UPDATE: I sank to my knees in prayer and asked our dear Father for guidance. Then, called my dad and mom to see how they were doing today. Mom says that there is nothing wrong with the broken down loveseat that she lives on. She wants DH to feel better. I asked dad to think about getting a new one with their economic stimulas refund check and he said that he would. Then, I told DH to rest...that he was doing nothing constructive this weekend, just to nurture his body.
I went grocery shopping, feeling better about mom & dad and glad that DH can stay at home. PTL!
My DH and I have the weekend off from our bakery. Since we stopped taking wedding cake orders, our Saturdays are becoming a day off. The bakery is open today but is more manageable without the added stress that wedding cakes bring. He is so tired (me too). The economy is hitting our business hard, as ingredient costs soar and customers are holding onto their dollars. It's a HUGE worry. It seems that donuts and cake are not as popular as they once were.
I am not sure if we are going to visit Mom & Dad this weekend. I was with them 3 days so far, trying to help them get back into a good routine at home. My mother is resisting home healthcare and I seem to be the "heavy." The nurse was out to assess mom on Weds. and mom told her "fibs" about her health situation. I am sure that the nurse saw through them to the truth. Mom needs some of His Grace to shine on her BIG TIME.
I ordered a wheelchair from Medicare for mom. The one she is using is over twenty years old and heavy - I cannot lift it to put it in the trunk of their car. My dad struggles with it. Mom will not even want to use the new one. This may become another battle of the wills. She can only have one ambulatory aid from Medicare every 5 years, so I opted for the wheelchair instead of the "4-wheeler" walker that I promised her. Right now she is using a like new walker borrowed from our friend. But, she wants to walk without any aids and without physical therapy or a nurse visiting her twice a week. Prayer is needed.
Mom sleeps and lives on a loveseat in their living room that has to be at least 15 years old. It has broken into due the the constant use. My DH said that he could fix it but it is so old...my DH, in his exhausted state, wishes that he could stay home in his chair and "veg out." I wish my dad would see that spending a few hundred dollars to purchase a new one for mom is a good idea.
My dad does not like to spend money. He is a saver from way back, survival of the 1930's Depression. I want to suggest that since he is getting "free" money from the government's economic stimulas fund he could buy new sofa and loveseat. I have no idea if he would do this but my DH would be thrilled.
I have been stepping on my mom and dad toes since she fell last month, butting into their lives BIG time. I feel like a fly stuck in honey around them. I see their needs so clearly...but, do they? Now, that's the question of the day! Dad said that I could take care of their bills, write the checks but that he would sign them. So. I asked that the mail be put in one central location so that I could find the bills. Mom lost their water bill aleady and she was only home two days! Dad now has a basket in their laundry room devoted to the mail, if he only remembers...
I should be at work helping my DH with the battles that he faces on a daily basis trying to figure out how to help stabilize our business, which is on a rocky course instead of worrying about and helping mom and dad. I want to visit them twice a week and spend the rest of the week at work but I am torn between two needs. And, then there are personal needs that are not being met. Right now, no time to think about us, about him, about me. If only...(prayer is needed BIG Time!) 
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