Modest dress is important to me.  The girls and I have had many conversation about why we do and don't wear certain things.   My main problem is with women in the church that are wearing dresses and blouses cut way open.    I don't feel that we have to wear dresses all the time, but I feel that it is important to have certain body areas covered.

 I love the new church that we are attending and we feel that God is led us to this church.    The problem is a woman (just one) that always has a lot of cleavage showing.  She is the woman that leads the singing so she spends a lot of time in front.   I feel that she is used by Satan to distract from the worship song with most everything she has showing (maybe that is too harsh).     I have not seen anyone else dress this way at this church.

Because we are new to the church and because she is related to half the people attending, I don't have any idea what to do.    Is it my job to approach the subject with her?    I don't even know how to go about it.  I am praying that God would solve the problem or show me if I show take action.   I avoid conflict at all cost, but this bothering me a great deal.  I feel strongly that she is not obeying God with her way for dress.  She is raising young boys that don't need to see so much.  Plus she is a children's church teacher sometimes.  Not the role model that I want for the young girls.    

My husband doesn't seem to be as bothered by this as I am.  Is this a woman to woman issue or do I stay under the leadership of my husband and not make waves?  My husband doesn't have an option about this, so I would not be going against his wishes either way.

Any comments or thoughts about this would be appreciated.  It is after 2 am, I have no idea why I am still up.  I did enjoy reading many blogs tonight.  ;-)

Praying for God's direction,

Kerry 

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Posted by humpty

Kerry, When you get an answer to this, let me know. Our youth directors wife dresses very scantily, tight, low, short. Once she was standing in the 2nd row facing the back of the church and bent down to get something off the chair and I (and everyone else) could see her waistband!!!

This has become a huge issue in the church as a whole and I think most pastors do not know how to address it either.

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Posted by Anonymous

Hi Kerry :)

I will join you in praying. I know it's a sensitive matter, and you are right to be concerned. Cast your concerns on the Lord. He will go before you - don't underestimate the power of prayer! :)

Love you ~ Paige

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Posted by PosterGirl

So been there, done that with having a problem with immodest dress at church. My advice is what it sounds like you're already doing- Pray, pray, pray. I want God's leading in how I handle this, not my own will taking over and making a mess of things. There is an article along these lines in Teach Magazine this past issue about something along these lines.
Just let God show you the right time and what the right actions are. He knows the inner workings of her heart and all the others who see her. Don't move without His leading.

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