I should really entitle this, "What's your motivation?"

There is a big difference between living a life in fear motivation and living it in love motivation.  First some examples, then I'll expound - some things are better explained through object lessons.

Two men go out and get a job.  Both find out later that it's not the job they thought they were getting.  One is afraid he can't get a job that pays more, so "valiantly" continues to put his time in.  The other loves what he does, just not this particular setting.  So he continues to seek for better employment.  Think he'll find it?

 One more: Two families are homeschooling in the same state with the same regulations, using the same methods of teaching.  Both are love motivated in that they love their children enough to One is fear motivated.  She worries that she isn't meeting the criteria of the state, so she stresses and double checks herself with everything she does.  The other is love motivated.  She loves learning herself and wants to pass that off to their children.   She realizes that in order to continue to do what she does she must comply with state regulations, so she keeps records and continually brings about subjects that must be taught, using inspiration and setting an example by doing the work herself.  Who's children do you think are getting a love of learning?

This sort of fear vs. love motivation colors everything we do.  I come from a long line of fear motivated family.  I have identified at least four generations of this cycle - me being the fourth.  I'll have to call Mom and ask her about her great grandparents and find out what she knows.  Want to know how this works for my family?  Every single one of us girls (there are four of us) has had panick attacks.  We all live our lives from one crisis to the next.  We are always on the go - sometimes that's manifest in moving alot (me) and sometimes that's traveling, and for some it's living in your car (hi Mom - I get you now!).  We also live in scarcity - fear of not having enough. 

How do we overcome this?  By being aware, and when it shows up, conciously choosing differently, teaching our brains to think differently, and eventually, it will become the new program.  I'm also doing some energy work and those sorts of things that you do for generational problems, but my point is, you don't have to throw your hands in the air and give up.  Yes, one CAN change their programs.  Just take one day at a time.

For instance, we have been needing to sell our van for TWO YEARS.  We have to take 2 cars whenever we travel as a family.  So I've been wanting to sell the van because I am in FEAR of another car note, and I am in FEAR of driving around without kids in seatbelts.  When I realized this, I came to realize that I haven't been very motivated to get the van sold because I have yet to fall IN LOVE with a surburban - in fact, my attitude has been "any one will do".  So now I need to shop around and find a suburban that I really fall in love with.  Get us motivated, and sell the van.  And we can do it too - we've done it before.

Another case in point - At the TJed forum we attended Sat. a woman was talking about how she reconnected with her son.  They would fight and gripe at one another because she tried to force him to talk to her - she was FEAR motivated.  Finally she stopped and took a good look at herself, and realized what she was doing.  She paid attention for a week to things that he liked to do, and then got into those things herself because HE loved them - at this point she had moved into LOVE motivation.  She loved him, so she came to the place of learning about HIM.  In doing so the communication doorway was "magically" opened and Ta-da!  Now things are flowing much better between them.

So the next time you feel frustrated, angry, depressed, etc., ask yourself "What's my motivation?"  Start quizzing yourself and be really honest.  You'll get to the bottom of it, and then turn it around to start being LOVE motivated.  You'll see your attitude to a complete 180.

And I submit this is a part of that "secure not stressed" key of the DeMille's.  Think about it.

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Thank you