Have any of you sweet ladies who have elderly grandparents (or parents, if your my age) had to tell them that all of their possessions are gone, that nothing remains in their home? Or, listened to your parents while they told you about letting them know? How did it go? Were they told before or after? These are hard questions that are eating at me.
My sister was asked by dad where his truck and car were and she told him that they were safer at her home than staying at their home, not the real truth that they now belong to her. He was wondering about the machinery and tools that used to be in his garage too.They know that their clothes are at my home and have been told that the house will be put on the market soon, but we have not told them of the weekends spent with their grandchildren dejunking. This week, they forgot about the house being ready for maket, and the idea of the nursing home being their new home hasn't quite gelled.
My sister now says that we did everything wrong, that we didn't let tell them about our dejunking their house before we started. My problem is that she pushed to get rid of everything fast in early spring, while I kept dragging my feet. Now its WE were wrong. She wants to take them to a family reunion in July and is worried about confronting "the ELEPHANT in the car," or their request to stop by their house that day. My DH said that he would go with me to show the house to dad, but we would need to tell him first. So, now I need to "man up" and tell them before the car trip, right? Call me chicken but I don't want to tell them by myself.
After visiting with them yesterday, I am stumped on what to say. Would it do any good to tell them? My mom is suffering with cellulitis and is in bed with her legs elevated, and isn't asking about going home, while dad is acting like a caged lion. He wants to see his house, remembering it with all of his worldly possessions intact, not disbanded as it sits in its current state. He told me yesterday that he thought he would have to hop on a bicylce and ride there. Help! I could use some advice from those of you who have been down this path, or have tales from your parents.
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