heal and trust and feel safe. He has already come so far. He had a chance to get a lot of anger out while we were there. He was able to confront his sister with what she did to him. He was able to tell the truth and say how he felt about Becca and see that Daddy and Mommy still loved him.
We let Becca know that we still love her too. We are grieving the loss of time with her. But, we have to keep Jonathan safe and she needs to work on her life. She has just been manipulating the whole family. What a lot of pain a 10 year old child can cause. What a lot of pain a 10 year old girl has in her life. We do not know what was done to her to cause all of this. She was only 2 when she came to us, but someone has really hurt her. We want her to get the help she needs so she can heal and return to us in a healthy enough way to be part of the family. We love that girl!!! She is still my baby girl. Always will be!!!
