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Aug. 21, 2008 - Discussions with a Purpose~ Dating vs. Courting

This is a little late for the Discussions with a Purpose discussion, but I thought I would still share what I thought, here. Check the blog out if you want to see this week's discussion.

Dating vs. Courting

       When deciding what is a more Christ- centered way of romance, we must first know what the words mean. I am not against either. But first let me explain.

       I have heard about and read of couples that say they 'dated', yet when they described what they went through, how their dates went, and who was involved...it sounds like courting, and then when some couples say they are courting, and yet the way they describe their romance is almost embarassing. So I believe you can call it one thing, and behave completely different...as if you use the word 'courting' and whatever you do is okay.

    However, most dating, in the secular world, involves one girl and one guy. No advisors, mentors, or parents. No one is to mess up their chance for romance, and yet the maturity level is completely exhausting because they are not even able to handle some of the situations that they get into.

    On the other hand, courting, is where the couple is advised, watched, and guided by people who have experience and are overjoyed at the path where the two love birds are headed, and are able to give direction from the heart and also find faults which might come up later in life.

     Why the results of a true courtship are better than a solitude dating:

                   ~Those who are advisers and mentors in your courtship process can see traits, both good and bad, that you were not able to see in your relationship...in a one on one relationship...one might overlook a trait that is not desirable, but when with others are involved, the flaws and faults that can be corrected can

             ~ Having relations and mentors, they can keep you firm in your decisions of physical contact, hours, time spent together, and whatever your convictions will be before you marry. One on one can secretly deteriorate your convictions slowly and surely.

             ~as Joshua Harris states in 'Boy Meets Girl' ~"Our problem today is that we've allowed the importance of privacy and personal choice to cause us to neglect what the Bible teaches us about our need for fellow Christians in the local church."

             ~Courtship can also show us reality. When we date we make believe that everything will be perfect, "Just the two of us, together on dates, we both know our strengths and weaknesses and such." But when two people are to prepare for the future...that means more than seeing if you can hold your temper, and balance a checkbook, but it also means that you two can raise children together, keep convictions, maintain maturity in difficult situations, and apply themselves to the Word.

             ~With courting, pleasure is not the main reason. Of course one wants to be happy with their future spouse, but the first thought in Christian courting is how to please God with their marriage.

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